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Topic: What do you Feel Insecure About?
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 25, 2011 10:48 AM
  
Just thinking of myself. I am secure about some things, semi secure about others and INSECURE about still others 
Anyone care to start?------------------
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He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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fairaqua
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posted March 25, 2011 12:07 PM
I am a pretty fit person but have the sliiiightest belly fat around my lower belly. I also have stretchmarks and I hate them so much I almost don't want to get in a bathing suit during the summer. My acne has come back worse than my high school years, almost to the point I don't want to go out and I won't wear shirts anymore that expose my back.
My nose, my small brests, my large hips, my oddly shaped bottom.The BIGGEST thing for me is my weight. Its to the point I weigh myself everyday and then think about that number all day and compair it with the numbers I get for the next week or more. Most people call me crazy for being like this with myself but its how I've always been. IP: Logged |
PlutoSquared
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From: Mars
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted March 25, 2011 12:21 PM
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snarly
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From: Wales, UK
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted March 25, 2011 12:39 PM
My body. I am pretty tiny, but since having my son 8 years ago, I am a little bigger, and I am still not used to it  People tell me I look so much better but I never used to have hips, or boobs or wrinkles! I know (hope!) I've still got 'it', but I still judge myself so harshly sometimes. My best friend is brilliant, and at 51, she looks utterly amazing, and I could just squeeze her to death when she tells me I look cute and a lot younger than my age. I am annoyed that too many of us women still compare ourselves to media stereotypes, as, realistically, who has airbrushing to prettify every moment of their lives? I don't know if you Stateside LL'ers have heard of Katie Price (aka Jordan, a glamour model), but she, to me, is the epitome of what every self-respecting woman SHOULDN'T aspire to. Having said that, though, she looks as normal as the rest of us without her slap on  IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 25, 2011 02:59 PM
For me,I think it is the insecurity if I am a "bad" person.
My mother was like an intrusive spider with "Who do you think you are?" "What are you so big about?" "How could you think THAT?"
Then,if I DID the thing she wanted like was a good student ,she would say "Why do you study like a greasy grind?"
If I paid attention to my looks,she would call me vain.
If I didn't she would call me a slob ------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 25, 2011 03:01 PM
It was a horrible world where up seemed to be down and down was up.
This is a perfect example.It is kind of the metaphor of my life.
I was starting to get an identity up until 14.I had a grandmother who was like a mother to me.
I had lots of good extended family as role models.
I was starting to define ,myself,what *I* wanted to be,WHO I wanted to be,more specifically.------------------
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He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted March 25, 2011 03:07 PM
I decided I wanted to be a virgin until I was married .
This was important to be and helped me define a sense of self.
My mother mocked and ridiculed me about it until I gave up that dream and all the others to be the kind of person *I* wanted to be.
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Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted March 25, 2011 03:12 PM
I have studied Borderline Personality Disorder a bit,lately.
She had BPD traits. She got much better over time cuz she became a therapist  ------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted March 25, 2011 03:14 PM
My dream is to NOT die a mental case. I am one,now,imo.
I look fine if you meet me someplace.I act fine but inside I know my thinking is not right.
My self is not solidly mine.
My readings have helped more than anything else.
There is something magical that happens when you give,freely,which I do.
God gives you YOUR dreams ,in the process.------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted March 25, 2011 03:23 PM
Physically,I am OK with myself. My main area of insecurity is the emotional one,wondering if I am OK, down deep.
I lost such a basic sense of trust in myself.------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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RedScorp
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From: The Sun
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted December 29, 2012 01:36 PM
I'm insecure of how my clothes look sometimes. Tall and lanky, but very thin, so do I want a shirt that's the appropriate length or a shirt that fits...IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 29, 2012 01:48 PM
i'm just going to be honest, i can be a very insecure person. (thank you sun conjunct saturn in the 12th lmao) on really bad days its not "what am i insecure about?" its more "what am i not insecure about?"lol one good thing i can say is i'm not the type to take my insecurities out on others like some people do.IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted December 29, 2012 01:51 PM
Gigantic inner thighs, square jaw. Strangely, I'm less insecure about the scars on my face (courtesy of a dog bite when I was two-and-a-half) than the flaws I was born with...IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted December 29, 2012 02:05 PM
I'm amazed at how many women on here are insecure about something physical! As if there's nothing else to being a woman, or a person. I'm fat, but if I walked around saying "He doesn't like me because I'm fat" I would never be able to accept responsibility that my personality may suck, or he didn't like my sense of humor, or whathaveyou. Maybe I didn't like his sense of humor! I'm fat and I'm hyperaware of my presence when I enter a room. I always look around to see if I'm the biggest one or if there's someone bigger. But it's not the thing I'm MOST insecure about. I'm insecure about my own judgment. I pick something I like and then I have everybody who cares about me telling me they don't like it, it's not good enough, I could do better (doesn't even matter what it is - a person or a thing or a place). I really start questioning if I'm living in the same reality and if I'm "normal." IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
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posted December 29, 2012 02:14 PM
^ but the thing you have to realize is lots of guys are incredibly shallow, so i can understand why women would be insecure about their bodies and i'm a guy lol.IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted December 29, 2012 02:39 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
^ but the thing you have to realize is lots of guys are incredibly shallow, so i can understand why women would be insecure about their bodies and i'm a guy lol.
