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Topic: Steps to overcome abuse
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PlutoSquared
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From: Mars
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted December 14, 2010 05:52 PM
  
One thing I heard Bears, is that if you were ever targeted by a sociopath, it was because you were probably strong, beautiful, successful, and had lots of potential - all the things that sociopaths like to prey on! Hahaha.Just a positive angle to think about.  IP: Logged |
BearsArcher
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From: Arizona with Bear the Leo
Registered: Apr 2010
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posted December 14, 2010 06:40 PM
Well then Pluto.. you and I have got to be the most awesome babes around 
BTW.. his family did used to say I was the prettiest woman he had ever dated and much smarter than he was. Hmmm...
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Randall
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From: The Goober Galaxy
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 14, 2010 06:57 PM
I've attracted my share of sociopaths, so I guess I should take that as a compliment.  ------------------
"Everything I eat has been proved by some doctor or other to be a deadly poison, and everything I don't eat has been proved to be indispensable for life. But I go marching on."--George Bernard Shaw IP: Logged |
BearsArcher
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From: Arizona with Bear the Leo
Registered: Apr 2010
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posted December 14, 2010 07:01 PM
Randall, the "peeps that SP's love" card is on the way IP: Logged |
PlutoSquared
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From: Mars
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted December 14, 2010 07:04 PM
Cheers, to the 3 of us!IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 14, 2010 07:31 PM
How long did it take people to figure out these people were sociopaths?------------------
The most beautiful things in the world can't be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.
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PlutoSquared
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From: Mars
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posted December 14, 2010 11:56 PM
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charmainec
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From: Venus next to Randall
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 15, 2010 02:50 AM
PS will make a mental note of that  ------------------
quote:
Being loved by all is little fun
Unless you're also loved by one.
~Robert Brault
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 15, 2010 07:04 AM
I have a question for anyone who has dealt with sociopath long enough to answer,if you care to.
I knew 2 sociopaths for about a weeks time,only.
I know they are super charming and SUPER seductive.
You feel you met the love of your life and your "one and only", the princess or the prince.
Do you agree with me there?------------------
The most beautiful things in the world can't be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted December 15, 2010 07:08 AM
OK,my main question is this.Prolly they were super seductive,as I said.
Then, when you finally went to bed with them,were they like ROBOTS?
By this, I mean did they become like an autonaman ,cold and almost snake/lizard like during sex?
Did it feel creepy like you were having sex with an "alien" i.e. the human part felt void.
PS I used the words lizard and snake to get across the cold feel of the person. This was my MAIN question.
Did it FEEL cold and,hence, creepy?
Thanks for any answers!! ------------------
The most beautiful things in the world can't be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.
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LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 15, 2010 08:36 AM
charmainec 
Thank you for starting this thread! 
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Everyone is a teacher...
Everyone is a student...
Learning is eternal...LEXX
~Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known. ~Carl Sagan
~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine. ~Nikola Tesla"
~Love is the key to all that is good in life!
~But firstly, love thyself!
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charmainec
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From: Venus next to Randall
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 15, 2010 08:59 AM
Lexx ------------------
quote:
Being loved by all is little fun
Unless you're also loved by one.
~Robert Brault
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LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 15, 2010 09:08 AM
charmainec
By the way......
Love your signature line! IP: Logged |
charmainec
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From: Venus next to Randall
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 15, 2010 09:17 AM
Lexx ------------------
quote:
Being loved by all is little fun
Unless you're also loved by one.
~Robert Brault
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PlutoSquared
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From: Mars
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted December 15, 2010 10:22 AM
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BearsArcher
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From: Arizona with Bear the Leo
Registered: Apr 2010
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posted December 15, 2010 10:40 AM
You hit on a lot of great points PS. Their act is very insidious and practiced. I fell into the trap and then soon noticed that there were things that were off. Sometimes it comes naturally to them but most often they have a way of studying people that allows them to mimic what the other person wants. But not so blatant as a "oh me too!!! I really like jelly bellies too.. let's be friends". It is scary, especially when they find out that you are on to them and at first they try everything to keep the charade going and then they slowly unravel. Total emotional roller coaster.
