posted February 05, 2012 10:55 AM            

I would need more information than what you have given to tell you anything definitive. However, if you do not wish to share any details, it's okay. We can talk about crushes in general.

posted March 07, 2012 06:52 AM            

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posted March 07, 2012 08:28 AM            

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Originally posted by jesstar:
honestly i think this is only the second crush ive ever had. im 39 i had a huge crush when i was 17 .so yes lets talk about crushes in general . do crushes ever develop into something more ?

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Usually big crushes can be shown by Pluto in the chart. It prolly touches venus or the moon. The moon/pluto is the worse crush imo

Then, we can add asteroids and there we go. It would crush the strongest of us.

Attraction was made by God to get people together so is really good. After attraction you need soul though to go the distance imo

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posted March 08, 2012 09:59 AM            

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You can learn a lot about yourself through a crush.

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Boy aint that the truth!!!

I have posted on this subject recently. My bfriend thinks it totally normal to crush on someone while dating another..me,,not!

When one crushes, either in a relationship or not, I think one has to really look deep inside onself to find out why.

Is it a fleeting attraction? Is it a deep attraction that one may want to go further. It is fulfilling to one's ego?

All kinds of reasons.

After lost of research, the consensus on crushes, either in a relationship or not, is about 50/50.

Again, look inside. If one goes through life only crushing and not ever becoming invloved, then there could be an issue. If one develops a crush, and sees it for what it really is, maybe not so bad.

posted March 08, 2012 11:31 AM            

I can walk by a hot dude that attracts my attention, I look, that is it...I notice his hotness, but that it.

If I meet up with this guy again, and for some reason we end up communicating, and I become "attracted" to him, that can be a crush.

A crush is when you like someone, you like what they look like, what they are, who they are...

I have argued this with boyfriend. Sure it is totally normal to notice a person that tweeks your interest, sheeeat I have noticed women as well as men who I find outstanding!

But when one crosses the line and becomes attracted, in a relationship or not, a whole different ball game.

posted March 08, 2012 12:51 PM            

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Nessus/Dejanira is the fast track

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posted March 10, 2012 06:15 PM            

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Pool hall crush

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posted March 11, 2012 04:47 PM            

This was my latest and greatest "crush."

Totally untouchable, but one of the most amazing men in the world...

He died on my eldest's birthday, 2 years ago upcoming in April.

The late, great Peter Steele.

posted March 11, 2012 05:16 PM            

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This was my latest and greatest "crush."

Totally untouchable, but one of the most amazing men in the world...

He died on my eldest's birthday, 2 years ago upcoming in April.

The late, great Peter Steele.

Dashing Cap man

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posted March 11, 2012 05:25 PM            

I was at a coupla concerts almost close enough to touch him.

The last time I saw him, I cried the whole darn time...he was so skinny, jeans cinched up around his waist, once long flowing hair, sparse.

He had cancer and his cause of death was heart failure...

posted March 11, 2012 05:41 PM            

Yes, he was a d*ck, but he did have a point. I was idealizing him, putting him on a pedastal in my mind. He wasn't worth all that (I learned soon after). We tend to do that with crushes because we don't know what they are really like. Even if we are friends with them, we don't know what they are like in relationships because people are totally different with the people they are romantically involved with.

That to me is what a crush is, taking the best parts of a person and dreaming up the rest.

posted March 11, 2012 06:40 PM            

Love, on the other hand, is something deeper. Love can develop over time.

A crush is infatuation. If it stays at that level, and you never really get to know and love the other person, then that's all it is--just a crush.

A lot of times, with a crush, you won't know that person very well--and I mean REALLY know them. Crushes are often idealized and one is blind to a crush's faults.

Crushes can teach you lessons, though: they can help you find out to what you are attracted, what you like (or think you do) in a person, your blind spots in love, etc.

posted March 11, 2012 07:19 PM            

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I remember a few of years ago, I said to my boyfriend at the time when we first started dating and right after an intimate moment "I have such a crush on you!". I was being cute with him because I was high on love and he said "That's not good. Crush implies that you aren't seeing me for who I really am and I want you to like the real me..."

Yes, he was a d*ck, but he did have a point. I was idealizing him, putting him on a pedastal in my mind. He wasn't worth all that (I learned soon after). We tend to do that with crushes because we don't know what they are really like. Even if we are friends with them, we don't know what they are like in relationships because people are totally different with the people they are romantically involved with.

That to me is what a crush is, taking the best parts of a person and dreaming up the rest.

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posted March 15, 2012 12:14 PM            

They all seem to agree as to the meaning of "crush."

posted December 28, 2012 03:47 PM            

A crush is someone who you know or you talk to or you see them almost regularly. You just...like them, simply. I have less crushes than I have infatuations, but I still crush on people fairly easily. You can crush on famous people, I think. When you see them or hear them, your heart flutters...it happens.

posted December 28, 2012 06:58 PM            

There can be a kind of longing crush that can be prove to be quite painful. The longing to merge soul, give up all freedom..