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Ami Anne
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posted March 05, 2013 07:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My closest real life friend is my guitar teacher. I admire him, respect him and love him. I respect his relationship to God and his maturity in life.
I discovered I have a talent for harmony. He has a band and said I can sing background vocals in his band. He said it is really hard to find background singer because it takes so much time to perfect it, but they add a huge amount and he is really excited to have one.

I will spend hours and hours on one song and when I do all my depression goes away and I am in joy. I think God gave me this gift as a pure joy in my life.

Anyway, I worked on 2 songs all week and they were really good. In fact, there were painters in my house who asked me if I had a CD. I was so excited to show him and after I did, he started getting really nasty and critical of me. He was that way throughout my whole lesson. I feel really let down.

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charmainec
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posted March 05, 2013 08:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charmainec     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Maybe you need to talk to him and find out what the issue is.

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Ami Anne
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posted March 05, 2013 08:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks Charm. I texted him and told him my feelings were hurt, but I have not heard back. I have always been able to be honest, in the past, so hopefully it will be a new growing and maturing situation for us.

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Ami Anne
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posted March 05, 2013 10:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
He told me he didn't want to praise me because he wanted me to know when I was good and not need outside approval because when you sing, you can lots of criticism, so you have to learn not to care about other people think.

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Randall
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posted March 05, 2013 01:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Maybe you misinterpreted what he said or the way he said it.

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posted March 05, 2013 02:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for katatonic     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
well he was right about that, but geesh that is a f'ed up way of making the point. mutual support in the face of criticism is very important in a collaborative musical sitch.

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posted March 05, 2013 02:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for charmainec     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
He told me he didn't want to praise me because he wanted me to know when I was good and not need outside approval because when you sing, you can lots of criticism, so you have to learn not to care about other people think.


I understand what he meant but I don't agree with his method, especially the nasty and critical part - giving off a hostile vibe.I wouldn't make someone feel bad about something which gives them joy, especially music!

But that's just my cents worth.

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Ami Anne
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posted March 05, 2013 02:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Randall:
Maybe you misinterpreted what he said or the way he said it.

Probably, Randall. He is one of the 3 people who helped me up from that terrible hole I was in. I will be totally open with him, when I see him again.

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posted March 05, 2013 05:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Since it's something you really love and enjoy I don't think you should give up on it.
Try to see his criticism as constructive. You're not a professional singer so it's normal to make mistakes. He should've been more tactful though. You'd think a Libra would know that.

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Ami Anne
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posted March 05, 2013 05:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Odette:
Since it's something you really love and enjoy I don't think you should give up on it.
Try to see his criticism as constructive. You're not a professional singer so it's normal to make mistakes. He should've been more tactful though. You'd think a Libra would know that.

Thank you, Odette
I will never give it up, as long as I have a chance to do it. I love it so much!


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posted March 05, 2013 08:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I talked to him and he said he is just trying to harden me up. Whatever it was, I am going to let it go. He may have had several motivations, but when I am perfect, I will expect someone else to be. Thank you, everyone! I love the new Sweet peas. It does feel much better!

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posted March 07, 2013 03:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for somethingexcellent     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That wasn't a good way to go about what he was trying to do. But I guess I can understand his intent.

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Ami Anne
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posted March 07, 2013 07:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, he may have had complex motives and prolly did. When I met him, I was very debilitated. Sometimes, I would just sit and cry. I would be so overwhelmed with pain and grief. He really lifted me up. He brought music back into my life and taught me so diligently and with so much care. Now, I am shining in my own way and he may have mixed feelings. Does this make sense to you all?

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Ami Anne
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posted March 07, 2013 02:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
He came over today and I, actually, forgot about it, but then he texted me that he has never seen someone get harmony as fast as I have. Libra ASC won't stop until it is complimented

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Ami Anne
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posted March 08, 2013 06:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I had my lesson and he was really sweet. I think I needed to speak up and tell him how I was feeling and now we are fine

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posted March 09, 2013 01:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Glad it worked out for you, Ami Anne. You've been through a lot together-- he knows your vulnerabilities.

I don't understand the sudden crapping he felt he 'needed' to give you? Ouch! That hurt. I think that the world is mean enough as it is! He doesn't need to "pre-abuse" you to "harden you up" on top of it... You will learn and handle that on your own!

Don't let him rain on your parade...

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Ami Anne
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posted March 09, 2013 07:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks Mirage
I think he was just trying to get his own stuff out on me, which happens in relationships. People can be jerks to each other. Everyone has done it. I spoke up and he is back, being sweet, so i guess the moral is to speak up for yourself and try not to do it to others.

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posted March 09, 2013 05:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

Well, keep in mind AA, praise or blame are both forms of manipulation others use to impose whatever on people.

The key is, discern if there is any legitimacy in the criticism and improve that area, otherwise just ignore it.

When I shrug of praise, people get really confused, when I ignore criticism I'm labeled as "arrogant", to me they are merely different sides of the same coin.

A coin I do not want in my pocket so to speak.

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