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Topic: The Older Dating Younger, Big Deal or Not?
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PlutoSquared Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: May 2013
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posted November 20, 2010 04:39 PM
This is a very popular trend in our society. Older, secure women who are finding love with younger men...And, the long seen trend with men, dating younger women... Are these things really BIG deals? Or, are they just NEW ideas that seem to ruffle feathers for no good reason? IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 32954 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 20, 2010 04:46 PM
Older men seems to be more commonly accepted than the reverse, but it really depends on the subculture. For example, in Hollywood and in wealthy social circles it's almost the norm. This is probably due to the fact that women mature faster than men (mentally and emotionally), and biologically, a woman has a relatively small window of fertility, where a man can birth children at any adult age. But there is an emerging trend in Hollywood of "cougars," and society is following that lead, though it's probably more frowned upon than an older guy. There is some merit to the older woman concept, in that a woman is at her sexual peak in her 30s, and as such, a younger man might be more prone to satisfy her (in theory). Ultimately, if both are of adult age, it's no one's business but theirs. If two people are happy with one another, then age, race, religion, or even gender (for those so inclined) shouldn't matter. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48144 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted November 20, 2010 05:50 PM
If you find someone you love with your heart. If he loves you with his heart, nothing matters, no external differences. ------------------ Pluto conjunct Dejanira, Girlfriend. IP: Logged |
PlutoSquared Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: May 2013
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posted November 20, 2010 06:27 PM
I'm actually relieved and feel reassured by women dating younger men. I also like the current trends of older women not being ashamed of their age, but walking around like "hot topics"... why should women hide themselves away after 30, 40, 50, 60 and beyond?IP: Logged |
ScorpioSMR Knowflake Posts: 220 From: Keaau, Hawaii Registered: Jul 2010
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posted November 20, 2010 08:06 PM
I just turned 29. I am female..My female dates and spouses usually range between the ages of 45 and 65. Scorpio ------------------ My Chart IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 5664 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 20, 2010 09:11 PM
My sister's boyfriend/fiance is twenty-three years older than she is, and they seem to be well matched. I have no complaints if she has no complaints.BUT, I have always been disgusted by men who are older, always going for girls between the supposedly preferred ages of eighteen and twenty-five. Those guys who pick up drunk college girls, when there's a beautiful lady their own age, in the same area. When it's their M.O. and think that women have a shelf life? Yeah, I think they are pigs. I didn't want them near me when I was younger, and I'm at an age (35) when I don't appreciate the idea that I might be past it - I am sensitive about that at the moment, and this comes from someone who loved turning thirty. The positive side is that the a$$holes generally weed themselves out for me, in that way. If they can't appreciate me now, then they wouldn't have truly appreciated me at twenty-five. IP: Logged |
PlutoSquared Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: May 2013
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posted November 20, 2010 09:13 PM
Teasel,Yes. There are pigs out there who want the younger, easy women. But, there are ALSO men who meet younger women with whom they can RELATE to... As long as you CAN make the distinction, in my opinion, you're well-balanced and correct in having your reservations. IP: Logged |
NickiG Knowflake Posts: 5817 From: Pluto, next to Ami Ann Registered: Jul 2010
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posted November 20, 2010 09:14 PM
before i began to study astrology so much, because of this site, i had mixed feelings about the way younger and way older, but i began to realize that the stars do funny things------------------ the better the chase, the better the reward IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 32954 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 20, 2010 09:24 PM
In general, one might rationally infer if there's a 10-year difference, the couple might not have as much to relate to with one another, but there are always exceptions. Sleeping with a drunk girl is actually rape, no matter what the age. But that's for the two of them to decide. Hating on someone OF AGE for dating someone older (or vice versa) isn't any better than hating on someone for dating outside their race or same sex--just because you "feel" for whatever reason it isn't right. Grow up! IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 5664 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 20, 2010 09:26 PM
