posted October 13, 2012 11:39 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
spanking is a neccesary saturnian experience! accept it! like saturn it promises great rewards.

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Saturnian

posted October 13, 2012 11:41 PM            

I really don't want this to get ugly or nasty, so I'll simply say that I can see your side of it, and I want to respect you even though we disagree on this one.

I will say, though, that I have never, ever hit a child or an animal, and wouldn't, unless someone was attacking me and I needed to protect myself.

It's not that I hate kids, but I just can't really connect with them or click with them on their level. I can do that with most breeds of dog, and am very patient and loving with them in general, but I just don't have that same connection with kids. So, I choose not to parent, as I know it wouldn't be a good choice for me.

I do NOT condone abuse or beatings, at all--that is never OK.

The only other thing that I will say is that I do NOT enjoy violence. To be honest, I think that what I initially said came out harsher than I meant it to, and I'd like you to please un-quote me.

It's not that I enjoy the violence, but honestly, when kids act up (as in, really act up), I start feeling very intensely anxious, and start worrying that they might do something to me/cause me harm or injury/become violent. So, it's not just a matter of annoyance for me. Annoyance is part of it, but not all. I'm relieved when people do discipline their kids and this doesn't escalate/nothing bad happens. I feel relieved that the action is stopped.

And, to be clear, I don't think a very mild spanking (which is what I personally mean by spanking--anything beyond that would be abuse and wrong) should usually be the first resort, except extreme cases. And some kids might not need spanking at all.

Also, for the record, you absolutely are considerate when you take your kid out when he/she misbehaves. That is respectful of others, yourself, and the kid. So, thank you for being polite and thinking of others around you. I'm sure people around you appreciate it. I know I would, if I were them.

So, again, agree to disagree.