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charmainec Moderator Posts: 4188 From: Venus next to Randall Registered: Apr 2009	posted March 13, 2012 06:54 AM It's slighty amusing to observe how people behave when making eye contact with them during a conversation. Many become uncomfortable. They begin fiddling their fingers or their eyes start darting all over place. Others look intimidated. I understand there are times when people are shy to look you in the eye when they like you or they know they did something bad. Those who feel uncomfortable in general; does it have something to do with low self esteem? ------------------ quote: Remember, love can conquer the influences of the planets....It can even eliminate karma. Linda Goodman IP: Logged
teasel Knowflake Posts: 4412 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted March 13, 2012 07:25 AM For me, social anxiety/shyness. Low self-esteem would come into it, but I have enough to get me out of crappy situations. I remember making an effort to look people in the eye, when I was eighteen, and they would look away. I didn't know if it was me, or if they would do that to anyone. their self-esteem overall seemed to be okay. IP: Logged
charmainec Moderator Posts: 4188 From: Venus next to Randall Registered: Apr 2009	posted March 13, 2012 07:30 AM Could it be the way someone looks at them, despite looking friendly? With low self esteem; do you feel like you're being judged? ------------------ quote: Remember, love can conquer the influences of the planets....It can even eliminate karma. Linda Goodman IP: Logged
teasel Knowflake Posts: 4412 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted March 13, 2012 08:15 AM Judged? For me, yes. I can't speak for everyone, but after years of bullying, you expect it. I've found that even when I'm feeling good on the surface, I'm still expecting a knife to the back, unconsciously. Sometimes, that isn't irrational; it's like a hobby for some people. I also get antsy, and tend to scan my environment, whilst listening and actually taking things in. IP: Logged
Lexxigramer Moderator Posts: 453 From: The Etheric Realms Registered: Feb 2012	posted March 13, 2012 12:24 PM In person, most people feel very comfortable making long eye contact with me. ------------------ NumeroLexigrams ~I remember, therefore I am immortal ~Lexxigramer IP: Logged
T Knowflake Posts: 5024 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted March 13, 2012 12:40 PM I'm good about eye contact and a firm handshake. Though I do find that I easily lose my train of thought when locked into someone's eye too long, can't help it. Sometimes I have to look away briefly to stay on track. It's an empath/psychic thing. But I think it makes people more uncomfortable if you can't look them in the eye....it makes things awkward, so I try to always do so. IP: Logged
Doux R�ve Moderator Posts: 1411 From: Registered: Dec 2010	posted March 13, 2012 04:13 PM quote: Originally posted by charmainec: Could it be the way someone looks at them, despite looking friendly? With low self esteem; do you feel like you're being judged? This is true in my case. I tend to feel like I'm being judged. I can't look people in the eyes for too long because it makes me feel uncomfortable. I have to look away at some point. Sometimes I get very nervous and my eyes can't stay focused. However, with someone who is even more uncomfortable than me, I can look at them without any problem, because they themselves don't make intense eye contact. But I do appreciate it when people actually look at me when I talk, because otherwise it looks like they're distracted and hardly listen to what I say. It's an ambivalent thing for me, eye contact. IP: Logged
charmainec Moderator Posts: 4188 From: Venus next to Randall Registered: Apr 2009	posted March 13, 2012 04:30 PM For me eye contact means that the person is listening to what you're saying and showing that they are paying attention. It's annoying these days having a convo with someone who is constantly head down and texting. ------------------ quote: Remember, love can conquer the influences of the planets....It can even eliminate karma. Linda Goodman IP: Logged
hippichick Moderator Posts: 1289 From: Registered: May 2009	posted March 13, 2012 05:20 PM This has been a subject of interest for me for sooooo long... Per traditional Astrology, Pisces sun is able to maintain unending, creepy eyecontact. And I can and I do, but only on the recieving end. I, for the life of me can not maintain direct eye contact when delivering conversation. Lord, with my Scorp asc IF I ever were able to, spare the reciever? I dont know, but would like to! I feel myself as shifty and untrue as I am speaking and my eyes are going everywhere. BUT, when I recieve I am so into the eyes...I feel I often make people uncomfortable. GREAT thread, Char!!! IP: Logged
hippichick Moderator Posts: 1289 From: Registered: May 2009	posted March 13, 2012 05:22 PM quote: Originally posted by Lexxigramer: In person, most people feel very comfortable making long eye contact with me. LExx, I do find this true with Scorps I have enountered...maybe my Scorp asc is my issue. IP: Logged
Betty Boop Knowflake Posts: 3104 From: Betty Boop Land Registered: Sep 2010	posted March 13, 2012 06:34 PM You can make eye contact in a threatening way, in a sexy way or in a very kind way etc I think it's all the facial expression... And people react to the overall expression. IP: Logged
