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Topic: I have a rant.
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aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted March 10, 2013 03:26 PM
  
hanna, its just immaturity on their part, thats all it is. dont waste your time trying to get answers because you will almost never get them. i know this because i have the same type of experiences.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
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posted March 10, 2013 03:44 PM
i have been talking to a girl on okc for a week or so and we were getting along great or so it seemed. sh seemed really interested in me and would talk to me for hours, so i ended up asking her if she wanted to talk on the phone sometime and she was like"yea that would be great! we seem to be connecting really well on here, i cant wait!" so we exchanged phone numbers. i was going to play it cool and wait a few days but she texted me the very next day (before i ever texted her) and said "i get off work at 10, wanna call me at say 10:30?" and i responded "yea" and she said"looking forward to it  " . so i called her up lastnight and she answered and i could hear a baby crying in the background. me:hey
her: hi
me: what are you up to?
her: babysitting
me: (hears baby crying) haha i can tell after this the baby started crying louder and i could hear her comforting it, she hung up on me without saying bye. i didnt stress about it, i figured she would call me back after she got the baby taken care of. but she never called me back and i went to bed and woke up this morning and she still hadnt called . im just trying to figure out why someone would ask somebody to call them if they are just going to hang up and never call back. wtf?
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hannaramaa
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posted March 10, 2013 05:16 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
hanna, its just immaturity on their part, thats all it is. dont waste your time trying to get answers because you will almost never get them. i know this because i have the same type of experiences.
I guess. But I look at things they go through in their life (granted it's only what I can observe without knowing them very well) and I wonder how that doesn't make someone mature. I think we all possess maturity but REALLY mature people grant that kind of grace towards everyone whereas others may just preserve their patience and maturity for those they care about. Or is that idealistic?
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aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
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posted March 10, 2013 05:55 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I guess. But I look at things they go through in their life (granted it's only what I can observe without knowing them very well) and I wonder how that doesn't make someone mature. I think we all possess maturity but REALLY mature people grant that kind of grace towards everyone whereas others may just preserve their patience and maturity for those they care about. Or is that idealistic?
ideally people would treat everyone with a little more respect. the funny part is how soo many people will leave ya hanging but would be furious if other people did the same thing to them. people need to practice the golden rule.
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T
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posted March 10, 2013 10:58 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Ah, T you're speaking my language.  I do see patterns in my friendships. Today I sat here and I thought "Why do I keep attracting people who make me feel like I'm not good enough?" and then I realized a lot of my self-talk is telling myself I'm not good enough and it clicked. I'm now trying to believe as much that I'm good enough and put as much energy into that as I did for the opposing belief. However, it is hard at first.
Little epiphanies like that are great. I think self-awareness is really important in relationships and key in how well they work out too. And you are 'good enough' and should remind yourself more about your best qualities. 
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hannaramaa
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posted March 11, 2013 06:50 PM
I just wanted to point out I have Sun, Mercury, and Venus square Pluto in the composite with the Sag guy. To top it off? Moon in Pisces (composite) trine Pluto as well.IP: Logged |
Nine
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From: The Cusp of Love
Registered: May 2009
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posted March 16, 2013 02:01 PM
I met someone with those personal placements, 1987. One of the nicest, sweetest persons I've ever met, but such a pain in the !@##, I had to cut em off. We got into these persistent, exhausting little fights which really irritated me. I blame it on the Venus in Aries. Whenever I came at them directly, somehow things would digress into a push-pull/play-fight/verbal-sparing little dramas. A delightful charmer if kept at arms length. More than a handful. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 20, 2013 10:48 PM
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Originally posted by Nine:
I met someone with those personal placements, 1987. One of the nicest, sweetest persons I've ever met, but such a pain in the !@##, I had to cut em off. We got into these persistent, exhausting little fights which really irritated me. I blame it on the Venus in Aries. Whenever I came at them directly, somehow things would digress into a push-pull/play-fight/verbal-sparing little dramas. A delightful charmer if kept at arms length. More than a handful.
