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Yin
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posted January 02, 2013 06:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you.

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posted January 02, 2013 06:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
advice to OP was received.

So, i've deleted my comment.

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posted January 02, 2013 06:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ShyVirgo1979     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hmm...idk if this really counts as therapy but yrs and yrs ago I went to 2 marriage counseling sessions thinking it would save my shi**y marriage and I honestly didn't care for that therapist bc I noticed that like 20 min b4 the end of each session he would constantly look at the clock. He even had said he would be going to see his daughter at home. So I felt like his mind was somewhere else instead in there with me. Which when ur paying money I should be getting the full attention. Sry if that sounds selfish lol that's how I feel.

Back in 09 I put my daughter in counseling a few months after my divorce was finalized. Now that therapist I liked. Maybe its the fact that it was a woman and I felt more at ease? Idk. She listened to every damn word I said.

So not that I have loads of experience but my advice to u is to go with ur gut feeling. If ur not feeling comfortable with the therapist then its not the right one. I do not know if they give free sessions. There will always be the consultation which is ur first appt. U tell ur story to them on y ur there. In the few times I have dealt with therapy they take notes at that first session and they (with me and also my daughter) tell me how many sessions they think might be needed. But definitely pay attention. I'm a virgo and I notice things which some days is a curse but I use the things I notice to get a general feel about things/ppl. Gut instincts r usually right. They usually dont fail u.

Hope this helps.

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posted January 02, 2013 07:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'd love to find a professional that was also a bit of a shaman, or psychic, .....or had enough spiritual wisdom to go along with what they learned in school. Someone with a foot in both worlds. Seems those types are few and far between. It goes either one way or the other.

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posted January 02, 2013 07:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I should be going to therapy, too. My mother found one that would be free for me, because I have no income, but I have to be feeling somewhat better in order to want to go - when I feel more overwhelmed, I don't see the point.

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posted January 02, 2013 07:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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posted January 02, 2013 07:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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posted January 02, 2013 07:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi teasel, you should go if I go!

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posted January 02, 2013 07:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Teasel, I know what you mean. Part of the reason I have not sought out anyone since then. When I think of all the things there is to talk about, or that I'd have to explain.......it's extremely overwhelming. So, I shut down and prefer to try and 'go it alone'. Thinking no one would really understand or care anyway. So why bother? Best to try and heal thyself. ? Maybe, maybe not....

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posted January 02, 2013 07:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I first wanted therapy in early 2008, and then I put it off, even though I realized that my emotions were more intense than they should be, in dealing with certain things, and I had all sorts of fears that had to be dealt with, despite my getting over agoraphobia by myself, and using things like flower essences, meditation cds, exercise, and now gardening.

In some ways, I think just putting myself into certain situations should help - I sometimes wake up and think that some things should be so much easier than they are, and I envy people who have high amounts of self-confidence. I was thinking about the men I've been attracted to over the past two years, and they all seem to have higher than average self-confidence, they don't seem to let things get to them, they're social (mostly), or just content. And then I feel inferior due to my situation and my lack of experience in several things in life, and it sends me back down. I know I need to talk to someone - I can't talk to my mother about certain things, because she gets defensive, and that just makes things worse between us.

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posted January 02, 2013 07:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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posted January 02, 2013 07:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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posted January 02, 2013 07:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Yin:
Has anyone here been to counseling? Feel free to share your experiences. I know some of you are psychologists by education. Ami, I'm looking at you

One of my new years resolutions is to start therapy.

What is it like? What should I expect?
What if I don't like the counselor? Do they offer free sessions? How would I know we're a good match?

Any input is welcome. Thanks all!



Any time--ANY time, I went to therapy I got worse. I started therapy when I was in 6th grade. I went for most of my life--off and on--mostly on

They make you into a walking head. You know all your issues, back and forth, but inside you get worse and worse because you depend on your head and not your heart. Your heart is the key to emotional and mental health. Most people in the field are nutty, too.I know this from behind the scenes. You know that my mother is a practicing therapist and I know many, many people who are.

Find a mature person to use as a role model. Pick that person's brain. You need several,actually. Find people you respect whom you KNOW. Anyone can look great behind a desk with a ton of diplomas on the wall. You know nothing about how this person handles life,yet you trust your mind to them.

That is my 2 cents. It is my opinion and experience, obviously, not all people's experience.
Thank you for valuing my opinion enough to ask. You know that I have a Masters degree in Counseling. You don't need good mental health to get these degrees. You just have to know how to spit back information.

