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Topic: never forgetting your first love
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aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
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posted December 20, 2012 01:50 AM
  
they say you will never forget your first love, but is it true? its been 3 years since i last spoke to/saw mine and i still think of her all the time (facepalm) and i remember everything like it happened yesterday. i still remember her voice vividly(keep in mind we havent spoken in like 3 years) and i remember conversations we had in great detail. maybe its a venus/saturn thing, i hope this doesnt haunt me forever lol.IP: Logged |
sand
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posted December 20, 2012 01:57 AM
Not her. The idea of her. Every girl I truly truly like has something about them that reminds me of her. Almost like an imprint. She was v v sweet libra Venus and merc. And v v caring. Taurus rising and moon. Could be naggy, icy ***** too. Virgo sun lol! Mars in sag. Wild. Untamed. Does not give a flying fuk. Will do it anywhere.  IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
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From: wales
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posted December 20, 2012 02:06 AM
I fink about dem sometimes...not often, but now and then. It's not fond nor in disdain (unless people bring my ex up!), though I did appreciate all the night time favours they'd do me!  IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 20, 2012 10:13 AM
Will never forget, alright. It was a nightmare. Definitely not a pleasant experience that I am fond of.IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted December 20, 2012 02:56 PM
I don't forget it but I have no emotions attached.. I just don't care. It is not positive or negative.. I'm just beyond caring about that person. They have more of a "family member I'm no longer close to & have not seen in a long while" vibe.IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted December 20, 2012 02:57 PM
sand - mine was the opposite of yours lol Pisces with Merc&Venus in Aries. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted December 20, 2012 03:08 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
I don't forget it but I have no emotions attached.. I just don't care. It is not positive or negative.. I'm just beyond caring about that person. They have more of a "family member I'm no longer close to & have not seen in a long while" vibe.
haha i wish i felt the same way. d*mn you venus saturn! IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted December 20, 2012 04:38 PM
I think about them all the time! I'm still a leeeeetle bitter about the whole thing but overall TONS better than in the past. I have Moon in Taurus that's strongly aspected. Trine to Saturn for one, and opposition to Pluto. So I hold grudges. I also have Venus square Saturn.He was a Leo, Sag moon, Mercury in Cancer, Venus in Leo, Mars in Leo, Jupiter in Aries, Saturn and Uranus in Sag and had Capricorn ASC and Neptune in Capricorn. IP: Logged |
Xiiro
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From: San Diego CA, USA
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posted December 20, 2012 05:02 PM
I think about him once a month usually. I remember him as vividly as you do aqua, but like sand said, it's an image of him. The person he is now could never make me feel the way he did then and part of that had to do with my own youth and naivete. In that way the longing loses power somehow, like a dream or a movie you wish with all your heart were real. It has been about 5 years since we last spoke and though he still scratches at the back of my head, I am a much better person when we are apart. Mine was Sun Pisces
Mercury Pisces
Moon Aquarius
Venus Aries
Mars Aquarius IP: Logged |
SaturnineMoth
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted December 20, 2012 06:08 PM
I don't think I have ever truly been in love. :x My saying has always been "love is never love after the fact" - once the chemistry dies, or things end, it becomes bitterly obvious that it wasn't indeed love at all... I tend to avoid using the 'L' word altogether in relationships.... Saturnine black & white perception doesn't allow for impractical ideals.... always seeks something enduring, if it doesn't endure - clearly it wasn't real. *shrug* However, there was one who I could have loved if the events and timing surrounding our encounters had been just slightly different. It has been over 10 years now since, and a good 7 years since we last conversed. But, even in passing moments, the draw is still there, very clearly for both of us. But, it was in the "forbidden" category of relations... and our timing was off, and we made a huge mistake in our impatience, and the heat of the moment. Purely, karmic...
His south/north nodal axis was aligned with my vertex. His Moon cnj my Venus 15° Sagittarius on my South Node. ~_~ I can vividly remember everything about him, every bittersweet detail and deed... have never forgotten anything. Most of all how we never needed words to communicate. Aries Sun (my 8h)
Sagittarius Moon (my 4h/cnj Venus SN)
Cancer Asc (my Sun cnj his Dsc)
Pisces Mercury (cnj my Dsc)
Gemini Venus (barely)
Leo Mars (my 12h) He was perfection... and still is. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 20, 2012 06:47 PM
I've always been bitter about my first love, even 31 years later. Even after been married 20 years. It's an indelible episode of my life and it was honestly the most tragic thing that had happened to me up to that point. It was incredibly sorrowful and it was what we call a "game changer." From then on, I became cynical about all females. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 20, 2012 06:47 PM
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Originally posted by Xiiro:
I think about him once a month usually. I remember him as vividly as you do aqua, but like sand said, it's an image of him. The person he is now could never make me feel the way he did then and part of that had to do with my own youth and naivete. In that way the longing loses power somehow, like a dream or a movie you wish with all your heart were real. It has been about 5 years since we last spoke and though he still scratches at the back of my head, I am a much better person when we are apart. Mine was Sun Pisces
Mercury Pisces
Moon Aquarius
Venus Aries
Mars Aquarius
well maybe its the same for me, but i have no way of knowing if my memories are just an image or not because i havent seen or spoken to her in over 3 years, the memories are all i have. perhaps if she was nearby still i'd be able to see that she has become a completely different person and it would help me get over her. all i know is we had something that seemed perfect and the next second things ended, i still dont completely understand what happened. it was very very complicated . IP: Logged |
sand
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posted December 20, 2012 07:04 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
sand - mine was the opposite of yours lol Pisces with Merc&Venus in Aries.
