posted August 29, 2013 11:15 AM            

but yech hehe your saying tequila to a wine counties girl

that is a decadent banana flambe in that picture though, i think restaurants are great both where you are and i am, so will go looking for that this coming weekend heheh

here's the recipe to go with that picture
http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/40-a-day/banana-flambe-recipe/index.html

now back to subject is it even possible to tell those people 'nicely' the truth about some matters? and again without sharing what you know or have been through?

posted August 29, 2013 12:11 PM            

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Originally posted by NoRainNoRainbows:
but am not a 'poor little me' person, i like getting over stuff

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Originally posted by T:
LOL Same here.

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Originally posted by NoRainNoRainbows:
I just draw a red line when they start wishing violence or bad stuff upon others. With energies not under control it is possible that bad wish does come real....but it also goes back to the sender.
Like okay, if they enjoy feeling down, let them, but they have no right to drag others to it.

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Originally posted by T:
That happened to me here, on the forums not too long ago. It's never happened (to my knowledge in 'real life')

this woman 'lost it' and damned me and my friends to hell (i don't have any) and hopes we 'get what we deserve' (what is that? Goodness and love, just like everyone deserves? LOL Why Thank YOU! ) and we can burn in hell or go to hell or something like that. She was fuming.

I thought to myself.....even in the heat of a moment......I never wish ill on people or for them to burn in hell (even if i believed in one).

All it did was make me feel terribly sorry for her. At her age, and supposed level of wisdom......she's wishing ill and hell on people? How terrible for her! No wonder why she is in a hell of her own and writhing in pain all the time. It all became clear at that point. That, this was so easy for her (maybe a habit) - to wish hardship on others....so no wonder she was always complaining about her own life. Quite sad.

I think when she said it, she though she would make me quivver in my boots - it was supposed to scare me and give her some power. But it didnt.

If she doesnt have the power to change her own life for the better, she damn sure isn't going to be changing my life for the worse. No matter how hard she wishes to.

Know what I mean? I think with people like that, it literally bounces right back to them too. So, i wished, that for her sake, she didnt damn me to hell, because I knew it was only making her own situation worse.

bbiab....

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Who is this person?

posted August 29, 2013 12:26 PM            

He is my stepgrandpa, not like a long lost dad to my mom, she had a dad at the time, in the next state.

posted August 29, 2013 12:59 PM            

but yeah i was thinking of someone from the past, and now today i see it again, and they're always just like i defined in both the first and second post.

and now i'm wondering if it is ever possible to be nice such people with there "you try it," and the one i had in mind, actually put effort into 'getting the smile off' other people's faces.

like i also mentioned. she is now living happily as the ppl she meets are usually 'normal' and wish her well....from what i hear, she still hates anyone to have anything she wants but doesn't, so goes on pretending they have perfect lives and need trouble, even if it is her who needs to create that life damaging trouble to them...so yeah, just bemused by such people and there sense of entitlement to judge other people and decided if they are deserved of happiness of trouble...and then work on what they decided.

@hippichick, ok now am confused, so was your grandpa there for your mother, or didn't live with her? still no excuse to not work on her own happiness, but may help explain it if she's not a 'go getter'.
but if she isn't the type that wishes 'hell or 'you try it' when she herself hasn't gone through what she is wishing upon upon others coz she isn't feeling well, then it isn't what i meant by this thread...

posted August 29, 2013 02:07 PM            

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True people should be more considerate. But i am not talking about that, i'm talking about those who find it okay to do something on the lines of sitting an negotiating with Cthulu how to shoot or take another person's happiness away.
Because they are not happy, while the other person is smiling, so they must have a 'perfect' life.

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posted August 29, 2013 02:11 PM            

Naming names isnt important. The person knows what they said and did and who they damned and wished ill on.

posted August 29, 2013 02:15 PM            

He married my grandma when my mother was 17.

Looking back, at how her life progressed, he tells me that she is not such the innocent.

Two sides to every story, I guess.

And no, absolutely not...she has NO excuse to still be "woe is me..."

