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asclibrasagsun
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posted October 09, 2012 09:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Is it true that men do not like them?

How can you declare your love to a man then if not in a letter?

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posted October 09, 2012 09:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for RedScorp     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Love letters are pretty irrelevant to me, honestly...you could always just up, bring them somewhere quiet, and tell them or something.

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asclibrasagsun
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posted October 09, 2012 10:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by RedScorp:
Love letters are pretty irrelevant to me, honestly...you could always just up, bring them somewhere quiet, and tell them or something.

alright since we are in the sweet peas section....it might be better to bite or grab too rather than waste all that time writing right?

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ail221
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posted October 09, 2012 10:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I wouldn't declare my love for a man

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asclibrasagsun
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posted October 09, 2012 10:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by ail221:
I wouldn't declare my love for a man

why not? what would be your reasoning?

(any aspects in your chart prevent you from doing that?)

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posted October 09, 2012 10:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by asclibrasagsun:
why not? what would be your reasoning?

(any aspects in your chart prevent you from doing that?)


It's more of a personality trait that doesn't match up with my three big astrological placements. Declaring love is rather dramatic and I am realist.

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posted October 09, 2012 10:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ail221:
It's more of a personality trait that doesn't match up with my three big astrological placements. Declaring love is rather dramatic and I am realist.

do you mind if I ask you what is your venus placement? (the sign its in, more in particular?)

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posted October 09, 2012 10:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for RedScorp     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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it might be better to bite or grab too rather than waste all that time writing right?

LOL consent first!

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posted October 09, 2012 10:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by RedScorp:
LOL consent first!

that's relative....

just kidding

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aquaguy91
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posted October 09, 2012 10:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
why not just tell them

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posted October 09, 2012 10:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
One man told me he liked them, at least as a teen...but if she included anything about their sexual exploits he'd share it with all his friends (which he regretted once he got some maturity).

But generally speaking I'd think men would want you to show them (affection, expression, telling, etc). Of course that balance between showing & suffocating them can be as tricky when men try to do the same for women. Looking at men's choice of magazines, movies, books (comic counts), games, etc, should give you ideas, and many of these have romantic subplots (or like in the case of men's magazines will show men sharing their thoughts, concerns, and questions about women in their lives and women in general). Of course it works even better if you get access to the media preferred by a specific man as not all men are the same.

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posted October 09, 2012 11:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
One man told me he liked them, at least as a teen...but if she included anything about their sexual exploits he'd share it with all his friends (which he regretted once he got some maturity).

But generally speaking I'd think men would want you to show them (affection, expression, telling, etc). Of course that balance between showing & suffocating them can be as tricky when men try to do the same for women. Looking at men's choice of magazines, movies, books (comic counts), games, etc, should give you ideas, and many of these have romantic subplots (or like in the case of men's magazines will show men sharing their thoughts, concerns, and questions about women in their lives and women in general). Of course it works even better if you get access to the media preferred by a specific man as not all men are the same.


this sounds very sweet, I like it.

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posted October 09, 2012 11:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
why not just tell them

we live in this world of informality, wouldn't it be sweet to receive something so classic as a love letter?

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posted October 09, 2012 11:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by asclibrasagsun:
we live in this world of informality, wouldn't it be sweet to receive something so classic as a love letter?

I suppose.

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posted October 10, 2012 12:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I suppose.

I mean maybe not for a young man to receive, I guess it depends on the maturity level of the person, because I can imagine that it is a lot to handle

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posted October 10, 2012 12:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Want to impress me, write original, perfect prose poetry.

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posted October 10, 2012 12:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Want to impress me, write original, perfect prose poetry.

What about a nicely written love letter that is not overly gushy but sincere?
(and may include some "original prose poetry")?

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posted October 10, 2012 05:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by asclibrasagsun:
What about a nicely written love letter that is not overly gushy but sincere?
(and may include some "original prose poetry")?

It's nice when it's sincere But a simple "I love you" would suffice especially when it's written all over your face

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posted October 10, 2012 07:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think that it depends on a few things. I specifically have in mind a "revelation of feelings"/first-time love letter, but it could be applied to love letters that come after that/subsequent letters. Personally, I like the idea of people writing letters to each other even after they've been together a long time, maybe even after marriage, and mailing them to each other/leaving them in places where the other will find them. I like the idea of it being a secret, too, that only they (and maybe the post office) know about. I like the idea of something tangible that you can refer back to and even carry with you if you wanted to do so.

--ideally, there should be an established relationship; it would be really inappropriate and freak someone out if you aren't even dating or friends or close (as in, if you just have a crush on someone and you write them something too intense)

If nothing else, there should be some kind of friendship/long-time close personal acquaintance. While the "longing from afar" thing might be "cute" in movies, in real life it is creepy and not appropriate.

--Nothing cheesy. Nothing overly sappy. Nothing copied from somewhere else, unless it's a brief quotation and it's said that it's a quote (rather than passing something off as your own).

--If you can't write poetry, better to not do it. If you can't write prose, better to not do it. Play to your strengths, not your weaknesses.

--Be sincere, but not overly 'heavy' in a letter: don't freak the other person out, especially if you don't know whether or not they feel the same way. Say what you need to say and what you really feel, but don't do too much or go too far. Don't be creepy or come on too strong (again, especially if you do not know if feelings are reciprocated).

I'd say it's OK to make the other person laugh or smile a little, but too much humor or not enough seriousness might make things confusing or come off as a joke, which may not go over well--may seem weird or insensitive.

--Don't go on too much. 1-2 pages should suffice.

--No, no, no to vulgarity. It's a love letter, not a sex letter. Don't be crass, crude, or disgusting.

--I like the idea of mailing it, leaving it where that person will find it (and it won't be intercepted), or otherwise giving it to the person in private. I'd say it's better not to be present while he/she reads it, and to give him/her time to absorb it.

--Handwritten is better than email, unless your handwriting is horrible. If you know calligraphy (or can learn it), or can decorate/illuminate the letter, so much the better. Show that you put some time, effort, and energy into it.

--Respect privacy. Do NOT show love letters to other people, or quote them, unless the other person is OK with it.

I really liked the letter that Brian wrote for Jordan to give to Angela on "My So-Called Life". (Note: they were all teens, I think around 15 or thereabouts, on the show--some were slightly older/younger in real life--so it's on that level).

Here's a link to it (it's the fifth quote on the page):
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0654953/quotes

--Lastly, do NOT be nasty to the person if she/he doesn't reciprocate your feelings. Accept it, take time to heal, get over it, move on, and sincerely wish the person well in your heart.

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posted October 10, 2012 07:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted October 10, 2012 08:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lilithpluto     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
It's nice when it's sincere But a simple "I love you" would suffice especially when it's written all over your face

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posted October 10, 2012 10:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ail221:
I wouldn't declare my love for a man


What is your Venus? Gemini?

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posted October 10, 2012 10:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for libraschoice77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Your going to finally declare your love for the Sagi guy you spoke of in other posts, wonderful!

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posted October 10, 2012 10:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:

What is your Venus? Gemini?



Yup Venus in Gemini

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posted October 10, 2012 11:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by libraschoice77:
Your going to finally declare your love for the Sagi guy you spoke of in other posts, wonderful!

not quite ready yet!

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