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Ami Anne
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posted March 08, 2013 07:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
NO, the creepy thing is WITHIN the person, not accepting his own dark side. You don't have to answer but do you have a hidden sex life of some sort, like fantasies no one knows about. This kind of thing makes a person feel creepy to others. Do you have Uranus or Pluto in the 12th?

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MillyX
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posted March 08, 2013 07:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MillyX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I scare people too...It's because I have a serious face, my eyebrows are just naturally arched. I don't smile alot (unless I'm really happy & I really,really love you). People say that I look cold.
My close friends even said that they were afraid of me the first time they saw me walking around the halls in school. I give off a 'You don't wanna mess with me' vibe.

I have been misunderstood most of my life because of the first impression I make. People think I'm a cold hearted b*tch but it's kind of a defense mechanism I have put on unconsciously because I'm just afraid of getting hurt by other people. I'm the type of girl that's hard on the outside but is really sensitive on the inside. People realize that once they get to know me.

It gets annoying though..
People do talk behind my back & say:'I don't know if she's just shy or just plain mean'. I've never even said a word to them & I am definitely not a mean girl. But I'm starting not to care anymore...As long as I know who I really am inside, what other people say about me don't matter at all. If they really got a chance to get to know me, they would see a very different side of me.

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MillyX
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posted March 08, 2013 07:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MillyX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I get that everywhere I go from just being a minority.

I hate to think what respectable black men go through.

I can't even get a flipping cup of coffee where I live without being examined under a microscope.

And no, I didn't kidnap that kid. He's my son. I know he looks Italian, but he's my kid. And no, I don't have a gun. Or a nunchuck because my name isn't Bruce Lee.

Welcome to the club.


Ha! I remember when I went to some whack place in Pennsylvania to visit my 'white' cousins over there. I was the only asian there. I remember going to Walmart with my nieces (they are 1/4 Asian but don't look Asian at all, they have blond hair,blue eyes). We were getting concerned looks from everyone because apparently it's not normal for a white kid to hold the hand of an asian lady.
Oh & the best part was me going to Subway trying to eat my lunch in peace whilst having a group of people staring at me THE WHOLE TIME. It was unbelievable, they couldn't look away. Not going back to that rural area anytime soon. I'm staying in the city. But it was kind of funny though, getting all of those surprised stares from people.

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Ami Anne
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posted March 08, 2013 07:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MillyX:
I scare people too...It's because I have a serious face, my eyebrows are just naturally arched. I don't smile alot (unless I'm really happy & I really,really love you). People say that I look cold.
My close friends even said that they were afraid of me the first time they saw me walking around the halls in school. I give off a 'You don't wanna mess with me' vibe.

I have been misunderstood most of my life because of the first impression I make. People think I'm a cold hearted b*tch but it's kind of a defense mechanism I have put on unconsciously because I'm just afraid of getting hurt by other people. I'm the type of girl that's hard on the outside but is really sensitive on the inside. People realize that once they get to know me.

It gets annoying though..
People do talk behind my back & say:'I don't know if she's just shy or just plain mean'. I've never even said a word to them & I am definitely not a mean girl. But I'm starting not to care anymore...As long as I know who I really am inside, what other people say about me don't matter at all. If they really got a chance to get to know me, they would see a very different side of me.


What is your ASC?

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Lexxigramer
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posted March 08, 2013 09:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lexxigramer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
People usually say I look sad.

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MillyX
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posted March 08, 2013 10:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MillyX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
What is your ASC?


I got Aqua Asc. With Saturn in the 1st house.

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Odette
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posted March 08, 2013 10:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I saw your photo n read some of your posts n you don't seem at all scary or intimidating, you seem to be quite friendly.

I second that!

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aquaguy91
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posted March 08, 2013 11:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Padre,
i think you are overthinking it man, i really do. i get reactions from some people as well. but you know what not all people react to me in a negative way . i just try to ignore idiotic people. just recently i was standing behind a guy in the line at the store and he turned around and shouted at me and told me i was making him extremely uncomfortable, when all i was doing was standing in line, what can ya do? lol also it must be noted that some people are really paranoid and psychotic. maybe we (plutonians) attract psychos

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posted March 08, 2013 11:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
check this thread aquaguy: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/218283.html

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aquaguy91
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posted March 08, 2013 11:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
do you scare all the people or even the majority of the people you come into contact with? if not i wouldnt worry about it. each individual perceives other people differently, i mean just think about it. have you ever heard some going on and on bragging about a person you cant stand? thats exactly what i am talking about. you perceive someone as an a-hole while somebody else perceives them as nice/sweet. the bottom line is all of us are going to be disliked by someone for no particular reason atleast once in our lives , some of us more than others of course lol . no joke, i have had multiple random guys come up and ask me if i spent time in prison at such and such time and place while other people have literally called me a "giant teddy bear". you see how different those images are? i go from being a hardened criminal to a giant teddy bear depending on who is looking at me. perception is certainly a strange thing.