U know what that was my 2nd! funny I went for someone totally opposite at least astrologically. IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
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From: The Etheric Realms...Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat...& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
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posted December 20, 2012 07:53 PM
When it is over it is over, move on.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted December 20, 2012 08:09 PM
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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
When it is over it is over, move on.
haha easier said then done IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
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posted December 20, 2012 08:37 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
haha easier said then done
Depends on the person.
I find it better/logical, to not waste my precious time.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
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posted December 20, 2012 08:42 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
haha easier said then done
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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
Depends on the person.
I find it better/logical, to not waste my precious time.
congratulations , anything else you want to say  IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
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posted December 20, 2012 09:00 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
congratulations , anything else you want to say
Not the expected reaction, but OK. 
Not trying to trivialize things,
but it is like your favorite rare/one of a kind tea cup.
Once it is broken there is no sense in mourning it, nor easy or even possible to repair, and it would never be the same anyhow.
Then to go on trying to find another cup that is just like it will taint your appreciation of another one.If it were actually love and not pining/desire/hope/wishes/of how you wanted things to be, or things went badly,
then it was not actually love, and definitely not mutual/compatible.
Also people change.
If change happens and leads to incompatibility;
love means letting go so that both people can find what works for them. IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
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From: The Etheric Realms...Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat...& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
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posted December 20, 2012 09:05 PM
When I think of first love,
I tend to think of the innocence of young childhood type ones.
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aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
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posted December 20, 2012 09:07 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
congratulations , anything else you want to say
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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
Not the expected reaction, but OK.
Not trying to trivialize things,
but it is like your favorite rare/one of a kind tea cup.
Once it is broken there is no sense in mourning it, nor easy or even possible to repair, and it would never be the same anyhow.
Then to go on trying to find another cup that is just like it will taint your appreciation of another one.If it were actually love and not pining/desire/hope/wishes/of how you wanted to be or went badly,
then it was not actually love, and definitely not mutual/compatible.
Also people change.
If change happens and leads to incompatibility;
love means letting go so that both people can find what works for them.
im just talking about memories here, memories tend to be an elusive thing, they come and go. entertaining those is another matter
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Lexxigramer
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posted December 20, 2012 09:14 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
im just talking about memories here, memories tend to be an elusive thing, they come and go. entertaining those is another matter
Memories are good.
Just do not allow them to become an obsession that clouds your judgement when it comes to the next potential loved one.
Hold gently the good memories;
learn from the bad ones.
Also you are young and 3 years is a very short time.
I hope the memories are more good than bad.
And no, it will not haunt you forever.
Once you find another, and also with time,
the "haunting" feeling will calm down.
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Yin
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posted December 21, 2012 10:15 AM
I'm confused as to who my first love actually is. The boy in middle school? My HS crush? The first man I made love to? I love them all but I have let them all go as well. The only person I still mourn after almost 20 years is someone whose life was cut short at 19 and only because he should have had a chance to live and grow old. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted December 21, 2012 11:21 AM
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Originally posted by Yin:
I'm confused as to who my first love actually is. The boy in middle school? My HS crush? The first man I made love to? I love them all but I have let them all go as well. The only person I still mourn after almost 20 years is someone whose life was cut short at 19 and only because he should have had a chance to live and grow old.
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 21, 2012 12:37 PM
My first love was clear. I nurtured her for two years. I didn't touch her and kept her a virgin out of respect and love. Yet, I didn't touch anyone else out of the same love and respect.In the end, she got pregnant with the child of my best childhood friend, and to make matters worse, he weaseled out. I got double betrayed. I got thrown an obligation even though I had nothing to do with the baby girl,w hich she kept. Even then, although I wanted no part of the mother's life, I still provided some financial support from time to time. No, I didn't visit the baby because that baby was not mine. That baby girl is now 28 years old. And she because a single mother herself, with children out of wedlock herself. It took me three years after that episode just recover from the tragedy and sorrow. I will never forget. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 21, 2012 03:45 PM
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Originally posted by Yin:
I'm confused as to who my first love actually is. The boy in middle school? My HS crush? The first man I made love to? I love them all but I have let them all go as well. The only person I still mourn after almost 20 years is someone whose life was cut short at 19 and only because he should have had a chance to live and grow old.
i guess it just depends on how you view things. like yta mine was very clear, nothing i had before or since holds a candle to the love i had for her, in all likliehood ill prolly never love anybody that much again. i've also never grieved over losing another gf like i did when i lost her. i was in a deep deep depression for a long time.
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