posted November 12, 2010 08:03 AM            

I want to think about it and be back.

I don't want to give a flippant answer cuz it is a deep issue with me ( and painful one, too)

posted November 12, 2010 01:51 PM            

looks and how much food i weigh and i am constantly on diet lol that never work or last.

im less more insecure now then before. but since im havent ben depressed anymore all the insecurities just have gone away some how.

posted November 12, 2010 03:57 PM            

QUESTION!! since gemini people are usually "dual" people, so to say, would it be better for 2 gemini people to be together? or is that too much of a one night stand kind of thing?

posted November 12, 2010 04:35 PM            

i dont interrupt people, but i do have that slight anxiety of what people think of me based on the sorts of things i say....i also talk slightly illegibally and cant always understand someone when they dont talk very legibally because i have very poor ears...i nearly went deaf as a toddler so i tend to talk the way i hear words

posted November 12, 2010 04:43 PM            

Now, it may have come with age, but I have grown out of being insecure about my appearance ( I think I'm beautiful in a non-vain way lol, I accept my body after two kids too), Ive also grown out of worrying about what people think of me for standing up for myself... that would have made me feel very insecure even just 12 months ago.

Quinnie,
I find that is because we are sensitive and people do judge what you are saying/doing all the time, and although it's a true reality, we totally have to find ways of handling it and be sure of ourselves in a self respecting way- At least that was some inner dialogue that helped me in the past few years.
I still have some social anxiety but it's usually when more than two people are listening to me.

posted November 12, 2010 04:59 PM            

After having my two children I felt like I could take on the world! Absolutely nothing could get at me! Since then I began studying counselling in class and it's all very self-reflective so I HAVE to think about these things. I found it really difficult when I first brought my eldest to school and now my youngest has started but I learned so much from just breathing and relaxing and realising that everyone has hang ups.

The Public Speaking thing is a nightmare! They are all things to face though...
I tried to get over my social anxiety by taking a job as a street fundraiser. I had to talk to all kinds of people. I loved it But mostly because I knew what was expected of me and what I needed to say... it was almost scripted... it's when it's spontaneous conversation that I freak out.

But yes I think we are sensitives alright Sunchild

posted November 12, 2010 08:38 PM            

However, I was trying to think of the ROOT. What is at the root of this?

I think it is that you don't feel a solid sense of self.

Everything is horribly scary without that.
The earth moves under your feet. You want to hide cuz earthquakes exist all the time from your terrible insecurity.

Then, I started to think about ALL emotional problems.

I think they are ALL are rooted in not feeling a solid sense of self.
I really, really do

posted November 12, 2010 09:47 PM            

Life is so hard to grasp, to figure out WHAT is going on, why, how.

Why does it hurt so much would be the main question?

I try to answer it ,spiritually.
I think about Heaven .
It won't be so bad if God has everything planned.
Look how he plans the trees, the oceans, all of it, so precisely.
Even the planets move with exquisite precision.
What is this excursion we have here?
Can anyone at all make sense of it?
Is it one disapointment after another? One tear after another.
Many you don't show.
It doesn't look right.

Inside, are we all same?
We don't KNOW
We don't know much of anything.

Maybe, life is all a surrender, little by little.
You never want to.
You,only ,do so when the doors close,one after another and there is only a window and it leads up.

You go up cuz you have no place else to go.