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Topic: Like attracts like/Looking for trouble but being surprised when trouble finds them
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Barbiegirl19
Knowflake Posts: 407
From: Smalltown Pennsylvania
Registered: Jul 2013
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posted August 29, 2013 10:55 PM
  
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Originally posted by teasel:
As soon as I start to think I'm more level-headed, then something really upsets me.I think some things are taken as an attack when it was even the intention of the poster. I've had it happen to me, and I've felt that way at times about others. I have to watch myself at times, if I feel overly-sensitive.
I wouldn't say that I'm sensitive more like very emotional over the smaller cute little things in life. Lol I think it's awesome that you admitted to being that way. They're are alot of who constantly deny the truth because they're afraid of accepting to it so kudos to you  IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 4640
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted August 29, 2013 11:04 PM
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Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
Are we talking about the one who said you deserve to work at Walmart?  I think she confused you for me 'cause I worked at Walmart when I was like 15...for six months...also yeah she did clash with me a few times over astro beliefs. I'm open minded but she always said things work how they are. B#tch please, you say that now but if this was when Uranus and beyond was introduced, you'd probably be against them too. :eyeroll:
Lmfaoo I worked at target before!!!!
apparently she was stacy.. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 2830
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted August 30, 2013 04:15 AM
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Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
With a whole whack of Scorpio, I by nature pay lots of attention to my surroundings - but tempered with an equal amount of air, I guess I don't blow it out of proportion that it affects my ability to stay at least level headed. In the heat of the moment, I still process what I say before I say it!
I'm similar...I have A LOT of air, but a lot of it is on the Scorpio cusp (and I've got Jupiter and Pallas in Scorpio), but at the same time I've also got a lot of Sag that can make me blunt (especially Moon & Mars), and the Leo ascendant & Dog (Chinese) can emphasize (or even exacerbate) that sometimes...but it's very rare that the "filter" fails significantly. quote:
Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
why do you think people do that? I guess it's just they aren't self-aware enough...?
I think in most cases it's not conscious (though a few do it on purpose, IMO, it's all a trolling tactic that gives them a sense of power and/or some LULZ), and I sometimes think that people who lash out and then play the innocent victim when someone serves 'em back up what they dish out is that they often ASSUME attack in the first place (that is the attack they initiate is because they already feel attacked) and/or because some people feel that they better direct attacks at someone else as SOMEONE has to be the assigned scapegoat, otherwise it might be them ("preemptive self-defense"?). I've also noticed that plenty of people who do it describe growing up in very dysfunctional homes so they probably had poor role models to base their behavior on (and expressed without conscious awareness) and/or drama feels safer as then they know what they're dealing with rather than when things are peaceful as then they freak out waiting for "the other shoe to drop" (and thus stress over something they feel they have no control over so they "force" it and then there's "no more waiting" and they can deal with it). IP: Logged |
teasel
Knowflake Posts: 5630
From: teaselb@gmail.com
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 30, 2013 04:29 AM
Ideal with things better when I'm happier or more grounded. I was talking to a Scorpio man earlier, who is in love for the first time in his life, and he said that he's been more easygoing because he's happy. He doesn't feel nearly so sensitive to possible, or deliberate, slights. I have dealt with anxiety most of my life, thanks to bullying (my grandmother, and then kids at school, and one guy who strangled me.. blah, blah, right? right.) There were other things, too: alcoholics, a sociopath, and so on. I was walking on eggshells for *years*. And when there has been an actual pattern of people making assumptions about you - like one woman who was nice to me here, and then turned around and typed elsewhere, "I always thought she was two-faced." *I* was the two-faced one? When it keeps happening, no matter how I look at myself and try to sort myself out - you just go back to waiting for the other shoe to drop. I do wait for it now, but also hope for the best, otherwise I wouldn't talk to anyone. I also stop and think, "what if I didn't take this personally?" I did that a couple of nights ago, and was pleasantly surprised by a compliment from someone whom I thought was initially ignoring me; they weren't, they were just waiting for something. This is the "old" me. The "me" that I like, and miss. IP: Logged |
T
Knowflake Posts: 10031
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 30, 2013 04:34 AM
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Originally posted by teasel:
This is the "old" me. The "me" that I like, and miss.