At 76, she has learned alot of things, espeically about her little Pisces girl (now 51) but she still has a bit of learning to do about the whine factor.

Now, I am going to bring astrology into it.

She is a Virgo, hypocondriac, a negative individual anyway. Have a plethora of them in my life, they tend to turn their unhappiness with themselves onto others.

And, perhaps, in your general question, this is another thing going on?

And the bully factor comes to mind now.

I am so unhappy, that I am going to (subconciously) project onto you and I am (concoiusly) going to whine to get you to notice how unhappy I am...with me.....

t~

posted August 29, 2013 02:52 PM            

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Originally posted by T:
It's funny you should ask Lexx.

Naming names isnt important. The person knows what they said and did and who they damned and wished ill on.

It's still on the forums in a locked thread, in case "they" "forgot", i can email it to them.

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And if naming names is not important, then why post things that could be taken wrong and people tagged unfairly just because you do not like them?

Your snotty "they" does say "you" are again lying and bad mouthing
about me
and taking things out of context.

You are not trying to be funny, you are being slyly rude and nasty yet again.

Why can't you just back off already?
I had to leave for over 1/2 a year, was not online except mostly to update Randall, yet come back to find that you and another person had been spreading nasty lies about me for all the months I was not here or at fb or even e-mailing anyone unless necessary.

I know the thread and you are not painting the whole picture.
Twisting things out of context as usual.
You hijacked the thread specifically to attack me. Your attacks on me had nothing to do with the thread.
Yet there you came, out of the blue to go at me yet again.

Kindly keep your slandering and hatred of me and the fake pity off of/out of LL.[/i][/b]

If you cared you would just lay off me instead of all the crap you pull.
You go way out of your way to upset me, then say I should not get upset.
Well most folks would get upset if someone would not leave them be and keeps on going at them unjustly over and over.

posted August 29, 2013 03:13 PM            

she at one point was sitting down plotting how to break up this girl she hardly knew with this guy she had her eyes on, because people from girls country (not white) should not date guys from guys country (white), according to her..she'd even set up situations where she'd try to get him to be with her and leave that girl. She also taught kids something, and was less than nice to kids who weren't from countries she approved off, and would do her best so that there parents stop bringing them over.......ironically, she worked in 'not white' country lol.

then she wished me to stay 20 years without a partner because she saw somoene on tv that was going through this, and because i was telling her i'm bored and want to leave (so she could watch it on her own) and no it wasn't an individual case.....

don't know if she was an afflicted Pisces though, or if a lot of fish are like that(though i did have an Aquarian friend get dumped in the worst of ways by a fish)...she definitely was/is an afflicted human...anyway just sun signs i don't judge,(though my nemsis at work was an annoying virgo, that had nothing in common with me)
details i do...mars square Venus seems to be extremely true for me, specially where they are, and the extremes of different attention i get from each sex. girls get jealous, it's not new news....

ANYWAAAAAAAAAAAY
but this whole thing isn't what i'm talking about. u have problems with your mother and so many do...regardless of horoscope. i've seen more than a few people here do this, but also irl...

i think Jessica2407 got a taste today of what i'm talking about though

posted August 29, 2013 03:14 PM            

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Your snotty "they" does say "you" are again lying and bad mouthing me and taking things out of context.

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Am I really? I"m lying and taking things out of context?

Here's the post:

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hope all are fraking happy...
you wish me the woyuse and you know it...
stipo poretending you fraking gice a fk.
you have wion
and if there is a god then damn you all to hell

yes randall
i am lost it...
too many attacks un justrfied
fk it all

bet yiou are verry hnappy now,,,
brioke me
go laugh yur ass off

may you madb your lyingn buuddies get whatt you all fraking deseerve

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full at the very end of the thread http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum21/HTML/000650-2.html

Then you tried to blame me for having a new stroke. That is EVIL. Youve done it too many times before over the years to others and now I don't believe you are having them when you say you are. Sorry. I think it's terrible that you do that to people too.

I was trying to remain calm in that thread but you kept PUSHING TO take it to another level. Like you always do. ALWAYS LOOKING FOR A FIGHT> Especially with me. and then trying to turn it around and make me look like the bad buy by LYING.

