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Topic: Love Fades?
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PlutoSquared
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From: Mars
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posted March 08, 2011 12:50 PM
  
I have a sneaky suspicion that love fades for most relationships at a certain time; that any couple can/will get to the point of being bored with each other in the bedroom, irritated with each other, and at some point wishing for something new?What do you think? IP: Logged |
juniperb
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From: Blue Star Kachina
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 08, 2011 12:59 PM
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TxGirl
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posted March 08, 2011 01:06 PM
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Originally posted by PlutoSquared:
I have a sneaky suspicion that love fades for most relationships at a certain time; that any couple can/will get to the point of being bored with each other in the bedroom, irritated with each other, and at some point wishing for something new?What do you think?
I think love comes after all of the things you mentioned happened and people still make it work. The beginning is just the surface- that giddy excitement of thinking all is perfect. But love happens when you learn all those things and the good outweighs the bad and you stick around and choose to love them anyways. I don't think I'd ever get bored with one person in the bedroom, I have many fantasies and make more and nothing is better than having a strong emotional attachment and making love imo. Everyone gets irritated with anyone at any given time, it's like a friendship. Sometimes you can just be so angry and bothered, and a little break away from them and you come back because you value them and what you have with them and you choose to stay around. Wishing for someone new I do not know, I was married for 8 years, I don't think I wished for someone new as much as I wished for a different set of circumstance with him. My view may be very different from most I've only been with 2 men in my life, I'm loyal, and it takes a LONG time for me to be so attached. But, when it happens I'm there for life if they let me. Though, I have a tendency to break things off before they get too deep for me, I am still good friends with all of them and I do love them and wish them the best. I think if you and the other person want it to work and choose for it to be and keep yourselves out of stupid situations, it can work. In my opinion nothing great comes easy. It all takes work. And if you find someone who is worth all of that work, and you are worth it to them there can't be anything better. IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: The Goober Galaxy
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 08, 2011 01:07 PM
True Love never fades.------------------
"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
PlutoSquared
Moderator Posts: 4249
From: Mars
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted March 08, 2011 01:24 PM
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Originally posted by Randall:
True Love never fades.
Randall, ye old sappy dog. IP: Logged |
EverEvolvingSpirit
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From: A Place of Pure Love <3
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted March 08, 2011 02:35 PM
http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-Love-Can-Fade---The-Stages-of-A-Relationship&id=742267 Fortunately I didn't wear a mask in the beginning of my relationship. I think the the sooner a person is "themself" instead of wearing a pretty picture, the more real and genuine the love is because you know everything, including the things that drive you nuts and you learn to grow and compromise  IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 08, 2011 03:41 PM
Aphorism 120Sensuality often makes love grow too quickly, so that the root remains weak and is easy to pull out.
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~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Nikola Tesla
~There is no box.~H♥
~Balance is not letting anyone love you less than you love yourself.~Felipe
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX }><}}}(*>~ IP: Logged |
LEXX
Moderator Posts: 5988
From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
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posted March 08, 2011 03:43 PM
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Originally posted by Randall:
True Love never fades.
I agree!  IP: Logged |
LEXX
Moderator Posts: 5988
From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
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posted March 08, 2011 03:44 PM
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Originally posted by EverEvolvingSpirit:
http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-Love-Can-Fade---The-Stages-of-A-Relationship&id=742267 Fortunately I didn't wear a mask in the beginning of my relationship. I think the the sooner a person is "themself" instead of wearing a pretty picture, the more real and genuine the love is because you know everything, including the things that drive you nuts and you learn to grow and compromise
That is one of the prime keys!
Be yourself!
And want your SO to be themselves.
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EverEvolvingSpirit
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From: A Place of Pure Love <3
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted March 08, 2011 04:18 PM
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Originally posted by EverEvolvingSpirit:
http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-Love-Can-Fade---The-Stages-of-A-Relationship&id=742267 Fortunately I didn't wear a mask in the beginning of my relationship. I think the the sooner a person is "themself" instead of wearing a pretty picture, the more real and genuine the love is because you know everything, including the things that drive you nuts and you learn to grow and compromise
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Originally posted by LEXX:
That is one of the prime keys!
Be yourself!
And want your SO to be themselves.
This is why it's 8 months but feels like 8 years  but butterflies are still there and he still has the keen ability to make me lose my breath with his words IP: Logged |
charmainec
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From: on the other side of the rainbow
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posted March 16, 2011 08:25 AM
Love doesn't fade, people lose interest.That is why..if it's Love it Lasts. IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 16, 2011 09:55 AM
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Originally posted by charmainec:
Love doesn't fade, people lose interest.That is why..if it's Love it Lasts.
Love can last, but not necessarily the relationship.
It may end or change dramatically, like mates becoming just good friends;
if the love is real,
the love remains.
The love can even deepen but simply under new parameters;
as in no longer lovers/mates but still deeply caring good friends.
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Originally posted by TxGirl:
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Wishing for someone new I do not know, I was married for 8 years, I don't think I wished for someone new as much as I wished for a different set of circumstance with him............I think if you and the other person want it to work and choose for it to be and keep yourselves out of stupid situations, it can work. In my opinion nothing great comes easy. It all takes work. And if you find someone who is worth all of that work, and you are worth it to them there can't be anything better.
