posted May 29, 2014 11:39 AM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
I think it's physically impossible for a Mod to troll.

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I disagree.

I find it odd that AG literally finds any and every way to rile people up and push his "women are so bad" meme ON A FEMALE DOMINATED SITE. The threads won't even have anything to do with him but time and time again he'll derail and deflect the topic to how "guys aren't like this" and "so many women are like that" bs.

AND THEN he and some other people have the nerve to say that people are "ganging up" on him.

I'm literally so confused as to how you expect the members of this forum (especially some who have been here for years) to just sit back and let his negative opinions and views run rampant all in the name of "letting him heal" and "being the higher one/humble one/ignoring him".

This thread is a perfect example of how he didn't even really answer the question in this thread as to how he rejects women but off the bat he comes in on the defense against women derailing the thread with his "this is generalizing" comment. ariestaurus didn't even say that "all" men were like that. Just men that she's come across in her life. He knew that his response would get backlash did he not?

I'm just wondering why this is ok?

posted May 29, 2014 11:54 AM            

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Originally posted by Chiemi:
I disagree.

I find it odd that AG literally finds any and every way to rile people up and push his "women are so bad" meme ON A FEMALE DOMINATED SITE. The threads won't even have anything to do with him but time and time again he'll derail and deflect the topic to how "guys aren't like this" and "so many women are like that" bs.

AND THEN he and some other people have the nerve to say that people are "ganging up" on him.

I'm literally so confused as to how you expect the members of this forum (especially some who have been here for years) to just sit back and let his negative opinions and views run rampant all in the name of "letting him heal" and "being the higher one/humble one/ignoring him".

This thread is a perfect example of how he didn't even really answer the question in this thread as to how he rejects women but off the bat he comes in on the defense against women derailing the thread with his "this is generalizing" comment. ariestaurus didn't even say that "all" men were like that. Just men that she's come across in [b]her life. He knew that his response would get backlash did he not?

I'm just wondering why this is ok?

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Yup, and notice when he quoted me, he cut off the "in my experience" part to make it seem like I was generalizing. He accuses me of misinterpreting his posts, while he deliberately misinterprets mine.

posted May 29, 2014 11:55 AM            

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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
Aqua! I have a lot of Sag friends, so much fun.

Lol I edited after his first post but know where it's headed now.

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posted May 29, 2014 12:43 PM            

In this specific topic, I believe he answered the OP neutrally and his post was taken out of context.
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Anyway, my messages increased to 75 and I had given two people my number. One flipped out on me when I told him I needed time because he was calling me every day and I told him I don't like talking on the phone. Said he has self respect and he waits for no ***** . I said are you the only one allowed self respect?

I just want to dump him on his ass. If he's going to react like that because I told him I am uncomfortable talking on the phone but I will text, then whatever.

I ended up deactivating my account for now because of people asking for my number and me feeling overwhelmed.

I don't believe I connected with majority of guys there. Idk, guys seem to like me because I have a pretty face and seem down to earth. I said on my profile I'm shy and some have tried to take it upon themselves to act like a screwdriver to pry me out of my shell by force. Not everyone was like that, but it got to the point where I started to feel it was too much for me. Moving too fast.

posted May 29, 2014 05:10 PM            

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
Okay, guys, please do not turn this into a AG bash fest.

In this specific topic, I believe he answered the OP neutrally and his post was taken out of context.
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Anyway, my messages increased to 75 and I had given two people my number. One flipped out on me when I told him I needed time because he was calling me every day and I told him I don't like talking on the phone. Said he has self respect and he waits for no ***** . I said are you the only one allowed self respect?

I just want to dump him on his ass. If he's going to react like that because I told him I am uncomfortable talking on the phone but I will text, then whatever.

I ended up deactivating my account for now because of people asking for my number and me feeling overwhelmed.

I don't believe I connected with majority of guys there. Idk, guys seem to like me because I have a pretty face and seem down to earth. I said on my profile I'm shy and some have tried to take it upon themselves to act like a screwdriver to pry me out of my shell by force. Not everyone was like that, but it got to the point where I started to feel it was too much for me. Moving too fast.

I received a reading in the PR section that said I should focus on solidifying my foundation first. I feel wholeheartedly that the OK Cupid/ dating sites experience is not for me. I have met guys from forums before and prefer that. I will also see what's going on with people around me.

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Online dating can be tough at times, sorry to hear about those experiences. Have you tried any other sites? Sometimes you got to shop around a bit to find the one that works for you.

