posted January 03, 2014 01:21 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
mockingbird!!!!

Happy New Year! So happy to see you again!

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Are you on FB?
I just remembered why I stopped frequenting this forum.

posted January 03, 2014 02:29 PM            

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Originally posted by mockingbird:
Your style seems a good one, YTA, and about what we do - though we can't spoil our children quite so lavishly.

(While my husband is bringing home enough for me to stay home with our children - and that's saying something in my area, as you know - we're also living in a quasi-inherited house and are a good deal more frugal than most of our neighbors.)

You also alluded to something else that I think is important: Kids are different.
My eldest needs a stronger hand (a Taurus Sun with a Gemini Moon/Venus/Mars Stellium in the 11th, a Leo Asc, and an Aries Merc, if anyone's interested). "Argument" is her middle name. Her bull-headedness and verbal fire mixed with acuity will serve her well if we can teach her some d*mn humility.
But she's like a raptor - always testing the fences.

My middle (a Taurus Sun, Pisces Moon + (er...I forgot) Stellium, Saggie Asc) melts into a puddle of blech with anything much more than encouragement and gentle reprimand. She loves to bake and create and cuddle, but can be dogged if she's pointed in the direction of something interesting and given the space to explore it. She's just a pliable, happy joy. If anything, we're going to have to teach her to stand up for herself and assert her will when it matters.

Our youngest - oy.
She's still young, but already clearly possessing a dogged determinism, a soft heart, and (for her age) an uncommonly analytical, ordered mind.
*thinks for a second*
Cancer Sun, Pisces Moon, Virgo Asc, Gem Merc.
For now, she requires only slight reprimand.

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posted January 03, 2014 03:42 PM            

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Originally posted by mockingbird:

Are you on FB?
I just remembered why I stopped frequenting this forum.

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To me, LL is like having a spare dysfunctional family. Sweet Peas is like having an endless Thanksgiving dinner with this family...same issues, over and over and over.

posted January 04, 2014 09:27 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Kids have to want to succeed. You can lead the horse to the water. You can't make the horse drink.

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Sort of, much of that comes from a support system that helps them to succeed.

To go to your dolphin parenting model the sort of "well let's ask the 3 yr old what they want" is simply insane. Yet I see it happen/have seen it happen.

posted January 04, 2014 09:29 AM            

I guess I'm insane because I ask my 3 year-old what he wants all the time. Like while I'm building a Thomas train set with him, I'm always like, "You want a bridge here or a tunnel? Where shall we put the roundhouse?"

posted January 04, 2014 09:55 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Why NOT ask a three year-old what they want?

I guess I'm insane because I ask my 3 year-old what he wants all the time. Like while I'm building a Thomas train set with him, I'm always like, "You want a bridge here or a tunnel? Where shall we put the roundhouse?"

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B/c one is the parent and the other child Faith, and the thomas the train set is not what I had in mind, stuff like where do they want to stop to get something to eat, do they want to wear whatever pair of shoes.

That sort of parental/child relationship is something of a shrinking thing now, instead of Authority/Subordinate it's partnering to reach consensus.

posted January 04, 2014 10:20 AM            

Sometimes I WILL ask my three year-old where he wants to eat. The lesson is called, "You are a person whose opinion actually matters." I give that same lesson many ways.

Unless you've spent a lot of time around young children, you might not be aware of how advanced their thinking is, and how you really need to listen for, and respond to, their genius. My 3 year-old is really brilliant, and if my attitude was that he needed to assume a docile role and meet every developmental goal that I read in a book and systematically laid out for him, we would be wasting his time barking up the wrong trees.

posted January 04, 2014 11:13 AM            

Thomas for you!!

http://youtu.be/lAHyUVkr8uU

http://youtu.be/g5S_2jbL4Lc

posted January 04, 2014 10:03 PM            

It's just impolite and upsetting..

I mean why do they always have to burp??

Why do men do this?????

Why? Oh why?

posted January 04, 2014 10:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Sometimes when I date a guy - he burps.. and I don't understand why anyone would do that.
I appreciate good manners.

It's just impolite and upsetting..

I mean why do they always have to burp??

Why do men do this?????

Why? Oh why?

This one time a guy hit on me.. and he was HOT, he had a sick pack and pretty blue eyes.. and I thought about doing him in the bathroom of the place we were at - but then he burped and spoiled it all - and I had to reject him.
*deep sigh*

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posted January 04, 2014 10:08 PM            

Wrong thread. This is the parenting thread.

posted January 04, 2014 10:12 PM            

Sorry YTA - but I'm intentionally on the wrong thread - to show Padre & AG what they usually do.. on every thread lol

posted January 04, 2014 10:16 PM            

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Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course.

posted January 04, 2014 10:55 PM            

*ANY excuse*

Oh and for icing on the cake why not close this thread since I just "got nasty."

posted January 04, 2014 10:56 PM            

I couldn't help myself lolll

posted January 05, 2014 01:15 AM            

I don't know why I love that so much but then I often seem to like it when elements (*) get mixed like that.

posted January 05, 2014 07:59 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
We are blessed with an older one who has been outright cooperative and compliant. I have a younger one who is going to be much more of a challenge because he is fiesty and talks back.

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I am the younger one and yes I talk back. I could see through my parents' motives thousand miles away and Kero, they are manipulative too.

Both are Scorpios but I have Scorpio ascendant. Talk about power control haha.

posted January 05, 2014 08:04 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
Thomas the Tank set to Drowning Pool:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7MUzA3RmeIM

I don't know why I love that so much but then I often seem to like it when elements (*) get mixed like that.

(*I'm sure I could express myself better but probably not until tomorrow, and that may not be possible then. But then most everyone likes to use vague or ambiguous terms and expect everyone else to know what they're talking about anyway so why not?)

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And I thought *I* was discordant!

Awesome!

posted January 05, 2014 11:57 PM            

And if she somehow manages to get the ring on her finger, then she'll have larger problems on her hands because now the woman has reverted to mother-in-law!!

posted January 06, 2014 12:02 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
LOL AG!

Sorry YTA - but I'm intentionally on the wrong thread - to show Padre & AG what they usually do.. on every thread lol

I'll stop...
DW.

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posted January 06, 2014 06:06 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Shepherd? I pity whichever girl wants to date my son. She'll have to deal with the resume submission and hardcore interview of a boyfriend's mother. Qualification standards are enormously high!

And if she somehow manages to get the ring on her finger, then she'll have larger problems on her hands because now the woman has reverted to mother-in-law!!

I've got two mama's boys!!

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