Betty Boop Knowflake Posts: 3104 From: Betty Boop Land Registered: Sep 2010	posted March 13, 2012 06:42 PM Also, we make so many associations... in a matter of seconds. If a person reminds you of your best friend - you are more likely to feel instantly comfortable. But if they remind you of an ex-boss who was extremely demanding - you could feel threatened. And if they remind you of a lover, you might feel strangely attracted. Some people extend this to past life-memories as well.. I think the more you are out there meeting people... the easier it is to self-analyze.. and figure out whether you are actually shy/socially anxious... or whether you just have preferences - so you like some and dislike others. IP: Logged
hippichick Moderator Posts: 1289 From: Registered: May 2009	posted March 13, 2012 08:37 PM quote: Originally posted by Betty Boop: Also, we make so many associations... in a matter of seconds. If a person reminds you of your best friend - you are more likely to feel instantly comfortable. But if they remind you of an ex-boss who was extremely demanding - you could feel threatened. And if they remind you of a lover, you might feel strangely attracted. Some people extend this to past life-memories as well.. I think the more you are out there meeting people... the easier it is to self-analyze.. and figure out whether you are actually shy/socially anxious... or whether you just have preferences - so you like some and dislike others. Very, very true!!! IP: Logged
charmainec Moderator Posts: 4188 From: Venus next to Randall Registered: Apr 2009	posted March 14, 2012 02:10 AM Hippi Maybe as a pisces and since they are generally known to be good listeners, you are more comfy and can maintain eye contact. When you're delivering, maybe you can't keep eye contact because you don't want to make your receiver feel uncomfy? Scorps can be intense and it shows in their eyes. Does that make sense? ------------------ quote: Remember, love can conquer the influences of the planets....It can even eliminate karma. Linda Goodman IP: Logged
charmainec Moderator Posts: 4188 From: Venus next to Randall Registered: Apr 2009	posted March 14, 2012 02:24 AM quote: Originally posted by Betty Boop: You can make eye contact in a threatening way, in a sexy way or in a very kind way etc I think it's all the facial expression... And people react to the overall expression. Cool expressions. ------------------ quote: Remember, love can conquer the influences of the planets....It can even eliminate karma. Linda Goodman IP: Logged
s4nd Knowflake Posts: 482 From: Registered: Feb 2012	posted March 14, 2012 03:47 AM i don't make it much coz it could be intimidating for other people. i do not have nervous energy tho. i barely move my face even lol! IP: Logged
hippichick Moderator Posts: 1289 From: Registered: May 2009	posted March 14, 2012 11:33 AM quote: Originally posted by charmainec: Hippi Maybe as a pisces and since they are generally known to be good listeners, you are more comfy and can maintain eye contact. When you're delivering, maybe you can't keep eye contact because you don't want to make your receiver feel uncomfy? Scorps can be intense and it shows in their eyes. Does that make sense? Now that makes perfect sense!!! IP: Logged
Lexxigramer Moderator Posts: 453 From: The Etheric Realms Registered: Feb 2012	posted March 14, 2012 01:35 PM I feel uncomfortable with folks who avoid eye contact. ------------------ NumeroLexigrams ~I remember, therefore I am immortal ~Lexxigramer IP: Logged
Waterlilly Knowflake Posts: 77 From: Registered: Mar 2012	posted March 14, 2012 04:24 PM The eyes are the windows to the soul, hence, eye contact( the meeting of the eyes)can make us feel vulnerable or exposed. IP: Logged
hippichick Moderator Posts: 1289 From: Registered: May 2009	posted March 14, 2012 05:14 PM quote: Originally posted by Waterlilly: The eyes are the windows to the soul, hence, eye contact( the meeting of the eyes)can make us feel vulnerable or exposed. I like this too! IP: Logged
hippichick Moderator Posts: 1289 From: Registered: May 2009	posted March 14, 2012 05:15 PM quote: Originally posted by Lexxigramer: I feel uncomfortable with folks who avoid eye contact. Lexx, me too, that is why I dont like it when I find myself doing it, I feel "shifty" and I am not IP: Logged
RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 2129 From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop Registered: Sep 2011	posted March 14, 2012 06:31 PM I do it because I don't want to make eye contact with creepy people/want to avoid people coming up to me and talking to me if I feel uncomfortable or unsure about people. IP: Logged
Lexxigramer Moderator Posts: 453 From: The Etheric Realms Registered: Feb 2012	posted March 14, 2012 07:59 PM Well I have nothing to hide so eye contact is important/vital to me. I know it is not always true, but if any one cannot look me in the eyes, I am automatically suspicious of them. ------------------ NumeroLexigrams ~I remember, therefore I am immortal ~Lexxigramer IP: Logged
jesstar Knowflake Posts: 251 From: santa fe new mexico Registered: Nov 2011	posted March 15, 2012 02:06 AM If you can not look me in the eye, I most likely wont give you the chance to do again. ------------------ "We'll go because it's Thursday,"he said,"and we'll go to wish everybody a Very Happy Thursday.Come on,Piglet" A. A. Milne IP: Logged
RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 2129 From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop Registered: Sep 2011	posted March 15, 2012 02:42 AM quote: Originally posted by jesstar: If you can not look me in the eye, I most likely wont give you the chance to do again. --for me, that's the idea, when I avoid eye contact with people that I don't want around me lack of eye contact makes people uncomfortable; sometimes it sends the message of shyness, other times aloofness or snobbery, other times of hiding something I try to be as off-putting as I can, to protect myself. Now, around people I care about and trust, I try to do better. IP: Logged

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