posted August 15, 2012 10:42 AM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Ummm..the way i would prefer someone to break up with me is to give me as much closure as possible by telling me everything that went wrong and how exactly your feelings changed or progressed. haha.

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posted August 15, 2012 10:50 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
well my experience has been that the ladies dont respond well to being dumped, so it is best to make her do it, there are tons of ways to achieve this. You could figure out what annoys her and do that repeatedly or act batsh!t crazy.

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Actually this has a bit of "wisdom" to it...

I would rather do the breaking up, so...

It all depends on the circumstances, though. My last being dumped experience, the guy was a shitter (a Pisces to boot), he made like everything was going great, for 2 years, we even slept together a coupla days before, I asked him if something was wrong the DAY BEFORE and nothing....dumped via the phone.

posted August 15, 2012 10:55 AM            

Never do the disappearing act. Lol. You may just p!ss off a woman who was really good at hiding how crazy she is.

posted August 15, 2012 12:29 PM            

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Originally posted by ail221:
Be honest and upfront. Don't say you'll always be friends if your not interested in interacting with them afterwards. Don't do it in public either unless your really gonna do "Well always have Paris" skit. Never breakup via email, text, or through a friend. Don't lie and say your not interested in a relationship at the moment and the truth is your already have someone lined up for after you dump them.

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Just to add on to this:

Its probably best that you break up at house. Why? Because it allows you the room to walk away without causing anymore harm than what has already been done and at the same time, she can find solace in the surroundings and comfort of her own place.

Yes there will be bitterness lingering in the air on her part for quite a few days (depending upon the circumstances surrounding the relationship) but you are just going to have to weather it out.

posted August 15, 2012 01:29 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
My wife is my best friend in all the world, but two of my exes are my next best friends, even though I didn't marry them. Why can't friendships remain?

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Because one person usually is left with hurt feelings and bitterness.

I tried to stay friends with my Aqua ex (longest relationship). I dumped him, I offered the friendship. BIG mistake, learned my lesson. When we talked on the phone (diff cities now) he was like OHH my current girlfriend is like this, does this, ohhh it's so good bla bla. After we took our residency exam (I got plastics, he failed) he was very envious, told me what a big mistake I am making, that I am not made to be a surgeon, that I will mess it up etc etc. After he took his exam again and got general surgery, he was all "I'm doing top notch surgery, I'm doing clinical trials, I'm doing solo surgeries, I am such a good surgeon bla bla"
Eventually I told him in my head to go to ^$&$#$%#^&)* and avoided him like the plague.

posted August 15, 2012 03:36 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Fake your death.

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posted August 15, 2012 03:37 PM            

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Originally posted by sand:
In my neptuney mind I'm thinking Humphrey bogart in Casablanca natch..

Never elaborate non? I feel that would just add more hurt..

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Tell her you just found Jesus and hit her over the head with the Bible

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posted August 15, 2012 07:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Junethird:
Just be honest, dont play games or waste time... If need be do it over the phone. But say something dont pretend that everything is alright or start avoiding your phonecalls or texts in hopes that she will get the "hint".

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I agree.

Plus, if someone avoids another person, the person who is being avoided may try harder at first to get un-avoided. On top of that, once the person does figure out what you are doing, expect them to talk about it. It will only come back to bite you.

And if they aren't sensitive to being avoided, they might not notice or care, and it would not have its intended effect.

posted August 15, 2012 07:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:

Tell her you just found Jesus and hit her over the head with the Bible

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gives a whole new meaning to the phrase "Bible thumper", doesn't it

oooh, or you could literally call it "Godsmack"

sorry, couldn't resist

no more religious jokes or band jokes

(for now.... )

posted August 15, 2012 07:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Xodian:
Just to add on to this:

Its probably best that you break up at house. Why? Because it allows you the room to walk away without causing anymore harm than what has already been done and at the same time, she can find solace in the surroundings and comfort of her own place.

Yes there will be bitterness lingering in the air on her
part for quite a few days (depending upon the
circumstances surrounding the relationship) but you are
just going to have to weather it out.

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posted August 15, 2012 09:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:

Tell her you just found Jesus and hit her over the head with the Bible

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posted August 15, 2012 10:30 PM            

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posted August 16, 2012 04:49 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
RP
I happened on this when a gorgeous Leo man( who THOUGHT he was gorgeous) would not leave me alone.
I was super into the Bible and started talking about it. He never bothered me again. Hence, the launching of the brilliant idea

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Oh I thought you meant literally--as in smack them with the Bible upside the head, not just talk about it.

posted August 16, 2012 10:06 PM            

Obviously, the mature way to do it is to simply say so, keeping the reasons as simple as possible and refusing to "talk about it" if there's nothing left to talk about. (Of course if you're breaking up with her because you heard a nasty rumor--probably by someone who doesn't like her or considers her competition for you--about her that isn't true without even bothering to ask her first then I still think this is best as she's better off without you anyway, even if she'd want a chance to challenge the lie.)

Afterward, stay away from her as much as possible for a certain amount of time (at least half as long as you were together seems like a good base, so if you were together a year, then try not to have any contact for at least 6 months). After that then casual contact should be ok...assuming she's ok with that. Be sure to delete her number from your phone so you don't accidentally call her, too.

posted September 02, 2012 07:32 AM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
I would so label it spineless. Last Libra did this.

Upfront is best for me. Even if it hurts. No sugarcoating either. None of that nonsense that I am such a great person bla bla. And no, we can't stay friends either.

Going MIA also not good. Had a dude do that. It infuriates me.

Be a man and do it with honesty and consideration.

Though, honestly, I am not the type to sit around if things aren't working. I usually leave first.

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Totally agree. Honesty and consideration of another person's feelings is the best way to break up. Yes, hearts are broken but when all the tears dried, memories are still fond. I remain friend with one ex cos he is still the most considerate guy i know who even after break up still is there for me whenever i need to talk. I trust only a few ppl. He is one of those who knows me.