posted August 22, 2012 05:04 PM            

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Originally posted by ail221:
If I remember some children are even caught masturbating in the womb. Yes I do agree some children do experience sexual abuse in during their childhood with leads to extenuating repercussions but part of it has to do with curiosity and trying to understand gender roles and gender differences.

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posted August 22, 2012 05:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Venus:
i remember i used to make my barbies kiss, naked! hehehe i was pretty darn cute

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posted August 22, 2012 11:48 PM            

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Originally posted by L0veLess:
The hannah montana thing was cute haha. I'm surprised you know anything bout that show since you probably didn't watch it!

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Until a year ago I did a lot of work with children, mostly little girls, and was exposed to Hannah Montana a lot. It was a couple of years before I fully realized who she was (for examples, girls played her songs but I didn't know it was the same girl I was constantly seeing on shirts and store billboards everywhere). And one day I was babysitting kids when I caught (a few minutes into it) "The Test of My Love" which featured Miley getting mocked and looked down on for having a Southern accent by the parents of her date, and was something I could relate to being a Texan in California, so I cheered her on as she dealt with the snooty Californians. (Her answering where she went to school in London with "Hogwarts" had me rolling, too. ) And as I worked with children a lot (especially little girls at "Princess Birthday Parties") I thought it would be useful to know as well, and I ended up getting into it.

I later ended up making thousands of dollars taking girls to see the Hannah movie in 2009 (though I also caught swine flu from it, too, as well as having that movie about memorized even to this day) so that parents and grandparents could get out of seeing it a zillion times (as Hannah was HUGE, and I recall a news report that said it appeared even organized crime--unethical and sometimes heartless criminals at least--got into buying up the tickets to the concerts and selling them at inflated prices, or worse and unforgivable IMO, selling fake tickets online). The Beatles were well before my time but as far as I can tell Hannah was at least as huge if not bigger, at least to the tween crowd (with a sizable teen fan base and even a few adults, one reviewer saying he got to like it while watching it with his kids or grandkids because it had the charm of I Love Lucy).

Though to be clear it's not a favorite, it was just cute and I sympathized both with Miley being a Southerner in California (and sometimes getting a hard time over it) and Lilly being a skateboarder like I was at her age, though that's not to say I had much more than that in common with the characters. Disney shows I like much better are Phineas & Ferb (which I saw a lot of because by the time that was big I was helping raise 2 kids that liked it), and I absolutely loved Kim Possible...and glad I saw KP as an adult because I got a lot more out of it (as it was a parody of spy & superhero genres as well as pop culture and other things that I'd have missed as a child).

posted August 23, 2012 04:55 AM            

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Originally posted by L0veLess:
I got a skateboard for xmas once and i fell off of it where i flipped over and did a belly flop on the concrete and never rode it again

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You know, had I gotten my skateboard while with my 'rents I might've given up on it fast as well. But I got it while in a very tiny town in East Texas for my 14th birthday where I had a lot of alone time and not much to do, so I kept at it, even after I crashed into a bunch of bull nettles. It was a rough street that really needed to be repaved and I fell A LOT (and without pads or helmet!) and I got asked who I got into a fight with a few times because of all my scrapes & bruises. But within a few months (and sometimes using it to get to school & back, walking up the hills and skating down them) I got pretty good, and I was proud of that.

When I got back to Houston with my mom I met other skaters in school who thought it was cool I “thrashed” (I don't think they call it that anymore) and for the first time I started learning the various flip tricks (but by then I had good agility and so I picked it up fast) as well as a few lip tricks (but I much preferred street to vert).

posted August 23, 2012 05:06 AM            

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Originally posted by L0veLess:
do you like girls now? are you exclusively with guys?

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I don't like labels. They can be useful but it's too easy to miss a lot that way.