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Odette
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posted March 08, 2013 11:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
When someone else gets scared... I dare you to turn around – completely serious and straight-faced and tell them:

“Don’t worry. I only turn into a werewolf at midnight”

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Padre35
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posted March 09, 2013 04:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Padre,
i think you are overthinking it man, i really do. i get reactions from some people as well. but you know what not all people react to me in a negative way . i just try to ignore idiotic people. just recently i was standing behind a guy in the line at the store and he turned around and shouted at me and told me i was making him extremely uncomfortable, when all i was doing was standing in line, what can ya do? lol also it must be noted that some people are really paranoid and psychotic. maybe we (plutonians) attract psychos

Check this out AG:

Young guy, fmr heoin guy, prolly gay but thinks I'd hold it against him.

WAAAY offbase, do not care about that, will watch what you do and if you are decent person.

Youn guy, but ultra ultra smart, and did something for him no one else had done:

"Dude, you are a genius, I can see it in you"

This after a huge discussion with some really bright folks who understand you never put your foot in the same river twice.


Young man, literally, dropped to his knees in the middle of a closed (you know how that is, chairs flipped upside down etc) and was for lack of a better term was sort of..uhm..worhsipping me in a sort " not worthy" manner

A) way way creepy..so not me
B) a little kindness goes a long way
C) people just do not value themselves

Here is my heart on this..just speaking the obvious, and being positive is just so rare in "real" life today.

For goodness sakes..please..love yourself?

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Padre35
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posted March 11, 2013 04:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

Well, the bartendress whom was there when some crazy said I was Ted Bundy Jr..

A lesbian (self proclaimed)

Whom defended me when the crazy called had a friend (mutual friend) call me over and what she had to say was:

"******, I really like you"

My only response was.."..you called me over here for this!!!"

What else could I say, I dig her, but am just not into that one night stuff

She is a dear dear soul though, and for me, I just have to much respect than to do anything with that..perhaps the Sigma in me.

Hmm, perhaps the darkness is broken now?

(BTW, I know what she expected when she said that she really liked me, but my ethic about not trying to get with employees just made that not possible)

As an aside, had a great conversation with some Botantists..fascinating stuff really.

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peregrine
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posted March 11, 2013 07:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for peregrine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^lulz ted bundy is a sag too!

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Ami Anne
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posted March 11, 2013 08:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You never looked up your Hekate asteroid, Padre. I don't know the number, at the moment, but you can find it on Astro.com. You can come in the asteroid Forum, if you want to discuss it. Let me know, so I am sure to check on it.

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posted March 12, 2013 04:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for somethingexcellent     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Padre35: Hmm, as in design? I ask b/c generally I'm very fashionable down to winter tone etc.

Wow, you really are a gentleman! A true nice guy. Not a weird person who has lady issues. I think you're totes charming, broskii, from one guy to another.

But how to stop scaring people? Hmm, it could just be your vibes. Someone I work with is tres populaire despite having very stand off-ish and cold vibes. But when you get to know them, they're really friendly! The similar with you, no?

Do you smile lots? What's your general expression like? I have a naturally relaxed and easy-going semi-smile most times. And people say I'm very easy to approach.

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Padre35
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posted March 12, 2013 09:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
You never looked up your Hekate asteroid, Padre. I don't know the number, at the moment, but you can find it on Astro.com. You can come in the asteroid Forum, if you want to discuss it. Let me know, so I am sure to check on it.



Couldn't find it AA, it Hekate was not in the birth charts I first had in August.

And I wonder if I went through a transit or something as things just seem lighter now.

As for demeanor, tbh when I go out usually am studying something and maybe having a beer, but I can be the social typically chatty Saggie it really just depends what I'm working on.

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Ami Anne
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posted March 12, 2013 11:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It is an asteroid, Padre. Look on the asteroid list on Astro.com.

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posted March 12, 2013 11:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
It is an asteroid, Padre. Look on the asteroid list on Astro.com.



http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif =astro_2gw_01_padre_35.10537.22441.gif&res=100&va=&cid=xqyfileohavRu-u1363143337

This is as good as I could do with that AA, if the link does not work it looked like it was in Scorpio at 25 4' 50

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Padre35
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posted March 17, 2013 04:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

Eh, it's quite late.

However my streak of just attracting..crazy..continues

Weird, thing is..people who think the whole world is a construct..tend to forget..they to are constructs.

Brilliant guy, 5 degrees, played the disassocitation card..ie

"Women wear make up and dresses and it is just so fake.."

When I pointed out, to Mr 5 degrees, that disappointment means..you are still optimistic, not blasse'

One would think Space Shuttles from beer cans were being built.

Eh, point being..we are all one family under Heaven..it's an interactive existence

Enjoy it..as I once heard said..the dead know only it is better to be alive.

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