Posts: 1329
From: canada
Registered: Apr 2009

posted July 20, 2011 04:51 PM            

---

i personally would find this extremeley annoying especially while having sex its strange to be looking straight into someone eyes while having sex. just do me stop looking . look up or look at the wall.

dont make me pull a shorty on you and put a lunch bag on your head.

IP: Logged

Posts: 118
From: bronx
Registered: Jul 2011

posted July 20, 2011 05:22 PM            

---

hahaha i think this is so weird as well i usually stay with my eyes closed cuz of that

IP: Logged

Posts: 1329
From: canada
Registered: Apr 2009

posted July 20, 2011 05:27 PM            

---

quote:

---

Originally posted by DepTaurus:
i personally would find this extremeley annoying especially while having sex its strange to be looking straight into someone eyes while having sex. just do me stop looking . look up or look at the wall.

dont make me pull a shorty on you and put a lunch bag on your head.

---

IP: Logged

Posts: 1329
From: canada
Registered: Apr 2009

posted July 20, 2011 05:33 PM            

---

did i just quote myself lol hahaha

IP: Logged

Posts: 118
From: bronx
Registered: Jul 2011

posted July 20, 2011 05:46 PM            

---

quote:

---

Originally posted by DepTaurus:
did i just quote myself lol hahaha

---

hahahaha yes u did

IP: Logged

Posts: 1329
From: canada
Registered: Apr 2009

posted July 20, 2011 06:11 PM            

---

that confuses me eyy because sometimes ill think im pressing the edit button then i click quote and then its like when did i do that. lol

IP: Logged

Posts: 409
From:
Registered: May 2011

posted July 20, 2011 07:23 PM            

---

That's lame the eyes are the key to someones soul you know lol j.k I love eyecontact during intimacy maybe not the whole time that would be strange but like moments were you can look at someones and don't have to say anything they know what you mean ...

IP: Logged

Posts: 1491
From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010

posted July 20, 2011 08:18 PM            

---

It depends.
Why does it bother you? Are you afraid of something?

I mean I'm very comfortable with sex.. but I'm an Aries lol I don't mind making eye contact. But it's not a big deal if we don't. I love doggy style anyway!

Although - To be honest, if I had a bf who was blatantly scared of making eye contact - I'd have an urge to uncover the psychology behind that.. so I'd mess with him. If you're ever with an Aries woman - try not to 'let on' that you have an issue with it.

--

With the man I'm in love with and have had the best sex with - We simply *click* - it just comes naturally to make eye contact because we're so into each other and it's an amazing feeling.

IP: Logged

Posts: 339
From: 11th Dimension
Registered: Dec 2010

posted July 21, 2011 11:21 PM            

---

No eye contact, no sex.

I personally find it weird that someone would be staring at the wall while having sex, that's creepy in an unemotional sort of way. IA that eyes are the windows to the soul and looking into your lover's eyes while having sex makes it a very deeply fulfilling and emotional experience.

Still, I can understand why some people would fret upon it. It is very intimate, having someone stare into your soul when you have opened up your body for them. It makes one feel very vulnerable.

P.s. I'm a Scorpio, just in case you were wondering

------------------
Ask Me anything. Anything. I will contrive to bring you the answer. The whole universe will I use to do this. So be on the lookout. This book is far from My only tool. You may ask a question, then put this book down. But watch. Listen. The words to the next song you hear. The information in the next article you read. The story line of the next movie you watch. The chance utterance of the next person you meet. Or the whisper of the next river, the next ocean, the next breeze that caresses your ear—all these devices are Mine; all these avenues are open to Me. I will speak to you if you will listen. I will come to you if you will invite Me. I will show you then that I have always been there. All ways.
♥

IP: Logged

Posts: 409
From:
Registered: May 2011

posted July 21, 2011 11:24 PM            

---

another scorpio who agrees totally
I don't think these earth signs get it lol

IP: Logged

Posts: 10556
From: The Goober Galaxy
Registered: Apr 2009

posted July 21, 2011 11:26 PM            

---

I'm loaded with Earth, and I totally get it. I don't think it's an element thing...it's a guy thing. Most guys are like that.

