posted November 12, 2011 05:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Mblake81:
But to answer your question,

An assertive woman who has already fought her big battles, she has kicked, and has been kicked in return and thus knows respect.

I honestly cannot bear child women with zero respect and little knowledge of how the world works.

I start having fantasies of crushing their skulls when I am around it. I do my best to keep away from it. ( My head will begin to ache, It is not exactly a headache either.)

The need to reign in and gain mastery over passionate urges while resisting the temptation to crush them altogether. Giving instincts expression, but not allowing those instincts to run wild, is the goal.

I like a women who has had her black eyes in life (metaphor), Normally they don't pick at me and I can relax.

Just being honest.

LOL, some charlie sheen up in here.

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I hear you on what you've said, head crushing fantasies included.

I have an 8th house Mars at 0Aries and a ton of Pluto in the chart. I will defend the weak but I will never respect them. I don't care if life has kicked you in the family jewels so long as you kicked back. I only respect an equal, someone who has fought, scratched, clawed, bit their way to redemption. Neediness and weakness is a huge turn OFF.

posted December 18, 2011 08:44 AM            

I guess i like a guy who knows what he is doing, have concrete plans n solutions in life. I just want to do anything he wants to try/experiment sexually...

posted December 22, 2011 03:47 PM            

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How important is confidence in a man...on a scale of 1 to 100? Do you prefer a strong dominant man in the bedroom (or one that can also change it up), or do you like a submissive man? In that same regard, do you like communication in the bedroom, or do you prefer a guy who is quiet? Do you like being directed and told what to do? And lastly, how do you feel about dirty talk? Do share! But keep it clean, ladies.

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I say 89% important is confidence in a partner. I think most people would want someone who is sure of him/herself for the most part and knows exactly what he/she wants. That person should have a certain amount of self-love in order for those around them to respect that person. It's important to be proud of who you are and what you're entirely capable of, as well as knowing your limitations as a human being.

I love dominant males! I like being spontaneous and expressing yourself in bed, just not too much conversation while you're doing it. Just say what you like and don't like, what you want to do and stuff like that. I also like it playful as well, I would have to be very comfortable with that person though and feel totally open with them. I love when someone tells me exactly what they want and directs me what to do. I dislike guys who are indirect and have a certain thought about what they'd like, but won't tell me. OR they wait until I offer it (out of intuition) and they're like "only if you want to..." That sucks because I can't always read your mind.

Oh and I also noticed that the first time I had my "Experience," I was focusing more on the other person than myself, As in I wanted to cater more to them instead of focusing on how they could make me feel good, if that makes sense! I found that to be unusual. Because I didn't think I would have that attitude for my first time.

posted December 22, 2011 08:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
How important is confidence in a man...on a scale of 1 to 100? Do you prefer a strong dominant man in the bedroom (or one that can also change it up), or do you like a submissive man? In that same regard, do you like communication in the bedroom, or do you prefer a guy who is quiet? Do you like being directed and told what to do? And lastly, how do you feel about dirty talk? Do share! But keep it clean, ladies.

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First, I see a difference between being confident and being dominant. A person can be confident and yet be adaptable, even submissive (either in certain situations or most of the time) and a man can also be very domineering because he's so insecure and even fearful.

I generally like confidence, even if I have to nurture it a little. Yet even though I don't mind nurturing someone's confidence I can't stand clingy and constant need for attention and approval. Likewise, someone dominant had best not try micromanaging me and all my time. I need my space.

As for domination and submission, I am versatile on that, I can be either or neither. I find both fun. As a Libra I'm actually naturally dominant (or is that manipulative?) anyway, though of course I try not to be obvious about it. But if I really like someone then their happiness is important to me so it's not like I'm selfishly dominant.

As a Libran, communication is a must. However, in the bedroom it's not necessary (but it's helpful). My main thing is I like to please (part of why I'm willing to play the aggressive seductress, the strict dominatrix, or be childishly submissive if I think that's what's desired). So I do appreciate being told what to do (at least beforehand), though I'd want any lover of mine to be open to suggestions and experimentation as well.

posted December 23, 2011 03:31 PM            

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How important is confidence in a man...on a scale of 1 to 100?

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Very... like above 80 and in some domains (like in bedroom) about 98%.
Confident is not arrogant. Quiet confidence is super attractive to me. The minute you need to scream it or prove it to anyone is no longer confidence in my books.

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Do you prefer a strong dominant man in the bedroom (or one that can also change it up), or do you like a submissive man?

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Blergh, with my Mars in the 1st I am completely turned off by submissive men.
He has to be a man. Period. A real man is dominant with no need for violence, insults etc.

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Well, a little bit of communication at the right time in the right manner can add to the fun! But if he's barking "out of tune", I will find a sock to put in his mouth (lol).

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Do you like being directed and told what to do?

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To a point and it depends. If he's confident the way I like it, which is pretty sexy, he can direct me all he wants, baby, I'm game.

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posted December 28, 2012 09:43 PM            

So I'd say about 50-70 is a good range. I am turned off by people who are cocky, brag, and feel like they have everything to prove. As some ladies have mentioned quiet confidence is the hottest.

posted December 29, 2012 01:30 AM            

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99% ~ long as it's not a front...

confidence and pride are irresistible traits for either sex to have imho
for the record however..... I would put confidence/pride AFTER ambition.... there is/can be nothing sexier than a man with a plan.... *saystheGoatSunBullMoonVirgoRiser*

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Do you prefer a strong dominant man in the bedroom (or one that can also change it up), or do you like a submissive man?

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I like them to be constantly aware of the mood.... for whatever that means...

But, I don't handle submissive men well... they bring out the worst in me. I end up feeling an irrational (I'm sure) sense of irritation and disappointment with these types.

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Do you like being directed and told what to do?

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The ssam as above.... by judging the mood... I don't like having my intelligence doubted, or being patronized, anywhere... but especially in the bedroom. However since the demanding partner is something I hold in high esteem.
I would prefer they be "in control" to a point... but yes... a mutual awareness of subtle changes is ideal.

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I'm not very good at it....