posted January 10, 2013 06:47 PM            

Maybe even like, or prefer it?

If so, what is going on in your 7th / 8th / 5th houses?

posted January 10, 2013 07:32 PM            

I need an unnecessary amount of space. I don't have to know someone in and out to feel comfortable with them but I need to be around them, casually, for awhile without any romantic pressure to be open to a relationship. I don't like talking to someone every day, constantly, and I don't like having someone to answer to. I feel burdened when any of those needs are restricted!

posted January 10, 2013 08:21 PM            

My sun and venus are in the 7th.

There are major scorp oppositions to those planets. so everything isn't rosy for me.

posted January 10, 2013 09:46 PM            

I can be quite eccentrically content on my own, but do flourish in a good relationship.
I wither in a bad one, though, so there's that.

posted January 10, 2013 09:54 PM            

1. Very close family and friends that I interact with often
2. Sexual relationships with people

I've never been the type to need a boyfriend. I actually really enjoy being single. I think the only reason I get into romantic relationships is for the regular sex. D*ck on demand, I like to call it.

posted January 10, 2013 10:19 PM            

without a sexual partner (ever?) ~ I'd go through some pretty wild mood swings and be quite self-destructive at times~ or even violent. (just being honest)

without anyone at all~ I'd go insane, there's no doubt about it... (I have 11h Cancer... I value friendships more than I do many other things.)

But, I'm thinking you mean just committed partnerships and not permanent celibacy, right???

errr... I hope that's what you mean... x.x

I'd prefer it. Absolutely.
I'm not commitment phobic, but I am commitment skeptic... years of having my fidelity taken for granted... naturally~ I doubt anyone who promises the moon, sweet nothings, and forever-&-always anything~

what's up with my 5h~ everything...
I'm a 5h Sun, life's a game, love's a game... in love with the thought of love; the thrill of the chase~ <3
of course it's tempered out by being a Capricorn Sun... everything isn't willy-nilly all the time.
But, the Sun is at its best in the 5h... there's no contending that...
I have Sun trine Moon in 9h Taurus which is opposite Saturn in 3h Scorpio, and widely conjunct Chiron (4°)Taurus h9 as well.
Things are good when they are kept undefined, and easygoing... but when things get serious... they, really... really... get serious. (which is why I'd rather not let things go that far to begin with... I've learned to regret my natural inclination towards quickly becoming attached to acquaintanes, and for over-attachment in general, and often battle severe guilt for being such an extremist~ or for lacking self-control- as per Sat-Moon there I'm sure...)

My Sun is also bQ my Rigel & my Vesta/NN~ in Gem h10 and Narissus (and Veritas! mother of virtue!!!) in Leo h12 - what's that say 'bout me... guess I'm a little bit - secretly self-centered??? - (Rigel is also associated with narcissism, perhaps I'm predisposed to it, since it's a bQ?) ~ either way~ ^^;

My 7h - Pisces has my Sun-Moon midpoint - (23° Pisces), my NN-Ven midpoint (14° Pisces) my Moon-Ven midpoint (4° Pisces) and Lilith and Ceres cnj my 7° Dsc - opp my Asc~ but other than that... it's but a barren wasteland, and it squares all my Sagittarius placements, particularly harmful, the squares to my Venus-Uranus conjunction in Sagittarius~ Neptune is in 4h Sagittarius itself @ 29° 49' lol
Basically, my descendant does nothing for me...
it's just no use~ trying.

My 8h - Aries... also virtually empty~ Mars conjunct Pluto in Scorpio h3... opposite Juno in Taurus h9 ^^; - Mars/Pluto semisquare my Venus-Uranus in Sagittarius h4....
8h hold Eris/Pholus conjunction (14° Aries), basically these two bodies have something big in common... they're both party-crashers.... so, when the 8h cards are drawn, partners get more than they've bargained for... all in all... not a good mix... ^^; ~ plus, they make up a nifty GFT with my Venus/SN & Priapus (Leo h12).... sextile (kite?) Vesta/NN/Rigel hehe~ (8h party means having Mars, Pluto, Venus, Uranus, Vesta, Narcissus, Eris, Priapus, and Pholus all rocking the boat.... not a good environment for those seeking soft, sensual intimacy!)

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I'm fine with not having a defined relationship with anyone at all... long as I have good company to share my days with, spending my nights alone I can handle. XD (or, so I would hope!)

astrologically --- it probably comes down to that Saturn-Moon obstacle, opposition, I mean... I'd rather be safe in my solitude than allow myself to be vulnerable... I could definitely go without any emotional/physical connection. I have my child, my spirituality, and my friends.... ^^

still.....

I'd probably end up turning into one crazy-@ss, old, cat lady though..... :uhoh:

posted January 10, 2013 11:37 PM            

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Originally posted by sand:
agree with your 1 and 2.

i can also imagine just working non stop. earning a lot. paying for sex. (i never have though)

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posted January 10, 2013 11:43 PM            

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Originally posted by SaturnineMoth:

Things are good when they are kept undefined, and easygoing... but when things get serious... they, really... really... get serious....