IP: Logged

Posts: 769
From: N. America
Registered: Nov 2010

posted July 21, 2011 11:45 PM            

---

Unless it's doggy style or reverse cowgirl, there is no exuse for no eye contact. I mean it doesn't have to be a starring contest.But for a portion of the time, there should be eye contact.

------------------
Rising: Gemini
Sun: Aries 11
Moon: Scorpio 6
Mercury: Taurus 12
Mars: Aqarius 10
Venus: Pisces 10
N.Node: Aquarius 9
Saturn: Capricorn 9
Juno: Scorpio 6
Eros: Pisces
True Lilith: Scorpio 6
Jupiter: Cancer 2
Pluto: Scorpio 6

IP: Logged

Posts: 3998
From: Pluto, next to Ami Ann
Registered: Jul 2010

posted July 21, 2011 11:50 PM            

---

eye contact during intimacy makes the love connection stronger...so i think its only done when the couple is very deeply in love and i'v noticed that i'v only made eye contact with the one guy i was that deeply in love with...i do feel weird cuz i'm not used to it but i love it

------------------
I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

IP: Logged

Posts: 1491
From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010

posted July 22, 2011 04:00 AM            

---

Sara duh-ling I have much earth.. Moon in Cap - Venus in Taurus and Mars in Cap

It's not an element thing or a male thing (I disagree).

It seems like a fear.

I mean generally in every day life when someone avoids eye contact - they do it out of 'fear' of something.. or embarrassment, or because they are hiding something.

It depends on the culture. In Aboriginal culture (I'm referring to Australian Aboriginals) - it's very rude/a sign of disrespect - to make eye contact.

But in western culture, we are brought up to think of eye contact as important and a big part of "getting to know" someone. For instance if you go to a job interview and you avoid eye contact - they will most likely find you suspicious or lacking in confidence. So it would be seen as a huge minus.

So because it is generally seen as 'evasive' behaviour.. I'd interpret it the same way sexually.
It's a hint that the person is not completely comfortable with their sexuality and feels a bit awkward or embarrassed either by the act of sex itself or the person they are doing it with - so they are trying to escape the situation by avoiding eye contact.
I mean I know - it's still enjoyable physically (so you are not avoiding the situation *entirely*) - but on some level it's still escapism to avoid the eyes of the person you are having sex with.

IP: Logged

Posts: 831
From:
Registered: May 2011

posted July 22, 2011 04:36 AM            

---

...

IP: Logged

Posts: 1491
From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010

posted July 22, 2011 04:36 AM            

---

:edit: oops my post wasn't showing up nvm

IP: Logged

Posts: 17184
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010

posted July 22, 2011 07:44 AM            

---

Dep Taurus
Lunch bag on head

------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power,love and a sound mind.

He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
Proverbs

IP: Logged

Posts: 435
From: Brickenton
Registered: Jun 2011

posted July 22, 2011 08:10 AM            

---

quote:

---

Originally posted by DepTaurus:
i personally would find this extremeley annoying especially while having sex its strange to be looking straight into someone eyes while having sex. just do me stop looking . look up or look at the wall.

dont make me pull a shorty on you and put a lunch bag on your head.

---

I think that eye contact is extremely sexy and intimate. To me it is the way to become "one with each souls".

People who don't enjoy this type of thing are usually afraid of this extreme form of intimacy. They feel invaded or like their personal boundaries are being crossed. They fear sharing the deepest part of themselves. It is all based on fear. It is something, like most things involving the overcoming of fear, that if you open yourself up to and understand then it can make the sex better and you a happier and stronger person more willing to express your vulnerable side.

It is being afraid that someone can see into your being. "The eyes are the window to the soul".

IP: Logged

Posts: 3998
From: Pluto, next to Ami Ann
Registered: Jul 2010

posted July 22, 2011 09:43 AM            

---

quote:

---

Originally posted by Betty Boop:
Sara duh-ling I have much earth.. Moon in Cap - Venus in Taurus and Mars in Cap

It's not an element thing or a male thing (I disagree).

It seems like a fear.

I mean generally in every day life when someone avoids eye contact - they do it out of 'fear' of something.. or embarrassment, or because they are hiding something.

It depends on the culture. In Aboriginal culture (I'm referring to Australian Aboriginals) - it's very rude/a sign of disrespect - to make eye contact.