One day we'll have to chat offline, especially since most people have never met a true sociopath (or antisocial personality disorder / Narcissist).
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 15, 2010 10:47 AM
I have known 2 ,I think.
They act Sooooo seductive.
I guess, bottom line,sex feels creepy, too, as everything else, does.------------------
The most beautiful things in the world can't be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.
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PlutoSquared
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From: Mars
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted December 15, 2010 10:51 AM
Bears,I think the statistics are something like 1 in 20? Or, like 1 - 3% of the population. It doesn't matter, but yes, it was an unfortunate experience that really was an emotional rollercoaster ride. Thank goodness for the information available on the internet, because I was able to research symptoms, and after looking and looking, found what I needed to piece together my life, after I'd made a run for it... Like a bat outta hell 2,000 miles across the U.S. hahaha Anyways, it's a scary subject and I feel bad for even describing it here or to friends because there's nothing pleasant about it. But, I think it's important that people are aware  IP: Logged |
AbsintheDragonfly
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From: Gaia
Registered: Apr 2010
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posted December 15, 2010 10:58 AM
Blessings to all you peeps who have gotten away.Charm, Thanks for putting this up for all to read.
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BearsArcher
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From: Arizona with Bear the Leo
Registered: Apr 2010
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posted December 15, 2010 11:03 AM
LOL... I did the same thing PS. I had already secured a new place to live (without his knowledge) and I left one morning with my car packed and the cats ready to go. I had a wonderful circle of friends that looked out for him in the small town where I moved to (and it helped that my new place was up 58 concrete stairs, built into a mountain - like my own fortress). I was friends with his 1SG's wife and made sure that he was working when I went back to pick up my stuff with the moving van, however that didn't work out as well as I wanted but he could do nothing because others were around. He finally got transferred out of state and kept calling me for months. In fact, even after almost a year he started having his mail sent to my new house as a way to 1) keep in my life and 2) let me know he knew where I lived. However, Bear outranked him and put an end to all of that. In the end, his world shattered and he lost his career over his borderline criminal behavior and deviance. I also agree about the information that is out there helping, however, I felt as though I should have known with the studying I had done on criminal behavior (and my family being in law enforcement) and yet, they find a way in. At least it taught me what to look for in the future (this was back in 2004 / 2005) and poor Bear was very patient with me as I had to take forever to trust (plus my millions of questions). IP: Logged |
BearsArcher
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From: Arizona with Bear the Leo
Registered: Apr 2010
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posted December 15, 2010 11:08 AM
True that Abs!!I will say this though. I am back in the town where it all happened. Lots of reminders which still plays with my head a bit. I'm just happy I have Bear in my life and the other ahole is living a few states away. IP: Logged |
ghanima81
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From: Maine
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 15, 2010 11:37 AM
I honestly don't know what to say right now.. All of this is so familiar to me. What you said, PS. That is my life with my ex/baby's father.  I'm definately trying not to burst into tears at work right now. It makes so much sense... IP: Logged |
BearsArcher
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From: Arizona with Bear the Leo
Registered: Apr 2010
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posted December 15, 2010 11:53 AM
I'm sorry ghani. You have gone through heck and back. Please hang in there. We're here for you. IP: Logged |
PlutoSquared
Knowflake Posts: 4500
From: Mars
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted December 15, 2010 12:39 PM
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PlutoSquared
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From: Mars
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted December 15, 2010 12:42 PM
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Originally posted by ghanima81:
I honestly don't know what to say right now.. All of this is so familiar to me. What you said, PS. That is my life with my ex/baby's father. I'm definately trying not to burst into tears at work right now. It makes so much sense...
I'm sorry Ghanima81. But, just know that you're not alone, you're part of a group of people you may or may not know, that are going through this, too. One day, maybe your experiences will help someone else avoid the same thing. You never know IP: Logged |
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