I excerpted your post to quote.
I agree!
However all the love with my ex#3 could not get us around the fact that he is gay.
We tried, for 13 years, and it worked for first few years, but the last several......
sigh.......
almost drove us both to suicide.
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~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Nikola Tesla
~There is no box.~H♥
~Balance is not letting anyone love you less than you love yourself.~Felipe
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX }><}}}(*>~IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: The Goober Galaxy
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 17, 2011 11:34 PM
I still believe in fairy tales.IP: Logged |
rajji
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posted March 18, 2011 12:45 AM
True love happens only once, the rest is just a part of life.
Even if you are not with them anymore and still concerned about their happiness and cherish their lovely memories.
True love is not being with someone because you think you can be happy with that person, but because without that person you know you can never be.
True love never fades. what happens is that you learn to move on and accept the other person as your first love with the realization that you will love again.
I will never again fall in love nor will my heart search for it ever again..im over it.The road to true love was never easy, I know I've hit all the bumps,
but now I'm standing strong saying, I love you, 'til the end of time.
Its a Jouney which takes a life time to complete. ~Quotes on Love of Life True love is not how you forgive, but how you forget, not what you see but what you feel, not how you listen but how you understand, and not how you let go but how you hold on. It's not who you are to the world, it's who you are to me. It's not how many times I say I love you... it's how much I really do. You may hold my hand for a while, but you hold my heart forever. True love is like a teardrop in a rainstorm; you're lucky enough to find it once, but you will never find it again.
I never knew what love was until I met you, then when distance pulled us apart, I found out what true love is.
Never leave the one you LOVE for the ONE you LIKE because the one you LIKE will one day LEAVE you for the one they LOVE!!
You will know that you love someone when you want him/her to be happy. Even if that means you're not a part of their happiness.
I'll never know if it is truly possible for me to stop thinking about you because I'll never try.
I have loved you all my life, it has just taken me this long to find you. destiny decides who you meet in your life but its your heart that decides who gets to stay in your life True love comes once in a lifetime ... open your eyes and your heart and see the miracle in front of you. to hear your voice, to see your eyes, to taste your lips, to feel your touch, to say i love you when our hearts collide, if i can't, i'll still love you just as much True love doesn't have a happy ending because true love doesn't end The heart knows when the search is over. The flame of our love will never die, for it burns through the stars for eternity. IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: The Goober Galaxy
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 30, 2011 11:50 PM
Everything is energy. Love is the highest form of energy. Love vibrates in the ethers forever. It is the stuff miracles are formed of.IP: Logged |
LEXX
Moderator Posts: 5988
From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 31, 2011 12:07 AM
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Originally posted by Randall:
I still believe in fairy tales.
Me too
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LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
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posted March 31, 2011 12:12 AM
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Originally posted by Randall:
Everything is energy. Love is the highest form of energy. Love vibrates in the ethers forever. It is the stuff miracles are formed of.
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~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Nikola Tesla
~There is no box.~H♥
~Balance is not letting anyone love you less than you love yourself.~Felipe
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX }><}}}(*>~ IP: Logged |
starfox
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From: London England
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted March 31, 2011 09:16 AM
Two years is usually around the point where my own loves have faded away.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted March 31, 2011 03:48 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Randall:
Everything is energy. Love is the highest form of energy. Love vibrates in the ethers forever. It is the stuff miracles are formed of.
So true.I needed to hear that today. ------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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lechien
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From: my 30 cubic square meter room with a rat!
Registered: May 2009
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posted March 31, 2011 05:18 PM
i read a while ago in a scientific news article, that the special "chemical" of love disappears in about 2 years. sorry for the lack of actual scientific terms, i'm not a science person and don't remember the article so well. IP: Logged |
lechien
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posted March 31, 2011 05:20 PM
totally didn't mean to dampen any feelings here. yes, true love is forever!!!  IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 31, 2011 06:03 PM
I don't know - I'd say it changes, but I don't know if it fades.About the chemical - I never liked the idea of living with someone for 2 years... I'd rather be apart and just meet every so often etc -- or maybe go travelling together sometimes -- but still have long breaks in between. I wonder if the chemical is there for longer - if you are not consistently in each other's presence during those 2 years. IP: Logged |
lechien
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posted March 31, 2011 06:18 PM
the article didn't mention more than the 2 year thing, but based on my own experience with my current partner it might work like that too?me and my partner had a on-and-off thing for a while, and now we live together but due to the life stress we are "turning off" romantic things atm. i'm sure when the stress phase is over, our "love chemical" will be activated again like in the past. in that sense, maybe it's a good way to keep a relationship, to have it "rocky". IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted March 31, 2011 06:18 PM
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-375781/Passion-fades-years.html
This article discusses the 2 year theory ^ - Apparently a different hormone kicks in after 2 years though.
I doubt I'll have this kind of relationship where we are living together for so many years... so I don't think the same applies -- for a more on and off type of relationship.
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lechien
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From: my 30 cubic square meter room with a rat!
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posted March 31, 2011 06:19 PM
we posted at the same time! IP: Logged |
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