Most of my serious sexual experimentation was between the ages 17-21 for me and I was very equal opportunity. But as for relationships I generally found it easier to connect with women, I think because communication was easier, sex was better (they knew more than thrusting, which I typically had to use a lot of lube for as it was hard for me to become genuinely aroused and it wasn't something many guys understood, or if they did then it was something that could bother or even offend them) as well as less complications (it was much easier to avoid STDs with women and I didn't have to get upset if Aunt Flo was late in visiting, something that happened a lot back then as I was so physically active and didn't eat well, thus having low weight that messed up my cycle). As an added bonus it's usually easier to share clothes with a female partner.

Generally speaking I found guys better as friends, and most guys who get romantically involved want to be a protector and provider, and that's fine for other women, but I feel smothered and even threatened by that. I don't know if it's my Sag energy (with some Leo thrown in) desiring independence and not feeling the need of a champion or if it's from growing up where I saw that many protectors were abusers and thus never wanted to be dependent on anyone as that made me feel too vulnerable (and even in childhood I rewrote fairy tales so that girls saved themselves rather than being rescued). In addition I experienced guys who did nice things for me and then said I "owed" them and sometimes followed up by trying to sexually assault me so I'm careful of even letting men I don't know buy me anything to "avoid misunderstandings" (that is there's no way in hell I'm letting a guy I don't know that well buy me dinner, I pay my own way, and while many men complain that women just use them for money I've noticed that many men also get offended when a woman insists on paying her own way).

That's not to say I never met a guy I didn't mesh well with. Two fictional men that appeal to me in the romantic sense (both physically and in how they act) are Oz from Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Tristan in the last half of Stardust. But romantically speaking I have no use nor desire for alphas (let alone bad boys), though I have gotten along with these types strictly as friends (and I know some women are into guys like that so I'm ok with them being that way as long as they stick to the women who want them and don't try to add me to their sexual conquests).

And I will add that in my experimental years I ended up in a relationship with a much older woman but she got too controlling and actually locked my skateboard away as she thought it was too dangerous and even mused I must be attempting some form of self-harm (though by then I DID use helmet & pads). I found then that I couldn't stand controlling women anymore than controlling men and while she was away at work I packed my things (sometimes I miss the days and the freedom I felt when I could put everything I owned into a duffel bag & backpack), jimmied the lock to the garage to get my skateboard and left, refusing to have anything more to do with her.

But in real life I've only been in 2 happy long term relationships with guys, though one I really fell for. Neither guy smothered me, nor acted like I was obliged to do what he wanted, and somehow made me very comfortable with them. I met the one I fell for hard at 19 (he looked like a blond Oz, was hilarious, and like a little brother I was protective of save that I spoiled him in every way, including sexually) and I think had we met later in life that we may have potentially gotten married as I was very fond of him and sometimes still miss him a little to this day (but neither of us was into settling down at that age). In contrast I've been in 3 serious relationships with women (this doesn't count the control freak I mentioned above as we weren't together that long and I found it more of a relief to leave than heartbreaking), and all 3 lasted longer than with either of the 2 guys.

posted August 23, 2012 09:16 PM            

I used to kiss and ask boys to teach me about sex, when I was 6-8 years old. Very sexual child. Always sneaking into the porno section of bookstores and stuff like that. Always trying to sneak a peak at dirty music videos or whatever my parents watched in the back room..I was very curious.

posted August 23, 2012 09:22 PM            

I was pretty naive then so I didn't think to clean their toilet seat before using it. I look back on that and cringe.

posted August 23, 2012 09:49 PM            

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What would this be related to? The moon? Mars?
List your aspects.

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posted August 23, 2012 11:02 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
When I was 13-14 (right around my birthday) I found that the bathroom of a friend had several hardcore porn mags under the sink. My emotional reaction to looking at those out of curiosity could by symbolized by this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c84zZ2ud4-w

I was pretty naive then so I didn't think to clean their toilet seat before using it. I look back on that and cringe.

Oh yeah, a boy gave his girlfriend (I was 14 then) a porno novel to "show what guys want" and we took turns reading it to each other and laughing until we got to a really hardcore anal scene in which we had an emergency meeting on setting limits with boys.

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