But in western culture, we are brought up to think of eye contact as important and a big part of "getting to know" someone. For instance if you go to a job interview and you avoid eye contact - they will most likely find you suspicious or lacking in confidence. So it would be seen as a huge minus.

So because it is generally seen as 'evasive' behaviour.. I'd interpret it the same way sexually.
It's a hint that the person is not completely comfortable with their sexuality and feels a bit awkward or embarrassed either by the act of sex itself or the person they are doing it with - so they are trying to escape the situation by avoiding eye contact.
I mean I know - it's still enjoyable physically (so you are not avoiding the situation *entirely*) - but on some level it's still escapism to avoid the eyes of the person you are having sex with.

---

hispanic cultures are like that too...like, when a parent is scolding their kid, they'll tell him or her not to look them in the eye because its disrespectful (i know this from the spanish classes i took )

------------------
I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

when organic is used to describe food then you know we have come to a dark age in history

IP: Logged

Posts: 6626
From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009

posted July 22, 2011 10:14 AM            

---

Eye contact required for me in all arenas of human contact. I cannot trust a person or animal who will not make eye contact. Pure and simple, I feel they are hiding something, are sneaky, or un-trustworthy.
Every human and or animal that has harmed me in different ways, was unable or refused to give at least some eye contact.

------------------
~Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you ♥
~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Никола Тесла
~There is no box.~H♥
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX
}><}}}(*>~

IP: Logged

Posts: 192
From: A star between Venus and Mercury
Registered: Dec 2010

posted July 22, 2011 02:25 PM            

---

quote:

---

Originally posted by NickiG:
eye contact during intimacy makes the love connection stronger...so i think its only done when the couple is very deeply in love and i'v noticed that i'v only made eye contact with the one guy i was that deeply in love with...i do feel weird cuz i'm not used to it but i love it

---

I agree completely with this ^.

Eye contact for me in general is very difficult.. I usually close my eyes. I suppose I'm just insecure about how I look during sex lol, and I suppose I'm scared to see if they are not enjoying it or not. lol. Though the other day I realized that I need to really love the person to look into their eyes during. It was unlike any other experience. So personal. Even though you're completely at someone else's mercy already, looking into someone's eyes during the experience is giving yourself up completely, I think. Which is why it is so scary. But so fulfilling at the same time.

IP: Logged

Posts: 1491
From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010

posted July 22, 2011 10:58 PM            

---

quote:

---

Even though you're completely at someone else's mercy already,

---

Do you feel like they are also at your mercy? Or do you feel like it is one sided?

I think maybe you are afraid because you are unsure that the other person is also 'in love'.. so maybe you think they have an upper hand in some way. Is that the case?

With the man I'm in love with - there is so much mutual trust and I don't feel scared at all when I'm around him.. not scared by him and not scared by anything in general. I just feel safe.

IP: Logged

Posts: 511
From: London England
Registered: Aug 2010

posted July 23, 2011 05:21 PM            

---

I like it.. not constant staring but just enough.

IP: Logged

Posts: 339
From: 11th Dimension
Registered: Dec 2010

posted July 23, 2011 07:48 PM            

---

Scorpios tend to have these poker faces practically the whole time so watching that tight-wound self-control fall apart, just for your eyes to see...mmm...there's nothing quite like it.

Plus admit it folks, soul-sharing is far too intimate than sharing just bodies

------------------
Ask Me anything. Anything. I will contrive to bring you the answer. The whole universe will I use to do this. So be on the lookout. This book is far from My only tool. You may ask a question, then put this book down. But watch. Listen. The words to the next song you hear. The information in the next article you read. The story line of the next movie you watch. The chance utterance of the next person you meet. Or the whisper of the next river, the next ocean, the next breeze that caresses your ear—all these devices are Mine; all these avenues are open to Me. I will speak to you if you will listen. I will come to you if you will invite Me. I will show you then that I have always been there. All ways.
♥

IP: Logged

Posts: 17184
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010

posted July 23, 2011 08:19 PM            

---

quote:

---

Originally posted by starfox:
I like it.. not constant staring but just enough.

---

------------------
It doesn't happen all at once.You become.It takes a long time.That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily,or have sharp edges,or who have to be carefully kept.
Generally,by the time you are Real most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby.
But these things don't matter at all,because once you are Real you can't be ugly ,except to people who don't understand.
The Velveteen Rabbit

IP: Logged