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Topic: Men. Respect.
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FruitTreeFresh
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posted September 25, 2013 11:11 AM
  
Random thoughts. Guess I'm bored.Can a man who loves you doesn't respect you? Can you love a man whom you doesn't respect? Can you find a man who love you and gives you a decency of respect? IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted September 25, 2013 11:41 AM
Sorry. Bored too. No understand you what mean. Please writing good better Ingrish. Respect is achieved subsequent to proper grammatical usage.  . IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted September 25, 2013 12:14 PM
LOL IanI wish I could speak any language as well as many of you bi-lingual people! ------------------
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somethingexcellent
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posted September 25, 2013 01:51 PM
Yes to all - love and respect are separate things and do not necessarily come together.  IP: Logged |
Zander916
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From: Midwest
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posted September 25, 2013 01:55 PM
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Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
Yes to all - love and respect are separate things and do not necessarily come together.
Agree. I respect until not respected in return. Love, I could love even if they hate me. (I did actually, that's how I know! lol) IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted September 25, 2013 03:59 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
LOL IanI wish I could speak any language as well as many of you bi-lingual people!
I'm not bilingual, unless you count Ebonics/ghetto talk. I can hardly handle English.
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Ami Anne
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posted September 25, 2013 04:19 PM
Ebonics. That counts. The liberal educational tried to count is as a second language. What they heck, WE accept it ------------------
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PixieJane
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posted September 25, 2013 05:13 PM
It depends on how you define respect. Defined as like etiquette then yes, I can handle a guy who cusses and even likes to sing songs while belching at the same time and believes I can get my own doors (he'd be right). But if defined as in "considering what you think, sharing the power" then no, I couldn't accept someone who didn't let me do that. However, it's possible to love someone without respecting them that way, plenty of men & women seem to do it (and it's even normal when it comes to pet owners, then there's the infirm where one has lost their ability to even recognize reality who are still loved and cared for, and heck plenty of kids & parents love each other without the respect). Furthermore, not everyone needs respect, for some it's enough to be loved. And then there are those sad souls who find someone who is completely dependent on them (and therefore may pity them but not respect them) so that the the person doesn't have to fear being left or kicked out (both men and women have been known to do this). IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted September 25, 2013 05:21 PM
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Originally posted by FruitTreeFresh:
Random thoughts. Guess I'm bored.Can a man who loves you doesn't respect you? Can you love a man whom you doesn't respect? Can you find a man who love you and gives you a decency of respect?
I can't love someone I don't respect, absolutely not. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 25, 2013 05:37 PM
Hmm well I think it depends.You can love family but have zero respect for them.
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Padre35
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From: Asheville, NC, US
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posted September 25, 2013 07:01 PM
The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.Making it possible to love someone who one may not respect, that does not mean a loving relationship per se, more that it is possible. IP: Logged |
Zander916
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From: Midwest
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 25, 2013 07:50 PM
Oh no. Has it come to this again? Adding definition to things that have different meanings to different people? IP: Logged |
MetalAphrodite
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From: Zanguin :3
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted September 25, 2013 07:52 PM
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Originally posted by FruitTreeFresh:
Random thoughts. Guess I'm bored.Can a man who loves you doesn't respect you? Can you love a man whom you doesn't respect? Can you find a man who love you and gives you a decency of respect?
I can love a man that I don't respect, but you will never find me in a relationship with him.If I can't respect a man then I will not respect his decisions and we will fight. My ex loved me, still does. Never respected me. He had this great fear that I was going to leave him because he wasn't good enough. By good, I mean super intelligent, awesome job, whatever. In the end, he destroyed the relationship with his insecurities. It cut me to the bone. I wrote an essay for English class about this and explaining divorce to my then-toddler and crying throughout the presentation. What fun lol. My current bf, I've never known someone like this. We've been dating for almost a year, known each other since 2010. He is not the type to cower to anyone and is fierce. Not afraid of confrontation either. I used to think arguing was his life force! We haven't fought since the beginning of September. Currently, he has been treating me so softly that I think I've entered the twilight zone. Can I find a man that simultaneously loves me and gives me respect? I hope so. I'm not sure how to handle the idea in its entirety if he made my sincerest wish come true. IP: Logged |
MetalAphrodite
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posted September 25, 2013 07:57 PM
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Originally posted by Padre35:
The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.Making it possible to love someone who one may not respect, that does not mean a loving relationship per se, more that it is possible.
I completely agree with this.