Grow up?I was talking about men who *only* go for the youngest women. That's my opinion; something I'm entitled to. Was I talking about you? Nope. If a man thinks that women have a shelf life when it comes to their attractiveness, but they don't, I think they're the ones who need to grow up. IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 5664 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 20, 2010 09:28 PM
Thank you PlutoSquared. You interpreted my post correctly.IP: Logged |
PlutoSquared Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: May 2013
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posted November 20, 2010 09:47 PM
Teasel,Try not to take it personally... he's having an angry mob of vindictive women attacking him right now, and probably can't tell the differences (in the middle of it) in what you're saying vs. what they are... IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 32954 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 20, 2010 10:39 PM
It wasn't directed at you, Teasel. I actually agree with your post. But if I didn't agree, it wouldn't elicit a bad response from me, because you articulated it respectfully. But no, that wasn't directed at you...at all IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 32954 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 20, 2010 10:41 PM
The part about alcohol was in reference to your post. So, I can see how you might think the rest was. My apologies.IP: Logged |
LEXX Knowflake Posts: 9743 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 20, 2010 10:41 PM
ABSOLUTELY NO BIG DEAL! It all depends on the love and or dynamics betwixt the two! As long as they are consenting adults! No one else should give a damn! Man older, or woman....... no difference!------------------ Everyone is a teacher... Everyone is a student... Learning is eternal...LEXX ~Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known. ~Carl Sagan }><}}(*>♥<*){{><{ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ IP: Logged |
NickiG Knowflake Posts: 5817 From: Pluto, next to Ami Ann Registered: Jul 2010
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posted November 20, 2010 10:44 PM
LOLs, lexi i love your old style english that you use..."betwixt" HAHA, i love it------------------ the better the chase, the better the reward IP: Logged |
LEXX Knowflake Posts: 9743 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 20, 2010 11:15 PM
NickiG Prithee dear lady, mayest I inquireth of thee, why thou dost liketh archaisms? IP: Logged |
NickiG Knowflake Posts: 5817 From: Pluto, next to Ami Ann Registered: Jul 2010
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posted November 20, 2010 11:16 PM
cuz we dont see that kind of language nowadays...and it reminds me a little of Picard on STNG------------------ the better the chase, the better the reward IP: Logged |
LEXX Knowflake Posts: 9743 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 20, 2010 11:24 PM
NickiG Indeed! Most graciously do I taketh thy flattery of the words I doth writeth! Salutations to Picard!IP: Logged |
NickiG Knowflake Posts: 5817 From: Pluto, next to Ami Ann Registered: Jul 2010
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posted November 20, 2010 11:25 PM
lol all i can say is i'm glad i understand it...i need to stop reading so dam much------------------ the better the chase, the better the reward IP: Logged |
PlutoSquared Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: May 2013
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posted November 20, 2010 11:32 PM
1.) Demi Moore & Ashton Kutcher: 15 years age difference...Demi is 47, Ashton is 32... That wicked Demi!!! 2.) Michael Douglass & Catherine Zeta-Jones: 25 years age difference... Michael at 56 married Catherine, 31 3.) Elizabeth Taylor & Larry Forentsky: 20 years age difference 4.) Groucho Marx & Eden Hartford: 40 years age difference... They were married for 15 years, before seperating. Remained good friends until his death. 5.) Tom Cruise & Katie Holmes (26): age difference 16 years IP: Logged |
WinkAway Knowflake Posts: 1577 From: here, there & everywhere Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 20, 2010 11:33 PM
Star Trek...I must have watched episode way back in way back land at least 3 times each lol. Loved Data Anyway my mom and step dad are 10 yrs apart. Mom is 62 and Dad is 52. My 2nd ex and I are 13 yrs apart. I am 40 and he is 52. If you figured it out my step dad & ex are the same age lol. While my mom and step dad are away right now celebrating their 30th anniversary, my ex and I divorced 5 yrs ago. And not due to age diffference btw. Its hard as hell out there to find someone who truely makes you happy. Age is just a number peeps. IP: Logged |
LEXX Knowflake Posts: 9743 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 20, 2010 11:34 PM
NickiG Indeed more beautious than common speach doth such beeist. LOL! as to age differences... there has been for me up to some 50 in the dating arena. Age is just a number! And whilst not dating but a bit intimate... some were betwixt 70 and 90 years. IP: Logged |
PlutoSquared Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: May 2013
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posted November 20, 2010 11:40 PM
When I'm in my 60, 70, 80, 90's you'd better bet, if a young twenty-something wants a little of my lovin'... I'll smack him with it! IP: Logged |
PlutoSquared Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: May 2013
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posted November 20, 2010 11:40 PM
Haha. I crack myself up. IP: Logged |