posted May 11, 2012 02:00 PM            

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posted May 11, 2012 02:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I have made a million errors in trusting people. I know some very successful people(maturity and general life success) who got there by screwing up and learning the painful lessons resulting. I have some good role models.They all tell me that my errors will build my maturity. It is happening but it is slow lol

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posted May 12, 2012 12:03 AM            

Thank you for ONCE AGAIN articulating something that is actually universal. We all have gone through this or will.

I have coldly rejected someone because of a misunderstanding. I have been coldly rejected and I thought, "Okay what goes around comes around."

Last time this happened, which was actually a crushing loss, I was reading books by Eckhart Tolle at the same time. And I learned how to disengage from my ego (he uses the term broadly to mean, how you self-identify). It was a blessing. I learned how beneficial it can be to not even allow myself to think. The hurt would spring up like a volcano and I refused to give it words and that quieted it down. A few months later I was recovered. Not suggesting this will help everyone, but since it helped me, it's naturally the one thing that comes to my mind.

Nowadays I look at astrology for more explanations. What was Uranus doing when the fall out occurred? I would always look at now. Also, last time I lost a friend, the fall-out happened when the sun was transiting my asteroid Pholus, which is associated with sudden endings. So now I have that under my belt, a new thing learned.

But the astrological reasons might make things more complicated than they need to be.

My advice is keep doing what you are doing, you do it well, maybe you just lost sight of it because it's a hard time now, and life has these hard times that are unavoidable.

posted May 13, 2012 07:32 PM            

When I was younger I didn't have any friends and then I grew up and talked to a lot of the people that I went to school with and they were all, "We wanted to be your friend but you kept pushing us away."

It was seriously mind blowing to hear that from people... and made me realize a lot of my solitude was my own making.

I've noticed a few times you talking about you not making friends easily and things along those lines, and I'll tell you... I know this is only the internet and people are a bit different in real life, but I find you rather pleasing to talk to. So much so, that I find your comments about your real life kind of amazingly odd.

It sucks that someone betrayed your trust, it happens to everyone at some time and it infuriates me because it tends to happen to good people more often. Don't let it bring you down, and don't let it make you stop trusting people. Yeah, your going to get hurt once in awhile... but there are people out there who feel the same way as you, and are happy that you exist. So, don't change because you get hurt.

I read something on my facebook recently. Keep smiling, because eventually the universe will get tired of making you frown.

Ok, I'm going to slowly back out of this thread now because I'm about as uncomfortable giving compliments as I am recieving them. But, stay cool. B****es be b****es, don't let them bring you down.

posted May 14, 2012 06:36 AM            

Wish I could give you good advice but all I can say is that I can relate to you. It's not easy for me to make friends either, I know part of it is because my social skills are a bit shy/robotic/clumsy though.
And about the manipulation thingy, I haven't experienced it with friends yet, but I did with certain family members and I often feel locked out and unwelcome. I can understand why you feel it's hard to just forget it all, go out there and be happy & trusting again ...