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FruitTreeFresh
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posted September 25, 2013 08:21 PM
Good morning people!@YTA, my bad why isn't there a grammar checker? Somebody should invent that! IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted September 25, 2013 08:23 PM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Hmm well I think it depends.You can love family but have zero respect for them.
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FruitTreeFresh
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posted September 25, 2013 08:25 PM
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Originally posted by Zander916:
Oh no. Has it come to this again? Adding definition to things that have different meanings to different people?
Alrighty. Lets change the topic. Tell me about someone whom you respect or you think they deserve your respect. No gender bias. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted September 25, 2013 08:36 PM
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Can a man who loves you doesn't respect you?
Yes this can happen.. if he did not have positive role models and does not know how to treat others with respect.
But who would be interested in such a man?
I would just tell him he has a problem and needs help. Goodbye quote:
Can you love a man whom you doesn't respect?
Nope. I respect everyone. But I couldn't be with a person or continue a friendship if they were disrespectful.
This does not mean I would be disrespectful back. I would just leave. quote:
Can you find a man who love you and gives you a decency of respect?
Yes. Many. Like mannnnny!!
I've only met maybe two in my entire life who did not respect me.
I don't really attract disrespectful people - probably because I am respectful myself, and also because I am not interested in disrespectful people -so they're blank to me. I probably don't notice them. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted September 25, 2013 08:41 PM
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Lets change the topic. Tell me about someone whom you respect or you think they deserve your respect. No gender bias.
Are we changing the topic for everyone? O_O lol Anyway - as I said I have respect for basically everyone, unless they are disrespectful or nasty themselves. I wouldn't know who to pick because so many people (and my dog!) deserve my respect. There are too many..
Honestly where do I start? lol IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted September 25, 2013 09:03 PM
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Originally posted by FruitTreeFresh:
Good morning people!@YTA, my bad why isn't there a grammar checker? Somebody should invent that!
That's your business opportunity! Develop the technology. Sell that sucker to Microsoft for $10 billion! IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
Knowflake Posts: 4122
From: vodka fine, I'm so divine
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted September 25, 2013 09:27 PM
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Odette: Are we changing the topic for everyone? O_O
LOol I've done that before!! "Everyone shut up stop talking" and then introduce the issue at hand...it works... IP: Logged |
blueskiez06
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posted September 26, 2013 03:01 AM
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Jessica2407
Moderator Posts: 4510
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted September 26, 2013 03:45 AM
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Originally posted by FruitTreeFresh:
Random thoughts. Guess I'm bored.Can a man who loves you doesn't respect you? Can you love a man whom you doesn't respect? Can you find a man who love you and gives you a decency of respect?
What IS respect to you? IP: Logged |
Hera
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From: Aries fantasy land ^_^
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posted September 26, 2013 05:18 AM
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Originally posted by blueskiez06:
agree with hannarama, love and respect go hand in hand, can not have one without the other
Same here, for me. I think other people did love me, but didn't respect me or my boundaries. My father comes to mind. Not acceptable, unfortunately. IP: Logged |
Blackbird
Knowflake Posts: 253
From: Texas
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted September 27, 2013 10:20 AM
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Originally posted by Jessica2407:
What IS respect to you?
And what is love? Each of us might define it differently, and we feel/have/give love to different people in different ways. respect
(transitive verb):
1. to feel or show deferential regard for; esteem.
2. to avoid violation or interference with. (noun)
1. a feeling of appreciative, often deferential regard; esteem.
2. the state of being regarded with honor or esteem.
3. willingness to show consideration or appreciation. Related... deference
(noun)
1. respectful yielding to the opinion, wishes or judgment of another. My personal adaptation or definition of "respect": to assume that people are good, and that their opinions are valid, unless proven otherwise; to avoid imposing my will on them, and to let them be their own persons. To acknowledge their identity, uniqueness and experiences. I could summarize "respect" with one word:
humility. love
(transitive verb)
1. to have a great attachment to and affection for.
2. to have passionate desire, longing, and feelings for. Hmm. I've never been in love before. I guess my personal definition of love is unusual: complete respect and trust, devotion, service and self-sacrifice. My mother told me, "love is an act, not a feeling". Saying "I love you" is easy. Anyone can do that. Words are cheap. Demonstrating and proving love is a challenge, and it takes time. I seem to have a rather "biblical" definition of love. My parents raised me in the church, so that's not a surprise. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
New International Version (NIV)
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. To me, love is the sum of every positive feeling or hope one person can have for another. To love someone is to want the best for them, and to be willing to set aside one's own desires to help bring them the best. ------------------
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