posted September 02, 2013 01:46 PM            

Cause I usually don't handle them at all. I tell them to get out of my face.

Whatever.

Next day they'll smile at me like nothing happened and am like WTF.

posted September 02, 2013 01:54 PM            

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

posted September 02, 2013 02:21 PM            

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

posted September 02, 2013 02:25 PM            

I think a person who knows who she is and has a solid, comfortable and mature sense of self can deal with fake people better.

You can not let them get under your skin because you know that they really are not a threat to you unless YOU see it that way.

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posted September 02, 2013 02:56 PM            

I at first say nothing, and then after 3 months of trying to give hints, end up blowing up in their face...but not blow up as in tempter tantrum, but they'll say or do whatever has been bothering me for that whole while and i won't resist a
"yeah yeah sure...that is why you etc etc like i won't know you did/said that because...."

i usually say that with such an air of 'f**k Off' even if not shouting, that the person doesn't say anything back.

but that isn't the right thing to do.

posted September 02, 2013 06:33 PM            

Confrontation is a skill, society teaches people to have a sort of false politeness when it comes to confrontation.

There is a class of people who know this, and take advantage of the falsity.

posted September 02, 2013 07:36 PM            

I'm generally good about keeping them out of my life by focusing on the positive and paying them as little mind as I can until they're entangled in the drama of others. One person with more clout than usual who came after me and mine needed to be dissuaded with a lawyer, but at least in his case his failed attempt to ruin us to make himself look better just brought me and mine closer together.

My mom is fake, but she's also predictable (at least to me who has been around her for years, and her Leo and Gemini aspects made her brag about her tricks to me more than once while she was drunk which also helped). I deal with her very cautiously...nevertheless, I recognize some very bad things that happened to her that made her that way and I grudgingly feel some sympathy and pity (which would infuriate her if she knew) for her. I sometimes wonder if she ever gave up the alcohol she self-medicates with if the scorpio gone bad might somehow transform from a gray lizard to a phoenix, but I don't dare let myself hope for it.

When I was younger and still learning I went into business for awhile using my washing machines to wash clothes for people (until I realized all the hot water I was using ate up all my profits). One mother slipped in a badly ripped shirt and I recall wondering if she was going to make cleaning rags out of it after it was washed as I couldn't imagine anyone wearing it, but when she picked her clothes up that time she (for the first time) searched until she found it and pulled it out claiming I ripped it and refused to pay me anything and pretended I was lying about it already being ripped. Later she came back to give me "another chance" and I bluntly refused, and when she asked why I reminded her of the shirt with Sag bluntness and Libra detachment and a calm, "We have a saying in Texas: first time shame on you, second time shame on me."

posted September 02, 2013 07:43 PM            

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posted September 02, 2013 09:38 PM            

Most of the time I'll be like "Oh well" and smile as if nothing happened. People have their own reasons to behave the way they do.

posted September 02, 2013 11:12 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
My definition of fake people (important as I'm sure there will be different definitions here and I don't want anyone to make the mistake I'm talking about the same thing they are): Do anything to look good which includes tearing down others and/or stealing credit for what other people do. Furthermore, they have a strong tendency to treat people as accessories so if someone is useful then they groom them as friends & contacts, but if not (or worse, a liability) they drop them in a heartbeat, often with a metaphoric dagger in the back and malicious gossip.

I'm generally good about keeping them out of my life by focusing on the positive and paying them as little mind as I can until they're entangled in the drama of others. One person with more clout than usual who came after me and mine needed to be dissuaded with a lawyer, but at least in his case his failed attempt to ruin us to make himself look better just brought me and mine closer together.

My mom is fake, but she's also predictable (at least to me who has been around her for years, and her Leo and Gemini aspects made her brag about her tricks to me more than once while she was drunk which also helped). I deal with her very cautiously...nevertheless, I recognize some very bad things that happened to her that made her that way and I grudgingly feel some sympathy and pity (which would infuriate her if she knew) for her. I sometimes wonder if she ever gave up the alcohol she self-medicates with if the scorpio gone bad might somehow transform from a gray lizard to a phoenix, but I don't dare let myself hope for it.

When I was younger and still learning I went into business for awhile using my washing machines to wash clothes for people (until I realized all the hot water I was using ate up all my profits). One mother slipped in a badly ripped shirt and I recall wondering if she was going to make cleaning rags out of it after it was washed as I couldn't imagine anyone wearing it, but when she picked her clothes up that time she (for the first time) searched until she found it and pulled it out claiming I ripped it and refused to pay me anything and pretended I was lying about it already being ripped. Later she came back to give me "another chance" and I bluntly refused, and when she asked why I reminded her of the shirt with Sag bluntness and Libra detachment and a calm, "We have a saying in Texas: first time shame on you, second time shame on me."

She had a melt down but left after a major tantrum (and seeing I wasn't impressed) and tried a major gossip campaign against me. Luckily my reputation was good enough and hers bad enough (many had been burned by her before) that I weathered it well. However, I realized I probably wouldn't keep weathering things like that so in the future I wasn't blunt I simply either made my excuses (something like, "I've got way too much on my plate right now to take that job" which is technically true if you add, "to put up with your crap") and/or gave a price so high they wouldn't take it (or if they did then I might actually do it, but pay in advance!). That's been good about getting rid of a lot of the unnecessary drama that tried to become part of my life.

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posted September 02, 2013 11:50 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
I really dislike fake people...
ugggh especially ass kissers and hypocrites, I'm usually painfully sarcastic around them...
I'll usually pick at them and try and get a reaction, it's funny trying to see them keep their composure.

I'll usually call them out on it and humiliate them in front of everyone.

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posted September 02, 2013 11:56 PM            

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

posted September 03, 2013 01:17 AM            

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Originally posted by NickiG:
You could always pull an elaborate prank on those fake people for your amusement

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posted September 03, 2013 01:43 AM            

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Originally posted by Jessica2407:
seriously I need to take notes.

Cause I usually don't handle them at all. I tell them to get out of my face.

Whatever.

Next day they'll smile at me like nothing happened and am like WTF.

So how do YOU handle them?

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posted September 03, 2013 01:51 AM            

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Originally posted by charmainec:
I ignore/avoid them now. In the past I'd just flat out tell them what I thought of them. There's no space in my life for insincere people.

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posted September 03, 2013 02:07 AM            

Ingoring/avoiding "fake" people has been effective for me thus far.. Although telling someone straight out feels better so that both parties know where they stand. Being blunt can make you quite quite unpopular to say the least but I really don't care. Life is not a popularity contest.

A$$ kissers and "fake" nice people eek me. I mean if someone is being genuine with you, the least you expect is the same. But unfortunately we have all sorts so we just have to set boundries for ourselves - what we will and will not tolerate.