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Topic: Friends with Benifits
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PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 8532
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 08, 2015 10:37 PM
  
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Originally posted by Selenite:
I just want to point out that going to an amusement park is by no means a mundane activity, especially if it's a place like Disney World. It can be a truly magical experience, especially with someone you have a strong emotional connection with. !
Ah, Disneyland in Anaheim...best to go with someone special as the lines can be long! But fun, and I've met some of the most interesting people there (like the poor guy who normally lived up in the arctic circle who decided to spend in summer in sunny California and was completely overwhelmed). Me and a little boy purchased the components to build our own lightsabers...an excellent investment, years of good memories from that for both of us. However, my partner (Scorpio Venus & Mars, Cancer moon) got jealous of the 3 adult men who liked to duel me with their own lightsabers, but there's a funny side even to that.  IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
Knowflake Posts: 18295
From: Venus cornering Neptune
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted May 09, 2015 07:41 AM
Distant visual evaluation of someone as being "hot" and attractive, them or their body parts, is the very first and tiny layer of physical attraction, many times illusory. Out of those, only a few will prove to be someone who really attracts you for sex, and this happens (the confirmation)when you get close to them, touch them, kiss them etc. Out of those, some will prove to be fleeting/misplaced attraction (not real attraction/ compatibility/chemistry (and the "mistake" has various causes, physical and psychological)- after having sex with them once or several times, it goes away and turns into indifference/even repulsion, it proves to be an illusion).A few of them will prove to be the real thing: real strong physical attraction/chemistry/compatibility. It only reveals itself with some time and constant physical interaction. Some of those have a few years span (usually fades away after the honeymoon period, or during the midlife crisis). The real kind, however, is very stable, usually takes for life (and of course, it will experience the adrenaline/endorphin -to -oxytocin/endorphin - it's actually a cocktail - age-related evolution). ------------------
I seem to have loved you in numberless forms... LeeLoo's Esotericorner Connect for updates IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
Knowflake Posts: 18295
From: Venus cornering Neptune
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted May 09, 2015 07:42 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Hahahaha! Love this LoLYes... it's totally magical - More people should go to Disney world  
Good point, Selenite!
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Vajra
Knowflake Posts: 1738
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Registered: Dec 2012
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posted May 09, 2015 05:07 PM
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Jo B
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posted May 19, 2015 08:45 PM
I'd be very wary of falling into the "trap" of friends with benefits with someone. Invariably one person will be wanting more while the other is happy to keep the status quo, so there will be a permanent state of dissatisfaction and tension.I've never even done it. As soon as I catch a whiff of someone who wants that situation with me, I drop them like a hot potato. IP: Logged |
polkadotstars
Knowflake Posts: 835
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Registered: Feb 2015
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posted June 06, 2015 10:29 AM
I have realized I am just not capable of a FWB relationship. I get too emotionally wrapped up in someone very easily, even though I try to play it cool. And on top of that, I only can have sex with someone that I trust and that I am interested in. I've never interested in one night stands or sleeping with someone just for fun. I wish I was one of those girls who looked at sex like guys do in a nonchalant manner, however I can't. It sucks lolIP: Logged |
Odette
Moderator Posts: 6755
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Registered: May 2012
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posted June 06, 2015 07:34 PM
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, I only can have sex with someone that I trust
Do you usually distrust people you refer to as "friends"? If not... then... maybe what you're talking about is "casual sex", not FWB. "Friends with benefits" are friends. If they were not friends at all, they shouldn't call each other FWB.
In that case - they are just people who know each other and have sex - not "friends" having sex. IP: Logged | |
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