posted January 18, 2013 10:07 PM            

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Originally posted by hippichick:
OOO and Lexx,, LOVED your post!!!

True love does not necessarially mean the more sexual side of things, especially for ladies of our ages...

There is SO much out there~

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posted January 19, 2013 07:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Swift Freeze:
Ultimately if it came to it, I would let her go, if that is truly what she wanted. I've learned, not easily, that Love isn't something you can take, Love is only something you can give.

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Yes so true, even though that is the hardest thing to do I'm learning the hard way as well.. Love and manipulation are not meant to coexist..

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Originally posted by Hera:
I am in a Cold Mountain sort of situation. And I'm an Aries. Patience for love is.. very very hard. I wouldn't mind moving to another country, city, change religion, name, whatever, sleep on the ground and whatnot.. but don't keep me waiting without a bone to chew! lol And yet here am I trying to do it, overcome one of my biggest limitations for this.

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I'm in a very similar situation, and feel the same way about being really impatient at this point. It's not that I can't wait, truth be told I would wait another 5 years for this person if that's what was best, but I don't want to be waiting around for nothing. Although I know there are never guarantees even in an established relationship.

I know most people would say just walk away but I'm trying to separate my pride out from it because I know just because I'm feeling insecure about the way everything in my life feels so up in the air right now doesn't mean I can try to force him into something he's not ready for or expect him to fit his life around my time schedule..

If I really really love someone my Cap Sun plays for keeps, and I can stick out the delays if it means making room for something substantial in the future. But it's still really hard and confusing..

eta: I think for me personally that's also my Sun conjunct Saturn and NN in 7th house Cap talking, long term relationships with real intimacy and commitment and all of that feel out of reach to me in general, I expect them to come with delays and obligations I shouldn't have to or would rather not fulfill, so I can hold on to something that isn't working out and be persistent to a fault..

Then with Moon and Pluto in my 5th, flings on the other hand feel natural and safe to me. But now T Saturn is in my 5th house squaring my Aqua Venus opp Leo Jupiter, so that's just not doing it for me anymore... I'm being forced to really examine the reasons behind my fear of love and real intimacy, and the ways all of my distractions in "love" have only kept me trapped repeating the same cycle..

posted January 19, 2013 07:59 PM            

I fell in love once and I still care about him a great deal. He's an awesome person. It's too bad things just couldn't work between us.

If I met the love of my life I would expect the feelings to be very mutual.. Otherwise I wouldn't ever consider him 'the love of my life' in the first place.
I don't feel like I should have to earn someone's love or try very hard to keep it. If a person is not passionately into me - then good luck to them.
It should feel like things are flowing between us... not like I am struggling to earn someone's love.

What would you be able to give or make compromises of or sacrifice?

I'd give anything to make them happy. I'm a very open person and I definitely feel like "what's mine is yours" when I'm in love.
When it comes to compromises... it really depends on how it affects my life. I'm generally very clear on what I want and I'd expect the other person to be supportive.
The thing is I could never fall in love with someone who was not supportive. The man I was in love with was always 100% behind me.
And obviously I would also be supportive of him and his own goals.

What would you be willing to learn?

Anything - Everything. I'm open to learning anything....

And what would you refuse?..

posted January 19, 2013 11:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Financial restraints, disagreements, distance etc stuff like that won't stand in my way, but if he disrespects me , my thoughts, my body, our relationship or disrespects my family, I'm outta there!

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A strong woman...here here!

Wish I would have never let any of the above happen with my past relationships..

posted January 20, 2013 12:56 AM            

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Originally posted by hippichick:
A strong woman...here here!

Wish I would have never let any of the above happen with my past relationships..

A silly love struck Pisces (delusional) Pisces....always~

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I think I put up with too much bs in the past that now I'm just not as... Accommodating anymore?

posted January 20, 2013 01:45 AM            

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Originally posted by sand:
Nothing. They should go the lengths for me, not I them.

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posted January 20, 2013 01:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
If you had met the love of your life, to what lengths would you go for that love, to earn it and keep it? What would you be able to give or make compromises of or sacrifice? What would you be willing to learn?

And what would you refuse?..