Yeah but this is online where we can say anything because people are actually reading instead of watching. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 29, 2012 02:46 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Yeah but this is online where we can say anything because people are actually reading instead of watching.
well true. but i think people are talking about what they are insecure about in real life, theres really nothing to be insecure about on the internet. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted December 29, 2012 02:58 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
well true. but i think people are talking about what they are insecure about in real life, theres really nothing to be insecure about on the internet.
Point taken. But don't you agree there's more to think about than our bodies and the opposite sex's opinion? I mean what about people's general opinion of us overall? I'm sure despite Aquacheeka's alleged "gigantic thighs" she still gets hit on, has relationships. So then what? IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 29, 2012 03:12 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Point taken. But don't you agree there's more to think about than our bodies and the opposite sex's opinion? I mean what about people's general opinion of us overall? I'm sure despite Aquacheeka's alleged "gigantic thighs" she still gets hit on, has relationships.So then what?
lol i never said they were everything. i was just making the point that guys are pretty shallow so i could understand why women would have those insecurities. that actually goes for both genders,both can be pretty shallow. i'm average looking at best but everybody who knows me thinks i'm hilarious and lots of fun. but when i try to meet girls im insta rejected 99% of the time because i'm not "hot". they dont even get to find out about my personality. you know what? its their loss ... thats the way i see it IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted December 29, 2012 03:32 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
lol i never said they were everything. i was just making the point that guys are pretty shallow so i could understand why women would have those insecurities.
Sorry, I forget the way I'm speaking doesn't translate over the net. I agree and understand why they'd have those insecurities too. I just don't think they're important or severe ones I guess. I mean, I think we're only insecure about things we can't control so... what's the point? IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 29, 2012 03:40 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Sorry, I forget the way I'm speaking doesn't translate over the net. I agree and understand why they'd have those insecurities too. I just don't think they're important or severe ones I guess. I mean, I think we're only insecure about things we can't control so... what's the point?
well there is no point lol, but people are insecure about those things all the same. IP: Logged |
Moonfish
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posted December 29, 2012 03:45 PM
I'm emotionally insecure.
Occasionally I feel like I have an out of body experience because what I see in the mirror doesn't portray how I feel on the inside, which is ugly. My anxiety builds up over the smallest things to the point where it's becomes instinctial.
Those are one of the reasons thats kept me from getting into a relationship. I know I would have a hard time going out in public with a "bf" without wondering if people think I'm good enough for him. I know I should be telling myself "who cares what other's think" but like I said, these emotional insercurities are instinctual. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted December 29, 2012 04:09 PM
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Originally posted by Moonfish:
I'm emotionally insecure.
Occasionally I feel like I have an out of body experience because what I see in the mirror doesn't portray how I feel on the inside, which is ugly. My anxiety builds up over the smallest things to the point where it's becomes instinctial.
Those are one of the reasons thats kept me from getting into a relationship. I know I would have a hard time going out in public with a "bf" without wondering if people think I'm good enough for him. I know I should be telling myself "who cares what other's think" but like I said, these emotional insercurities are instinctual.
I have that same fear too! Not really about what other people think, but it is extremely hard and will take a lot of work for me to believe someone actually LIKES me just for being myself without me giving anything to them. IP: Logged |
Moonfish
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posted December 29, 2012 04:35 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I have that same fear too! Not really about what other people think, but it is extremely hard and will take a lot of work for me to believe someone actually LIKES me just for being myself without me giving anything to them.
Defnitely! that too  IP: Logged |
sand
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posted December 29, 2012 10:41 PM
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Originally posted by RedScorp:
I'm insecure of how my clothes look sometimes. Tall and lanky, but very thin, so do I want a shirt that's the appropriate length or a shirt that fits...
#shirtmaker
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