Don't you love it when you find her again? & let her loose! She deserves to be heard more often. IP: Logged |
teasel
Knowflake Posts: 5630
From: teaselb@gmail.com
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 30, 2013 04:38 AM
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Originally posted by T:
Don't you love it when you find her again? & let her loose! She deserves to be heard more often.
Yep. I was actually proud of myself for stopping and thinking first. I really, really hate hurting peoples' feelings, but it's become easier to me, after being on the receiving end of it so often. I'm now thinking of that woman on Absolutely Fabulous, my favourite character: the therapist who would say, "In with anger, out with love." (oops wrong character, right show.  ) IP: Logged |
T
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 30, 2013 04:57 AM
No one likes hurting other people's feelings, but come to find out, that even when you are being your nice self, you can accidentally do that!& no matter how hard you try not to or don't mean to, it's going to happen anyway. Oopsie! SORRY! Funny quote! Hey, we can only do our best. If there's anything this place has taught me, it's that you can't try to not hurt everyone's feelings all the time. If you tried to do that, you might as well give up talking altogether. IP: Logged |
T
Knowflake Posts: 10031
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 30, 2013 05:07 AM
Come to find out, that just being yourself, really P!SSES some people here off! I've never known that in 'real life'.k. bedtime for me now. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 46010
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted August 30, 2013 08:29 AM
I will tell you my struggle being a Born Again Christian and trying to follow the Bible. I say trying because it is fraught with failure from my flawed human nature.When someone sets their mind to harass me, I will try to ignore. However, if the person does not stop, I want to make them regret messing with me. I can do it because I am smart  However, my conscience tells me that I need to try to act with love. I have been really struggling with this and came upon a solution as I read this thread. The solution is that if an evil person is harassing me and it usually is that. If it is just a sick person, I ignore because my heart goes out to them, usually. If it is an evil person, I just show them their OWN face. That is all I have to do. Jesus did that and so it is cool. Thanks for the thread. I resolved an issue that was bothering me. ------------------
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somethingexcellent
Knowflake Posts: 2490
From: vodka fine, I'm so divine
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 30, 2013 03:36 PM
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T: I've never known that in 'real life'.
k. bedtime for me now.
I'm just glad you haven't been banned yet. IP trickery or not! quote:
Ami Anne: Thanks for the thread. I resolved an issue that was bothering me.
Haha! Any time! As high and mighty as it may be to take the high road, I think you can't just always live your life like that. I think it's a good learning experience to get down and dirty sometimes. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 46010
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted August 30, 2013 03:44 PM
Haha! Any time! As high and mighty as it may be to take the high road, I think you can't just always live your life like that. I think it's a good learning experience to get down and dirty sometimes.
I do. 
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hannaramaa
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Registered: Nov 2011
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posted August 30, 2013 04:45 PM
I don't believe in people not being self-aware. I think one is always self-aware, but self control is their vice. These people who throw trash out, and don't want the favor returned to them are about appearances rather than honesty or responsibility. It is superficial altogether, and I find these people (in real life) very easy to deal with by simply taking emotion out of the equation and blatantly letting them know I understand what's going on. It usually hushes them and they don't bother me anymore.IP: Logged |
Zander916
Knowflake Posts: 443
From: Mercury
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted August 30, 2013 06:01 PM
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Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
I'm going to disagree with you, so hear me out. I don't think that there's anything you can't help about yourself...I like to believe that you can always change for the better, or at least, change so you can be happier and have a happier life. So when someone is like that...I think they just need to learn how to take a step back sometimes...or at least how to see things from the other way, you know?I dunno, but changing yourself isn't always easy, for sure. Life. 
Agree 100%. I live my life this way. I have to or I'd be four
times the train wreck that I am now. I make a lot of mistakes, but less than I used to and less severe.
I tend to think it's because some people feel out of control and that is their way of clawing at something for control. Has been for me. When I feel out of control emotionally I am aware of such. Being in that haze I forget to step back and thus act out. I'm probably not making sense. LOL Definitely not easy. IP: Logged |
T
Knowflake Posts: 10031
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 31, 2013 12:55 PM
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I'm just glad you haven't been banned yet.
Awww  IP: Logged |
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