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Topic: Best/ most mature way to breakup let go of a woman?
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sand
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posted August 15, 2012 02:58 AM
  
In my neptuney mind I'm thinking Humphrey bogart in Casablanca natch..  Never elaborate non? I feel that would just add more hurt.. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 03:08 AM
well my experience has been that the ladies dont respond well to being dumped, so it is best to make her do it, there are tons of ways to achieve this. You could figure out what annoys her and do that repeatedly or act batsh!t crazy.IP: Logged |
FireMoon
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From: Minnesota
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 03:23 AM
Lol wow. Really?? Just be honest with her and let her know the honest reason you're breaking up with her. If she doesn't take it well, that's on her. You don't need to make her think badly of guys by leading her on and lying to her. It's just not necessary. IP: Logged |
FireMoon
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Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 03:24 AM
that is so manipulative aquagy. I'm sorry but wtf??IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop
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posted August 15, 2012 03:30 AM
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Originally posted by sand:
In my neptuney mind I'm thinking Humphrey bogart in Casablanca natch.. Never elaborate non? I feel that would just add more hurt..
hey, you'll "always have Paris" I say that being honest is best. I also say that it's good to not have it come out of the blue, without warning. If there are problems in the relationship, at least talk to the other person first and let them know that a breakup is possible. Now, obviously, if someone is cheating or abusing, ditch them ASAP, but I'm talking about normal situations in the above paragraph. IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted August 15, 2012 03:32 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
well my experience has been that the ladies dont respond well to being dumped, so it is best to make her do it, there are tons of ways to achieve this. You could figure out what annoys her and do that repeatedly or act batsh!t crazy.
I would so label it spineless. Last Libra did this. Upfront is best for me. Even if it hurts. No sugarcoating either. None of that nonsense that I am such a great person bla bla. And no, we can't stay friends either. Going MIA also not good. Had a dude do that. It infuriates me. Be a man and do it with honesty and consideration. Though, honestly, I am not the type to sit around if things aren't working. I usually leave first. IP: Logged |
FireMoon
Knowflake Posts: 468
From: Minnesota
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 03:34 AM
Hey there's no pretty way of breaking up with someone. I don't take it well. They don't take it well. It just comes down to cutting your losses as soon as possible. The longer you drag it on the more it will hurt... For everyone involved. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted August 15, 2012 03:35 AM
haha just messing, but that does seem like it would be effective.IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted August 15, 2012 03:36 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
haha just messing, but that does seem like it would be effective.
Depends. Do you want it to end civil or do you want a hot drink in your eye??  IP: Logged |
Venus
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posted August 15, 2012 03:37 AM
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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Now, obviously, if someone is cheating or abusing, ditch them ASAP
hello Scorpio Venus  i concur IP: Logged |
FireMoon
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From: Minnesota
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 03:40 AM
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Originally posted by Hera:
Depends. Do you want it to end civil or do you want a hot drink in your eye??
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RunAroundScreaming
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posted August 15, 2012 03:45 AM
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Originally posted by Hera:
I would so label it spineless. Last Libra did this. Upfront is best for me. Even if it hurts. No sugarcoating either. None of that nonsense that I am such a great person bla bla. And no, we can't stay friends either. Going MIA also not good. Had a dude do that. It infuriates me. Be a man and do it with honesty and consideration. Though, honestly, I am not the type to sit around if things aren't working. I usually leave first.
YES isnt that such a libra thing to do, Hera. Hate it lol. Ummm..the way i would prefer someone to break up with me is to give me as much closure as possible by telling me everything that went wrong and how exactly your feelings changed or progressed. haha. Because if not, i will be paranoid the rest of my life that every guy i go out with will not be serious about me from the beginning as well and will break up with me when they feel like it. I'm serious, too. haha. yep typical cancer sun. ------------------
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aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 03:46 AM
haha the hot drink in the eye is a good possibility even if you are civil about it.IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted August 15, 2012 03:48 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
haha the hot drink in the eye is a good possibility even if you are civil about it.
thats true lol, they might throw it in ur face even if u are civil IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 4034
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 03:55 AM
yes, i always feel bad because women have a magical way of making you feel like the biggest dick in the world.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 4034
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 04:09 AM
funny story, when i was in school i went to a dance and this girl wanted to dance with me, and i politely declined,she didnt take it so well.the remainder of the night she cried and made a huge scene , and atleast two dozen girls came and guilt tripped the h*ll out of me, all because i said no.IP: Logged |
Venus
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posted August 15, 2012 04:57 AM
why did you say no, i mean really you were that guy? i never turned down a dancing request it just doesn't seem polite..no offence aquaguy but if all these women are making you feel like a dick maybe it's time to change some things on your behalf instead of labeling women.. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
Knowflake Posts: 1796
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 06:59 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
well my experience has been that the ladies dont respond well to being dumped, so it is best to make her do it, there are tons of ways to achieve this. You could figure out what annoys her and do that repeatedly or act batsh!t crazy.
I actually like this approach. Hardcore abandonment issues here. There is no 'right way' to break up with someone like me. Just don't do it. Aquaguy is onto something there. IP: Logged |
Hera
Moderator Posts: 4117
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Registered: Sep 2010
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posted August 15, 2012 07:30 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
yes, i always feel bad because women have a magical way of making you feel like the biggest dick in the world.
Well that's because u were dicks enough to let us go  So you totally deserve it! IP: Logged |
Hera
Moderator Posts: 4117
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Registered: Sep 2010
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posted August 15, 2012 07:36 AM
Srsly, what is it with this whole let's be friends thing??I don't think I can be friends with someone who broke my heart. Hell, no. I want them gone, I will be burning their photos and deleting everything that reminds me of them. End of story. The moment I get rid of everything, though it doesn't stop hurting, it's a lot better, like a relief. The memory of yet another failed relationship is the LAST thing I need to see all day every day. Noooo, thank you.  theme song maybe after a few years IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted August 15, 2012 07:59 AM
My wife is my best friend in all the world, but two of my exes are my next best friends, even though I didn't marry them. Why can't friendships remain?IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
Moderator Posts: 3794
From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted August 15, 2012 08:03 AM
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Originally posted by Venus:
why did you say no, i mean really you were that guy? i never turned down a dancing request it just doesn't seem polite..no offence aquaguy but if all these women are making you feel like a dick maybe it's time to change some things on your behalf instead of labeling women..
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RegardesPlatero
Moderator Posts: 3794
From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted August 15, 2012 08:05 AM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
My wife is my best friend in all the world, but two of my exes are my next best friends, even though I didn't marry them. Why can't friendships remain?
I agree. I think that whether or not people can be friends depends a lot on the circumstances of the breakup. Two people can just amicably split and realize that they aren't right for each other, but still be buddies once they get over things. On the other hand, if someone does really horrible things and the breakup is messy/bad, then yeah, it's harder to be friends. If they actually harm you or are abusive or cheat, yeah, RUN. But, assuming that people care about each other but aren't compatible, I think it would be good to be friends, with the caveat that both people are completely over each other and won't interfere in their former partner's future relationships or hold a torch for someone, which would cause problems. And, too, sometimes it becomes easier after some time has passed to be friends. Sometimes people need a bit of a break and then they can have a good friendship. IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmainec
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posted August 15, 2012 09:52 AM
Fake your death.------------------
"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Venus
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posted August 15, 2012 10:05 AM
^lol i would do that but then again i'm a very superstitious woman, i don't even call in sick without actually being sick!!IP: Logged |
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