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posted January 02, 2013 09:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Just wanted to say to all the posters in this thread.......

i've a sneaking suspicion we are probably doing better than we realize we are....

Yeah! Really!

I wrote out why I think so, but deleted it. Will just leave it at that instead. Food for thought. I bet if you chewed on it, you'd think so too.

&...

(((hugs)))

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posted January 02, 2013 10:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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T, I agree. A shaman or a psychic or a witch psychotherapist, anybody with special abilities like that would be great. But how do you find those people? And will my insurance cover it?

I am even afraid to read self help books. I'm afraid that I may take the wrong advice. Do the wrong thing. I'm paralyzed with fear most of the time.


Damn fear! It screws everything up! lol

I hear you there though - about not wanting to do the wrong thing/taking the wrong advice. Fear paralyzes. Have to practice getting really quiet within to be able to hear that strong wise voice that resides in all of us. The all knowing one.

That's the one that might tell us that there are no 'wrong' moves anyway.

Trying to make a habit of getting in better touch with mine.

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posted January 02, 2013 10:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
back to respond more when i'm more rested.

All the best to you all.

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posted January 03, 2013 10:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, meditation sounds like a good idea. I SHOULD try it.

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posted January 03, 2013 10:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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posted January 03, 2013 03:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Goodluck!

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posted January 03, 2013 04:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
There was a study that showed the less education a therapist had the more effective the therapist was. Just saying.

Beware that some therapists get bounties and kickbacks for prescribing treatments and medications (if you have to pay money for it then it's possible some of what you pay will secretly get kicked back to the therapist).

Many get into psychotherapy to deal with their own problems but fail to do so and thus work out their issues through their clients (to their detriment). The Jungians at least realized this and made all their therapists get years of therapy (whether they "needed it or not") before being licensed to give therapy to others.

I personally have not been impressed with the profession, and as I've told people before who dismiss astrology, a couples counselor made me and a partner worse (and the platitudes were so groan worthy, and ironically more new age than the astrologer we saw next), whereas the astrologer we saw next improved us almost instantly by comparing our charts...and though after years there was a harsh breakup the astrologer did warn us that it wasn't likely to last and suggested we treat it more as a fling and remain friends after, and in retrospect I see the astrologer was right.

That said, one Jungian psychologist (still in training and going through her own mandatory therapy) was helpful to me. And so was a PTSD group session where we basically talked it out, compared notes, shared our experiences and our tips for getting through them, and that was helpful. There was a counselor at the group session but she mainly let us talk among ourselves, she only intervened if someone started freaking out (which virtually never happened) and the rare refereeing.

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posted January 03, 2013 05:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi PixieJane. That's interesting about the Jungian psychologists. Would you recommend them over a traditional one?

How do you (I) find a group therapy setting?

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posted January 03, 2013 05:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I personally would go to a Jungian first. However, they're more about helping you become the person you're meant to be and so they generally don't want to dwell on things like traumatic events. They can be helpful in cases of depression, trauma, etc, but they're going to be more focused on where you're going rather than where you've been (which is why I prefer them myself) which means if you want to talk about your feelings for a long while first then a Jungian therapist might not be for you (with the notable exception of dreams, they seem to love talking about that).

Oh yes, I've heard good things about EMDR, so if you want to focus more on the past then I'd recommend that (I had good results with this but I got the therapy from one who had already received it, not a professional).

As for finding group therapy, it's easy to find a referral to such a group if you ask in the right place. For me, I got invited to a PTSD group that a friend went to (and she'd gotten referred by a rape crisis counselor).

Looks like this might work, too:

http://findgrouptherapy.com/

Beware of getting referred through state run workers, their objective seems to be to get as many on medication as possible and then manage them (and sometimes their money), that is they're more interested in running your life for you then helping you run yours, and given their workload they have a very hard time making sure your meds aren't having an adverse effect on you.

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posted January 03, 2013 07:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Ami!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Makes sense about the mentor.


I would love to find a woman who would coach me with enough grace and kindness. There have been a couple of Pisces women that have come close to that ideal with their soaring spirits and unfaltering kindness but I catch myself feeling low despite their best advice.
I know the answers are more within that outside but I'm at a "need outside help" stage right now!


Yes, pray for God to send you the right people. Have a few so you don't wear one out lol
After you pray, look around and see who is there. I bet you find them. Let me know what happens!

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