Well I know a girl with the same placements! She's a Taurus sun, Pisces moon and then some Gemini/Aqua. She's great! She's a very accepting person and likes to help, super responsible. communicates. Mature. I mean same year and everything. I'm pretty sure it's a guy thing and not really a sign thing. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 23, 2013 11:07 PM
To continue my rant without starting a thread, I would like to say I'm souring towards Sags again. They communicate like they're 5 and then get offended when you talk to them like an adult and tell them how it really is. And by they I mean "he," of course. UGH. An Aries bends for NO ONE!IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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Registered: Oct 2011
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posted March 24, 2013 08:44 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
me:hey
her: hi
me: what are you up to?
her: babysitting
me: (hears baby crying) haha i can tellafter this the baby started crying louder and i could hear her comforting it, she hung up on me without saying bye. i didnt stress about it, i figured she would call me back after she got the baby taken care of. but she never called me back and i went to bed and woke up this morning and she still hadnt called . im just trying to figure out why someone would ask somebody to call them if they are just going to hang up and never call back. wtf?
Have you ever taken care of a crying baby? Some are just inconsolable, regardless of what you have in your bag of tricks. Sometimes, it is stressful. The "haha I can tell" thing. - that's kinda not kosher. She could have construed it as insensitive and a real a$sholey thing to say in her moment of stress. It's not that you have no empathy. As with being Aspie, empathy didnt show through with that comment over the phone. Facial expressions are missing over the phone. The baby could also have been her child, in which case she could have construed it as you being unaccepting of her baby. Think of it. You get off work at 10, and you're at your babysitting job at 10:30? More likely scenario that she arrived home and found her baby hungry or having a wet diaper. She didn't call you back because she was pis$ed off with you. That wasn't Aspie. It was a typical "guy" thing. The reason why I know is that I learned about babies at 12 years old. My brother slept in my room and I changed and fed him before 13. I'm also not the typical guy because I'm an Aspie that can see both sides. Just saying.
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mirage29
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From: us
Registered: May 2012
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posted April 29, 2013 06:36 PM
(Got here through a link in a different forum) quote:
Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I met a guy at my college some years ago. We were "talking" and it flopped. At the time I was kind of ****** because I was second choice. Years later we re-connected and it flopped again. I let it go, I didn't say anything, and then on impulse tonight thought "You know what? I'm going to do something I've never done before. I'm going to ask why." I figured why the hell not? It's been YEARS since I've seen him in person, and months since we've spoken. I don't really care that I haven't heard from him. I'm not heartbroken, I'm not ****** , I don't care. There have been a lot more attractive guys who've crossed my path since then. I'm okay. And I said that. What do I get? Not a sincere answer. Not even a bull answer. I get BLOCKED! Why?! I didn't go apeshit on him.... He's a Taurus with Pisces moon, Mercury and Venus in Aries, and Mars in Gemini.
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Originally posted by NINE:I met someone with those personal placements, 1987. One of the nicest, sweetest persons I've ever met, but such a pain in the !@##, I had to cut em off. We got into these persistent, exhausting little fights which really irritated me. I blame it on the Venus in Aries. Whenever I came at them directly, somehow things would digress into a push-pull/play-fight/verbal-sparing little dramas. A delightful charmer if kept at arms length. More than a handful.
 I also knew a guy with those same EXACT placements--- What a tragic and expensive disappointment the relationship turned out to be... He was an irresponsible selfish self-involved man! Later (when it was too late), I found 3 women who had the same kind of encounter with him as I had! A clever rip-off artist! PRETENDER! Smashed my ability to trust-- His lies damaged my self-esteem... Picking myself back up! (music) Don't Bring Me Down [4:01] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hwchL5atL1w IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted May 04, 2013 04:34 PM
Can I add to this please? I suppose I'm making it my venting thread. I'm adding to it. Yesterday I was working when I had a guest walk in inquiring about room rates, etc. (I'm a concierge.) Hardly anybody goes for the rack rate, this one was no exception, so he starts giving me a hard time about how I'm "breaking his heart," Haha, okay. Then he takes it further talking about how I can drive his Camaro if I give him a cheaper room rate and there's plenty of room for me to stuff the bodies in the trunk plus the backseat for all the boys I would be taking advantage of that night. Then he asked if I was a virgin. When I stopped laughing and wouldn't look at him, he was like "That wasn't even appropriate was it," and I said "No." but I was still appalled/disgusted/embarrassed inside. Why do men treat women this way? I really wish I would've looked straight at him and asked how he would feel knowing someone was talking to his daughter this way. IP: Logged |
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