posted January 11, 2013 10:44 AM            

My happiness doesnt depend on being in a relationship or not either. I'll always stay open to it, and would also be happy if the right person came along, but am quite content being single and okay if I never found the right person, too.

& no, people don't often understand that or think something is wrong with you for not really wanting a relationship (or children for that matter).

Mars is in Leo in my 7th and I do find that - like mockingbird said, I flourish in a healthy relationship and will put my heart and soul into it - give it 110% and do sometimes miss having that, but don't tend to fret over it at all. My energy (mars) is best suited in that arena and flows natrually when there is that outlet there. That placement coupled with Venus in 5th really loves an uplifting and fun person to be with. But in a bad one end up completely drained on all levels and won't put myself through that ever again. I think I'm still recovering from my last relationship, which was a disaster. At this point it needs to be fun and easy, and coming from deep respect of one another, like being with a best friend. I've done enough work and been in enough heavy, karmic draining relationships for this lifetime (Saturn in 7th also).

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Pixie Jane
I am ok being single (and with celibacy). I see pros & cons to being singled and being coupled.

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Same here.

Moon/Pluto in 8th and don't need sex either. Can take it or leave it really. Just like many people would find that outrageous (?) or hard to understand, i find it just as interesting when people say it's top priority and have a strong need for it. No judgement, just interesting.

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Ironically I think that makes me more desirable to those always looking for a partner who can come off as clingy, needy, and even desperate. Many of them actually work hard to hide themselves rather than share themselves (for example, many "share" by saying they love music and movies, as if most others didn't, but don't clarify and don't reveal anything more significant which can come off as manipulative, like they're fishing for info and going to say whatever it is they think the other wants to hear), and many make it even worse by trying to make themselves appear a lot different than they are. Add in that many go to places where people are just looking for sex and I believe that has a lot to do with why they have such bad luck. In my case I've generally pushed people away that I didn't already know and were more interested in romance and/or sex and have felt much better for it than in my youth when I indulged that sort of interests more. And people I've befriended and formed bonds with (that is I was nice to them and shared myself without any thought of sex or romance) that are more than transient lust & desire have more to bond with me over if it heats up, already has a pretty good idea about who I am so they don't build up some fantasy about me (and if they do then it's not like I tricked them into it), and there's a lot less head games as well as there's no need to hide our true selves from each other.

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Well said.

posted January 11, 2013 10:45 AM            

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Originally posted by ail221:
Do you mean just single or a step away from the nunnery?

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rofl! Funny you say that....

posted January 11, 2013 12:17 PM            

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Originally posted by T:
If you were alone - I mean, partner-less, single for the rest of your life, would you be okay with that? Could you still have a happy life.

Maybe even like, or prefer it?

If so, what is going on in your 7th / 8th / 5th houses?

Thanks.

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At this time in my life and onward, yes and yes.

5th house empty, ruled by Uranus, & conj Sun.

7th house empty (except for Vertex/NN), ruled by Mars, falls in the 1st, and sextiles Uranus.

8th house empty, ruled by Venus, conjunct Saturn/Merc.

posted January 11, 2013 04:03 PM            

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Originally posted by ail221:
The nunnery/monastery is a bit extreme but I bet those ropes are comfy but I'd probably get in trouble for hoarding in comics and reading them instead of religious texts.

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LOL!!!! just like the kid in school hiding them inside your textbook. haha

posted January 11, 2013 04:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Alma Sun:
I've read that empty houses are not important in this life, not things you need to focus on, until something transits it.

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posted January 12, 2013 05:42 AM            

My Dad was telling me yesterday, that I may have missed out on certain things so far, but I still have time - I've never been solely focused on romantic relationships (friendships have always been more important to me), and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I don't know if I blocked out a part of my more natural nature, due to things that happened to me as a kid - although I'm glad that I was never boy-crazy. For me, it's the anxiety stuff that got in the way of a regular life. The only good thing that came out of it, was more time with my family that wouldn't have happened otherwise.

posted January 12, 2013 05:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Alma Sun:
I've read that empty houses are not important in this life, not things you need to focus on, until something transits it.

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My South Node falls in the partnered/committed houses. I wonder if that's why I used to be more content on my own. I remember having the odd night in which I would wonder, "When will it be my turn?" but then I would be fine.

When I was twenty-four, I had an aunt telling me I should be out on a Friday night, dancing and meeting men. At the time, she was afraid that her husband was cheating on her, and it bugged me that people kept telling me I should be more interested than I was. One woman drove me nuts trying to set me up with her son, even going so far as to tell my mother that I'd said I would be somewhere (when I hadn't done any such thing). Mum was saying, "Oh, he'll be SO disappointed." And I said, "Tough, she knows I didn't say I'd be there. She's trying to guilt me!" I know when I want to know someone, I know when I want to be around them, and with men, I rarely meet anyone I'm attracted to.

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Originally posted by Lunae:
I've always wanted to be in committed and loving relationship (says the libran venus in me) but it seems that I'm not meant to have one. Never had a boyfriend since birth. I don't mind being single most of the time but there are really moments when I ponder and I feel empty inside. I wonder why that is so?

5th house- Sun, Mars and Pluto in Scorpio
7th house- Uranus and Neptune (and NN) in Sagittarius<< maybe this is the culprit?
8th house- Saturn in Aquarius

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posted January 12, 2013 12:39 PM            

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I know when I want to know someone, I know when I want to be around them, and with men, I rarely meet anyone I'm attracted to.

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Same here!!! Especially as i've gotten older. I don't go out of my way to meet people anyway, so that doesnt help. If I think about it, over the past 15 years or so, I've only been very interested in one guy. A fire sign I met and then realized quickly that he wasnt who I thought he was and it wouldnt work out. Bummer. Other relationships just sort of happened and were found through groups of friends. Some turned out great and others not so much. Since I don't do a lot of socializeing anymore, chances are slim that I'd meet someone anyway. Yeah, it can get tougher as you get older, but not impossible. I'm just glad that like you, I don't really care, it's not a priority for me either.

And I wouldnt dwell on feeling like you missed out on certain things too much. Probably saved yourself a lot of trouble in that department.

Some people are just late bloomers. I think you will enjoy life again single or if you meet someone and imagine i it getting even better for you as time goes on. Just a hunch.