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I don't have boundaries which is why i know i am opening myself to hurt so I am very cautious at onset. No one gets close easily. I am a romantic at heart!! I think this has to be Venus opposite Neptune . I guess change job, move location, etc. Except killing myself in the name of love. That's a bit spooky. I do love myself equally as much as i do him

I do get my heart broken too but I moved on for good too eventually. No reminiscing. No regrets. It's all or nothing. Lovers or strangers. Just as long as he doesn't make me regret trusting him, I think I will have no regret knowing him.

posted January 20, 2013 11:39 AM            

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Originally posted by lilithpluto:
Hahahaha... is that scorpio or taurus dominant speaking?

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posted January 20, 2013 11:42 AM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
If you had met the love of your life, to what lengths would you go for that love, to earn it and keep it? What would you be able to give or make compromises of or sacrifice? What would you be willing to learn?

And what would you refuse?..

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Originally posted by lilithpluto:
I don't have boundaries which is why i know i am opening myself to hurt so I am very cautious at onset. No one gets close easily. I am a romantic at heart!! I think this has to be Venus opposite Neptune . I guess change job, move location, etc. Except killing myself in the name of love. That's a bit spooky. I do love myself equally as much as i do him

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Originally posted by lilithpluto:

I do get my heart broken too but I moved on for good too eventually. No reminiscing. No regrets.

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It's all or nothing. Lovers or strangers. Just as long as he doesn't make me regret trusting him, I think I will have no regret knowing him.

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posted January 21, 2013 07:30 AM            

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Originally posted by RedScorp:
Oh well hey! I have an Aquarius Moon square. Affection is an uncomfortable thing with me! Coming from a significant other. I'm okay with affection from friends. But in relationships, I don't know why, I want to keep them at a distance when we're with company.

Like, say we were all watching movies, me + lover and friends. I wouldn't want to hold hands, or kiss, or anything! But if we were alone, completely different! We have to be able to act like friends when we're around friends, essentially, because of my square.

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Mine is in Gemini 29th degree, and is only a few degrees from being a trine. So it is probably a far different energy.

I think being friends with the person you love is something that if is not there initially, is something that grows between you. I used to be and still am very careful about whom I choose to hug etc. all these small little things, they mean more to me than most people realise. I don't hug everyone, and I don't even hug all of my friends, it is a very personal thing for me. I've only ever uttered those three little irretractable words to one person. There are people who say it to everyone, and that is absolutely okay and great. =) I am just not one of those people. Love, for me, is a very personal, specific, and singular thing. Reciprocal affection, means a lot to me.

When it comes to PDAs around company or public in general. I don't mind, I am more than happy to display my affection for my partner with other people around. I am also more than happy for other people to PDA around me also. I think it is a perfectly natural and good thing to see. It shows that both people are comfortable with expressing their feelings for each other in public. I would gladly hold hands, cuddle, and kiss in front of company. I'm also pretty sure, that the majority of women tend to like their man to hug them, cuddle them etc. in front of friends. Maybe some ladies here might like to highlight on why in particular they like this sort of thing, as well as why they love to be hugged/cuddled from behind. Is it a security/closeness thing?

Keeping the distance? Sounds like you might be a little bit nervous about your feelings for this person? =)

posted January 21, 2013 12:42 PM            

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When you get deceived, part of letting go is forgiving yourself. People beat themselves up, but what we all need to realise is nothing will stop a sneaky person from hurting us, and you wouldn't have prevented it anyway so it's best to accept and let go of the anger and disappointment at yourself.

I learnt a lot about boundary setting too. You teach people how to treat you. Respect has to be demanded, because some people these days push at boundaries just to see how low you will go for them. =( So we must all slow to accept, quick to eject if you get what I mean.

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I really like what you have said on this thread...your sun sign? Age? Just curious

posted January 21, 2013 12:46 PM            

AhHA! JUst saw it on another thread, a Virgo! WOW! Virgos have been the death of me since I was born, Virgo mother, Virgo mother in law and sis in law (formerly) and a Very Virgo bfriend darn near killed me emotionally...

HAD to get out neath that energy, I have even pushed my mother away, again, for a while!

You are wise for your age and you renew my hope in Virgos, they have suffocated this soft, silly Pisces...