First of all, I have two friends that I sporadically talk to from here. We've never talked about you Lexx.

I've never badmouthed you behind your back, so you might want to look to others and get some proof of that.

Stop acting like I won't back off of you. I usually try to stay the hell away and ignore you except when you do something like this -

ask me:

"Who is this person?"

When you know damn well it was you. I can see right through you and how you try to twist and word things to make yourself out to be the vicitim and accuse people of doing things they have never done to you.

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You go way out of your way to upset me, then say I should not get upset.
Well most folks would get upset if someone would not leave them be and keeps on going at them unjustly over and over.

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I didnt even think you were reading this thread! So, how is that going out of my way to upset you???

I used and example and didnt directly say your name so as not to start drama. SOOoooorrry!!! I should have said your name and started drama!

You see, you were the only one concerned about WHO actually said it, because you know it was you.

Everyone else had moved on and took the example for what it was. NOT to start drama. But then you come in out of nowhere again and start it, then get all dramatic and lie some more.

posted August 29, 2013 03:16 PM            

The **** you are saying here are outright lies and you are doing it to get people to thing the wrong things. AND I'VE HAD IT. I've watched you do the same things to others over the years.

posted August 29, 2013 03:21 PM            

If anyone comes into a thread and disagrees with something you said, you accuse them of starting a fight with you. Even juni mentioned it here on the forums not to long ago. You are alawys on the defensive and looking for a fight.

What are you doing? Stalking my posts so you can talk **** about them with your buddies like I've heard you have done.

Get a new hobby.

Remember, YOU CAME IN HERE. And asked ME a question, knowing you would then later lash out after I answered you and try to say I was the one picking on YOU????

Grow up.

and I don't want anyone elses two cents on this ******** . I'm sick of Lexx doing this. It's happened way too many times. She picks fights and then tries to say the other person did it.

Stop popping out of the woodwork and ruining threads and starting fights like this.

posted August 29, 2013 03:37 PM            

I'm shaking because I am so sick of this ***** accusing me of things I've never done.

I'm tired of trying to stay calm and say as little as possible so i can get away from her and not have it turn into what it always does with her (not with me only) a drama fest full of lies.

posted August 29, 2013 03:46 PM            

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You hijacked the thread specifically to attack me. Your attacks on me had nothing to do with the thread.
Yet there you came, out of the blue to go at me yet again.

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There was no hijacking going on. Yes, it did have something to do with this thread and fit right in with what was being talked about.

You can think all you want that it was a way for me to start with you, but

IT WASNT. It came to mind because of was being discussed.

You werent even here. So, get over yourself and this imaginary fued that you have made up between the two of us. And trying to paint me the evil mean bad guy looking to start fights with you when you arent even in the thread.

posted August 29, 2013 03:47 PM            

i don't know i pulled my cards to see what is going on with you 2, and alot of spades, that is no good, a lot of 'violent thoughts' going on, and that is no good for anyone...also saw others involved so hmmm, do wish something magic happens and there is peace between you all again!

posted August 29, 2013 03:49 PM            

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Originally posted by T:
I don't know how I'm starting something with you when you werent even in the thread. Once again playing the victim role.

What are you doing? Stalking my posts so you can talk **** about them with your buddies like I've heard you have done.

Get a new hobby.

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And of course I would find and see your latest sneak attack on me.

I am a moderator on this thread.
OF COURSE I READ IT!

BACK OFF LADY.
And yes you did cause me to get so upset I became ill.
My becoming ill is being evil to you??

Wtf lady?????????

You attacked me unprovoked and stressed me over a period of like a month or more and you call me evil???????

Anyone would become upset with someone like you going at them repeatedly without provocation.

YOU KNEW YOU WERE BADMOUTHING ME ON THIS THREAD!
YOU KNEW YOU WERE BAITING ME!
YOU KNEW I WOULD BE HURT AND UPSET.

You were not just innocently posting and sharing here.
Attack after attacks from you, trashing many of my threads, posting attack threads just to attack me.

You knew exactly what you were doing so don't play innocent.