posted September 28, 2013 01:21 PM            

hannaramaa - LMAO! That was one of the first things that I thought. I was gonna call them the next day. Then I thought, "no, I'll go ask who's in charge right now and talk to them."
However, it ended up, "Imma go tell that b***h what I think of her." LOL!
I can definitely be vengeful and I'll wait. An ex is trying to crawl back into having a relationship I think. It didn't end badly, but it was a little shady on her part. This was 2008. I never forget things. So I'm like, "Okay, I'll let her in close a little bit and then be like, No sorry. I'm not wanting a relationship." Just as a matter of payback. Which is true that I don't. I like being her friend but that's it. I don't do 2nd's.

posted September 28, 2013 03:09 PM            

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Ahem. Leos would totally seek revenge. Revenge is a way to control the situation and Leos (disclaimer: not all) need to control things. Furthermore they hide behind a mask of ethics. Zander, I'm using you as an example here although it may not be specifically true for you. He would have gone and talked to the supervisor to get her in trouble. To outsiders it looks like revenge, but if asked to admit such an act he may say, "No, she needed to be put in her place." Like he is doing her a favor. They can be quite arrogant, but it especially shows when they're ****** off like that.

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posted September 29, 2013 01:11 AM            

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Originally posted by Zander916:

hannaramaa - LMAO! That was one of the first things that I thought. I was gonna call them the next day. Then I thought, "no, I'll go ask who's in charge right now and talk to them."

However, it ended up, "Imma go tell that b***h what I think of her." LOL!
I can definitely be vengeful and I'll wait. An ex is trying to crawl back into having a relationship I think. It didn't end badly, but it was a little shady on her part. This was 2008. I never forget things. So I'm like, "Okay, I'll let her in close a little bit and then be like, No sorry. I'm not wanting a relationship." Just as a matter of payback. Which is true that I don't. I like being her friend but that's it. I don't do 2nd's.

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posted September 29, 2013 02:26 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I'm actually surprised you're her friend. Most of the Leos I know are die hard romantics and give love 2nd chances every time (then again... I think they were also the ones to call it off. I think Janet Jackson's "Control" should be Leo's theme song...js) and cross their friends off easy peasy no matter how much time has been invested. Your attitude towards it doesn't surprise me though, lol. Clearly she doesn't know much about Leos or the way they work or she would have been more fair to you, not shady.

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Yeah you're right! lol I can't think of any relationship that I didn't "technically" call it off. Some heading to that direction either way.
Some I'm on friendly terms with, but she's the only one that I've actually remained friends with, as in regular communication. We've always been pretty close. Her family is all messed up. I'm kind of... her stability in a way. She always asks me what she should do in hard decisions.
Now, what I'm about to say was only a very small part of why I broke it off.
There was this guy who was courting her. He lived overseas but being a Leo, it's a respect thing from both her and him. He was trying to win her over, and she didn't exactly jump at it, yet she really didn't put him in his place at all. Just kind of stayed neutral like when you say, "maybe" or "I'm not sure."
Well, after we were over. We didn't talk for a few months and then when I did I learned they were in a relationship and she had flown over there to visit. Sometime later, they were married. It's hard to explain my feelings on that. I guess it was just a mild bitter taste in my mouth but nothing bad at all.
After a couple years they were having problems. He wouldn't work, was lazy, EXTREMELY jealous and possessive, yet himself questionably faithful. She asked me what she should do as far as stay with him or divorce. Despite the bitter taste in my mouth I tried to do the right thing. I just told her, "You're the only one who can decide that. It's your relationship. It's how much you love him vs how much crap you are willing to tolerate. I can't help you decide."
Now that they are divorcing and she's "coming home" she seems all interested.
THAT also seems shady. Like I'll just be here waiting around or something. I care about her but I'm done with all of that.
As far as returning to old relationships. I've always been that way. I just won't do it. I won't mess with a friends ex either, even if my friend is okay with it. I just won't. It's just part of my hard wired in morals I guess.
ANYWAY... It's not problematic for me. It's one of those deals like when someone doesn't lie, they just withhold information. I'm not leading her on, I'm just not being forthcoming about not being open to a relationship. If she mentions it directly instead of beating around the bush. I'll be straightforward.
ANYWAY, the whole thing is not problematic for me. It doesn't stress me out at all. I just thought that I might as well tell the story. LOL

posted September 29, 2013 03:21 AM            

At home when my mom was mad, you would only know from her body language. She would pout and semi aggressively move things around, but she would not really express anger. It's so strange to me that situations like that cause her to lose her temper. It seems so trivial to me. I have a lot of Scorpio energy, so I can relate to that anger when you feel you've been wronged, but to get so angry over something like that seems silly to me.

posted September 29, 2013 01:27 PM            

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Just kind of stayed neutral like when you say, "maybe" or "I'm not sure."