I'm fine with not having a defined relationship with anyone at all... long as I have good company to share my days with, spending my nights alone I can handle. XD (or, so I would hope!)

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posted January 11, 2013 12:10 AM            

Do you have Moon opp Saturn or Venus square Saturn... inconjunct/semisquare???

these aspects have that effect it seems...

No matter how hard ya try to keep things in perspective... once some invisible boundary has been crossed the emotional/obsessive floodgates start pouring out~ then, there's no turning back...

it's always damned if you do, damned if you don't... that's the tricky part~ not having a true middle ground...

they say for Saturn opposite Moon that it should be an area to work on... but, I don't think I care too, sadly~ haha

the idea of being "free-agent", more or less... appeals to me more as I get older... ^^;

I don't think I ever want to live with anyone again, not even as roommates! haha

So, the idea of being single for life, it's not an unattractive possibility for me.

(That doesn't mean in anyway that I'd intend on having casual, and/or repetitious relations with anyone though...) lol just sayin'~

posted January 11, 2013 12:14 AM            

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Originally posted by frankie2912:
haha...i could never pay for sex. i can have mindless sex with a stranger, but sooner or later i'll need a true connection with a sexual partner..that doesn't mean i have to be in a relationship with them, but that DOES mean i'll need to mesh on a more intimate level.

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posted January 11, 2013 12:26 AM            

It's strange how divided people can be on this issue. I am just as awed by the fact that some people *need* to be in a relationship - as they are awed by the fact that I don't.

7th - Capricorn - with Mars/Neptune and Moon in the 7th.
(Saturn in Sagittarius trine my Sun)

8th - Aquarius - empty!
(Uranus in Sagittarius square my Mercury)

posted January 11, 2013 01:27 AM            

I was really hit with unhappiness/loneliness several years back, along with everything else that was going on. I would have the odd night before that, but it would pass. I wouldn't mind a healthy, enjoyable relationship, but it doesn't feel like it's in the cards for me, and over a year ago, I got so ****** off that I just gave up on it ever happening. I wouldn't be surprised if you missed it, though, because you had healthy relationships before the unhealthy came along.

Placidus: Pisces 5th house holds Aries Jupiter, squared by Saturn and opposed by Pluto, trined by Neptune and the Midheaven. 8th house has Gemini Moon/Venus conjunct on the cusp, and they square Mars, trine Pluto, sextile Jupiter, inconjunct uranus/ascendant, etc.

Equal house: shift Jupiter to the 6th, and Moon/Venus to the end of the 7th house.

posted January 11, 2013 01:30 AM            

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Originally posted by SaturnineMoth:

I'd probably end up turning into one crazy-@ss, old, cat lady though..... :uhoh:

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I'm already there.

Although I now hate it when people say things like that. I hate that it isn't 'okay' to be happy on your own.

posted January 11, 2013 02:48 AM            

I am ok being single (and with celibacy). I see pros & cons to being singled and being coupled. As long as I have close friends (including pets) to share life with then I'd be fine. And I've had a lot less relationships than most people, but the ones I've had were usually higher quality and almost always left me with happy memories (though one ended in heartbreak that was so bad that I consider it traumatic and was so bad because we were so close), and I'll take that over quantity.

posted January 11, 2013 06:48 AM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
Trying again:

I am ok being single (and with celibacy). I see pros & cons to being singled and being coupled. As long as I have close friends (including pets) to share life with then I'd be fine. And I've had a lot less relationships than most people, but the ones I've had were usually higher quality and almost always left me with happy memories (though one ended in heartbreak that was so bad that I consider it traumatic and was so bad because we were so close), and I'll take that over quantity.

Ironically I think that makes me more desirable to those always looking for a partner who can come off as clingy, needy, and even desperate. Many of them actually work hard to hide themselves rather than share themselves (for example, many "share" by saying they love music and movies, as if most others didn't, but don't clarify and don't reveal anything more significant which can come off as manipulative, like they're fishing for info and going to say whatever it is they think the other wants to hear), and many make it even worse by trying to make themselves appear a lot different than they are. Add in that many go to places where people are just looking for sex and I believe that has a lot to do with why they have such bad luck. In my case I've generally pushed people away that I didn't already know and were more interested in romance and/or sex and have felt much better for it than in my youth when I indulged that sort of interests more. And people I've befriended and formed bonds with (that is I was nice to them and shared myself without any thought of sex or romance) that are more than transient lust & desire have more to bond with me over if it heats up, already has a pretty good idea about who I am so they don't build up some fantasy about me (and if they do then it's not like I tricked them into it), and there's a lot less head games as well as there's no need to hide our true selves from each other.

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I've never indulged the idiots who hit on me, in sex, and I don't go to bars - I've only ever ducked into one to use the bathroom.

I was fine until I got my heart broken - I trusted the wrong person. that whole situation was weird and disorienting. I wanted to meet someone better, but it hasn't happened. Most men my age tend to "prefer someone younger" and I keep getting hit on by inappropriate men, who I promptly push away.
Since pets and family have been dying off, and more than one family relationship is toast, I've felt like I have no foundation - it's gone.