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Topic: How do you get over someone..
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Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 4415
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 12, 2013 09:44 PM
  
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Originally posted by Odette:
Kerosene - I just remind myself that there are 7 billion people in this world.. and I'll definitely have intense emotional/sexual connections again.. and again.... and again... There is no such thing as *one* perfect person for everyone.
I don't see it that way. This is how I get over them.. I just think - 'Well they are another human living their lives, as I am.. as we all are..' When you obsess over someone you idolise them and put them on a pedestal that they do not belong on.
So to bring yourself back down to earth - you need a dose of realism.
Because they are really not SO special.. if you know what I mean...
There are others out there who you will have chemistry with 
All good points Odette.
Gee what the **** is wrong with me?...
I feel like sap.
Sorry guys I just felt like venting.
I don't talk to people about this stuff because it the grand scheme of things it does not even matter. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 4415
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 12, 2013 09:45 PM
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Originally posted by Lunae:
Haha nah, he has a Virgo mars and venus conj and Sag or Scorp moon. Dunno his asc haha.
Gotta trick him into giving you his birth time!
I'll give you some suggestions if you can't think of any. Unless he's open to astrology but I don't like people thinking I'm a "nut" on the first date... -_-... IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
Moderator Posts: 2981
From: The Etheric Realms...Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat...& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted July 12, 2013 10:20 PM
Once I am lied to, betrayed, and or tricked;
The idea of being in love or wanting that person ends. It would feel like a great disrespect to myself to waste my love or yearning on a liar and deceiver.
Losing a loved one to death, now that is a very hard thing one never gets over.
But a person who did me wrong? It ****** me off that I was led on, by omissions and lies, making me waste my precious time because I believed the love was for real and not just some twisted fantasy thing for amusement. Good riddance!
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Lunae
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Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 13, 2013 12:18 AM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Gotta trick him into giving you his birth time!
I'll give you some suggestions if you can't think of any.Unless he's open to astrology but I don't like people thinking I'm a "nut" on the first date... -_-...
Haha, IKR? But depending in the person, I'm usually not shy at asking for the birth time. If not, I just ask if they're a day or night person. And no, he's never gonna be open to astrology, or anything for that matter haha. He's clammed shut like a bank vault, complete with a security lock. Hahaha.  IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 4415
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 13, 2013 12:41 AM
Wait did you ask about his birth time?
if not..One tactic I do if someone is closed off is I
start talking about common interests..and start flirtatiously joking.
You have to be kinda silly..
for example
What kinda dogs do like?
Favorite cats breeds
Oh wow that's mine too.
Hmmm what time were you born?
If he says uhh idk be like but but what if were born at the same???
He if knows the time he'll probably give a time or an estimate. Errr You can probably pull that off unless you're too serious. Maybe I'm just convicing...? I dunno LOL
That's how I've gotten most birth times. you just have to find the right time, I guess when you both joking around..
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Lunae
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Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 13, 2013 02:01 AM
Haha I didn't ask for his birth time because he would think it's nonsense. He'd be annoyed and be like 'what's the deal?!' I did palm reading for my friends once for fun. He was listening in but when I asked him if he wanted let me read his, he was like 'why would I? That's just ridiculous'. He's really a private person and he doesn't like people figuring out his stuff. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 4415
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 13, 2013 02:28 AM
Just ask him....
I would force him to tell me..!!
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Aquacheeka
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From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted July 13, 2013 12:12 PM
Time helps, as well as dating someone else.IP: Logged |
Lunae
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posted July 13, 2013 10:39 PM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Just ask him....
I would force him to tell me..!!
LOL hahahaha well that will end in tears jk.  Can't ask him now since we're not classmates anymore. I lost contact with him since we graduated from College. Haha.
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Geeky
Knowflake Posts: 557
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Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 17, 2013 05:36 AM
I am honestly too sleepy to read all of the replies, but I did see some helpful comments as I skimmed. Here are some ideas I don't remember seeing:1. Don't fight the grief. Go through it to move past the sadness and don't let people tell you how long it should or shouldn't take. Only you will know when you're ok. 2. Realize that if you truly love someone (unconditionally), that you will never stop loving them & that's ok.... What you do is shift your focus from the "what ifs" to "that is a beautiful memory". Maybe jot it down in a diary? I hope to do something like that soon so that when I'm 95 & not gettin' much action, I can kind of re-live the fun! 3. Speaking of that forever love idea: Mothers have room in their hearts to love multiple children, so why not have room in your heart for all the loves of your life? I don't see anything wrong with loving friends, old lovers, and your future partner. Love does not = cheating (this is the problem with society becauae we are too concerned with hiding our feelings and not expressing love).... IP: Logged |
Geeky
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Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 17, 2013 05:44 AM
stupid cellphone posting lol...Anyway, listen to "Origami" by Ani DiFranco. The part about '...if you want a ball to bounce you have to let it go' really gets to me. But it's an empowering song, IMO. Also, "Carry" by Tori Amos is what I have dedicated to my ex-bf. I am happy and with my perfect partner now, but when I told my ex-bf I would love him forever, I was quite serious. I know one thing- you may lose patience trying to sort yourself out, but you WILL be ok. I feel that, genuinely. IP: Logged |
seruryu
Newflake Posts: 8
From: Shah Alam, Selangor, Malaysia
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted August 16, 2013 05:35 PM
Great advises...but I still linger on the when...When will I get over the Leo a**hole(disclaimer, my closest sister is a Leo and I unicorn love all of you Leos out there)who dumped my pitiful a** about a year ago? I don't want to be stuck forever! I need to date! IP: Logged |
FruitTreeFresh
Knowflake Posts: 74
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Registered: Aug 2013
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posted August 16, 2013 10:51 PM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
You know when you find someone flawless in every single way possible.
Nobody ever stacks up to that...
how is she flawless? IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmainec
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posted August 17, 2013 02:08 PM
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redshoes
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Registered: Nov 2010
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posted August 21, 2013 04:51 PM
just remember all the annoying things he did and said to you....all the times he hurt you, all the times he let you downthat help IP: Logged |
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