Now that they are divorcing and she's "coming home" she seems all interested.

THAT also seems shady. Like I'll just be here waiting around or something. I care about her but I'm done with all of that.

As far as returning to old relationships. I've always been that way. I just won't do it. I won't mess with a friends ex either, even if my friend is okay with it. I just won't. It's just part of my hard wired in morals I guess.

I'm not leading her on, I'm just not being forthcoming about not being open to a relationship. If she mentions it directly instead of beating around the bush. I'll be straightforward. ANYWAY, the whole thing is not problematic for me. It doesn't stress me out at all. I just thought that I might as well tell the story. LOL

Crossing friends off easy peasy. LOL That's SOOOOOOOO me!
So that's the Leo that does that? I've often wondered what part of me can do that so effortlessly.

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1. The "maybe" answer sounds mutable to me. What's her sign (ASC, Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars)

2. I was about to say it sounds shady, and I understand why it sounds shady to you because she's not being direct, and then you confirmed it. Then again you are also being mutable (A Virgo quality) by omitting your opinion (not about the divorce, but your feelings after) yet it also seems like a control thing again. Leos hardly ever put all their cards on the table until their feelings are confirmed or denied in someway.

3. I won't mess with seconds either! I have Leo ruling my 3rd house and Mercury in Aries, so perhaps that's why I understand your guys' thought processes better than other signs.

4. About cutting people off effortlessly, hmm. I've mulled over this a lot through various experiences with Leos and I've concluded Leos have a limited amount and ability to empathize with another. They are logical (they oppose Aquarius afterall thus they would obviously share some traits with them) and are blessed with knowing their worth. Their decisions are usually based on their worth, so I think Leos see disagreements and bumps in friendships as tests of their worth and don't like that. They're also honest signs too where a lot of people wont' be honest because their egos are too fragile to handle such criticism (ironically Leos are fragile but they see honesty as a respect thing.) I also think it's easy for you because Virgo is mutable, so like it's counterpart Pisces, it's a sign that knows how to let go. Virgo also rules Mercury and tends to have a shrewd / critical eye. I can only assume this adds to being more logical than emotional.

posted September 29, 2013 08:47 PM            

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1. The "maybe" answer sounds mutable to me. What's her sign (ASC, Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars)

2. I was about to say it sounds shady, and I understand why it sounds shady to you because she's not being direct, and then you confirmed it. Then again you are also being mutable (A Virgo quality) by omitting your opinion (not about the divorce, but your feelings after) yet it also seems like a control thing again. Leos hardly ever put all their cards on the table until their feelings are confirmed or denied in someway.

3. I won't mess with seconds either! I have Leo ruling my 3rd house and Mercury in Aries, so perhaps that's why I understand your guys' thought processes better than other signs.

4. About cutting people off effortlessly, hmm. I've mulled over this a lot through various experiences with Leos and I've concluded Leos have a limited amount and ability to empathize with another. They are logical (they oppose Aquarius afterall thus they would obviously share some traits with them) and are blessed with knowing their worth. Their decisions are usually based on their worth, so I think Leos see disagreements and bumps in friendships as tests of their worth and don't like that. They're also honest signs too where a lot of people wont' be honest because their egos are too fragile to handle such criticism (ironically Leos are fragile but they see honesty as a respect thing.) I also think it's easy for you because Virgo is mutable, so like it's counterpart Pisces, it's a sign that knows how to let go. Virgo also rules Mercury and tends to have a shrewd / critical eye. I can only assume this adds to being more logical than emotional.

^ Sorry for the long winded answer.

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I don't know her Asc.
Otherwise
Libra Sun
Cap Moon
Libra Mercury
Virgo Venus
Aries Mars

2)
I thought about that and actually, I think you're right about holding cards back. For example, if I'm interested in someone I won't necessarily come straight out. I'll kind of like, send in the Canary and see what happens. If I get a good signal back, I'll pursue a bit stronger.

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I'm definitely very logical, more so than emotional. Although I can have SUPER strong emotions at times. It is related to worth. Basically, I value close friendships. So I expect them to be as committed to me as I am to them. (speaking of simple friendships) I will go far out of my way for them and if I even get a sense that they are far less than that, they're gone. They don't have to be equally as self-sacrificing, but the friendship value needs to be there. (genuine value, not to be taken advantage or I get ugly)