posted November 06, 2010 12:38 PM            

But what is that makes you "bad"?

Have you ever considered helping / assisting other people?
I am talking about practical "jobs", like helping out at a retirement centre, or giving assistance to disabled persons, like just spending time with them, helping them make their life more colourful?

You know bad people donīt do things like that.

What I am trying to say is that sometimes analysing will push you into a circle of thoughts, that you can`t escape, and it will not lead to the desired result.
Sometimes you jsut have to go out into the world and DO something good. For other people.

You will feel how much this will enrich you, too.

I feel right now you are just stuck emotionally; and getting out, shifting the focus onto other things / people, might help you to shift your perception of you, too.

Oh and just repeat to yourself: I deserve to be happy.

Again and again. For days. Weeks. MOnths, Years if necessary.

At one point it will eradicate what you mother said to you, and you will start to believe it.

But you have to put GOOD energy / thoughts against the negativity you experienced.

posted November 06, 2010 12:42 PM            

I was pressing onto a spot on my arm, a blue spot, and was twisting my face. My mum asked me what that grimace was about.
I said: "If I press that area there, it hurts."
My Mom just said: "Then donīt press it."

posted November 06, 2010 12:45 PM            

I wish you well, Ami, I really hope you are finding what you are searching for.

Farewell.

posted November 06, 2010 12:46 PM            

They focus on positive things, people, thoughts and so on.

Learn from this strong people. There is an utopia to think there will be no crises and traumas in the life. Everybody be or will be drabbed.

posted November 06, 2010 12:55 PM            

This is for people whose lives do NOT work.They have SOME issue of pain which is disrupting their life such as those I mentioned.

posted November 06, 2010 01:01 PM              

I salute you. Truly, you made a lot of truth in your post. I am one of those children that you speak of and now l try to assist others whom see a mountain to climb by explaining that it's not that bad!
I survived horrors. I would have loved a life of a parent just putting me down and nothing else - gosh, how easy that would have been on me instead of the hand l dealt myself.
I don't complain though because l am not ruled by my past. I decided a long time ago to not let anything negative continue to be effectual upon me and BOOM, l unlock everything in one instant and it disappeared. This is after years of constructive work on myself!!

posted November 06, 2010 01:09 PM            

quote:

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just remembered one incident with my mom.
I was pressing onto a spot on my arm, a blue spot, and was twisting my face. My mum asked me what that grimace was about.
I said: "If I press that area there, it hurts."
My Mom just said: "Then donīt press it."

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(Reading and discussing this completely metaphorically, of course.)

Maybe your mother's advice was irrelevent. The sore, blue spot on the child's arm is there for a reason. It could be that she got a little bump, and it can be left alone, but:

-excess bruising might be a sign there's a problem with the child's nutrition that needs to be addressed by a medical consultation/change of diet

-the bruise could be an indication that someone else has physically harmed the child.

Sometimes our (real and metaphorical) bruises and wounds just need to be left alone to heal over time. But sometimes a wound, bruise or mark is there as a screaming signal from your (physical, psychic, or emotional) body to your conscious mind, telling you there's a problem that must be addressed.

If a child was being physically abused or was ill, it would be negligent of the parent to ignore the signs. "Then don't press it" is NOT always a healthy response. Sometimes a healthy response is:
"How did you get that bruise? Do you have others?" And if the bruise might be a sign of illness, abuse, or another ONGOING problem--then time to get help.

If someone is struggling with the aftermath of trauma--for example, an adult is dealing with the aftereffects of her mother abusing her--sometimes the "bruises" are there because the person needs to realize that she is still in danger, still involved with the abuser or another abuser, in a toxic situation she needs to take her adult self out of...

posted November 06, 2010 01:18 PM            

Sometimes our (real and metaphorical) bruises and wounds just need to be left alone to heal over time. But sometimes a wound, bruise or mark is there as a screaming signal from your (physical, psychic, or emotional) body to your conscious mind, telling you there's a problem that must be addressed.

If a child was being physically abused or was ill, it would be negligent of the parent to ignore the signs. "Then don't press it" is NOT always a healthy response. Sometimes a healthy response is:
"How did you get that bruise? Do you have others?" And if the bruise might be a sign of illness, abuse, or another ONGOING problem--then time to get help.

I agree with what you said, Lucia. Expanding on that idea are the numerous studies that show trauma and abuse cause significant brain damage.

Trauma has long lasting effects, especially when started in childhood.

posted November 06, 2010 01:47 PM            

Have you ever thought that it may not happen, reaching your complete goal of healing?

Have you ever considered that, right now, with all the thoughts and pain that you're experiencing, might be that way and not change until the end of your life?

If that were to be true, in the future, that you would always feel incomplete and like you're carrying a painful burden, how would you live your life now? If this was as good as it gets?

posted November 06, 2010 02:51 PM            

I have very strong Neptune which may make it harder to see but Neptune is a blessing, too lol

This thread is about the WAY we perceive the world and ourselves, basically.

posted November 06, 2010 04:29 PM            

His material shows how to heal trauma so I KNOW I will get there .It may take a little time but I know I will,now.'

If I could not, I would use my life to help people ,somehow, if only to NOT do what I did ,perhaps.