Definitely if you feel overwhelmed or frustrated it's a good idea to take a break for a bit. But keep us updated!

posted May 29, 2014 05:45 PM            

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Originally posted by ariestaurus:
I LOVE AQUAS! They're the best! So fun, and always have something interesting to say I was with an Aqua guy for 4 years, and one of my best friends is an Aqua. Great people

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I meant to respond to this earlier! My longest relationship was with a Sag. My dad's a Sag and my sister too. I can't get rid of them!

posted May 29, 2014 06:08 PM            

So sneaky am I .

I realized I was able to get out some idea of what I want from a man by telling my gay friend what I appreciated from him.

I will build my mental effigy of a man and then burn him in the fire of my heart so I can send out clearer signals.

posted May 29, 2014 10:32 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Because what he says is being viewed through each individual's filter. Contrast that to MetalAphrodite who tries to remain neutral. Her statement about AG being taken out of context is true. As a person myself who merely posted that the title of a thread was a generalized statement and who was subsequently called "disgusting" and a host of other comments purportedly based upon things I said which I didn't actually say, I can attest that a few people here make taking things out of context an art.

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I honestly feel like this isn't a direct answer to my question. Is your answer really that it's because people take things out of context? Call me dim here but this whole quote has pretty much left me scratching my head.

What does someone's neutrality and the fact that someone supposedly called you disgusting (which I hope wasn't in reference to me because that term was meant to describe how I felt things were being handled here) have to do with what I said in my post? Feel free to highlight/quote what I said and paste your response.

posted May 29, 2014 10:41 PM            

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
Okay, guys, please do not turn this into a AG bash fest.

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posted May 29, 2014 10:43 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
People view things through a filter, and sometimes they are too close to the subject and/or have triggers.

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posted May 29, 2014 11:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Because what he says is being viewed through each individual's filter. Contrast that to MetalAphrodite who tries to remain neutral. Her statement about AG being taken out of context is true. As a person myself who merely posted that the title of a thread was a generalized statement and who was subsequently called "disgusting" and a host of other comments purportedly based upon things I said which I didn't actually say, I can attest that a few people here make taking things out of context an art.

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Exactly, it is all about seeing out of our own filters. One of the best uses of a community like this is to FACE your own filter. If people are going to keep blaming someone else for their OWN filter, they will go no where. To know oneself is one of the ways life has meaning. There will be AGs out there. There will be Amis out there but who are you? That is your quest. Squashing AG or squashing me won't help you in that quest. The fact that you want to should give you insight into yourself. If it does, you have gained something of value. If you squash AG or me, here, there will be another AG or another me, someplace else, and you will go through the same thing again.

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posted May 29, 2014 11:38 PM            

I think it ****** him off when I rejected his sexual advances, thru text and email. Never have I felt so disrespected by a person in my life. The last time it happened, they were so raunchy and sick I was convinced someone had stolen his phone and it was some sort of weird prank. It was way more ott than previous comments. I thought,...there's no way a guy who comes off as so spiritual and levelheaded could be saying these things, especially to me. It sounded like it was coming from some sick pervert. At first i played along a bit because i thought it was some kind of joke and was amused at some of the come ons. I finally realized it wasnt. Especially after the later emails continuing on regarding things he texted that i found the next morning.

Every time i tried to gently steer the convos back to normal things, like asking how life and work etc was going, I'd get an evasive quick answer then it was right back to dirty pervert mode. When he asked if he could call me and take it further I said i had to go to bed, get up early and then instead quickly got on the phone with a mutual girlfriend to relay the whole incident. LOL

TBH the red flags were there many times long before then, but i brushed them off over and over again somehow. When i finally took stock of years and behaviors and incidents and emails gone by, I finally woke up to who i was really dealing with and it wasnt pretty.

Another lesson learned. You never know who you are really dealing with and don't ever ignore your intuition.

I've often wondered if this is normally how he talks to and treats women who he is close to or wants to get close to?

posted May 29, 2014 11:46 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Exactly, it is all about seeing out of our own filters. One of the best uses of a community like this is to FACE your own filter. If people are going to keep blaming someone else for their OWN filter, they will go no where. To know oneself is one of the ways life has meaning. There will be AGs out there. There will be Amis out there but who are you? That is your quest. Squashing AG or squashing me won't help you in that quest. The fact that you [b]want to should give you insight into yourself. If it does, you have gained something of value. If you squash AG or me, here, there will be another AG or another me, someplace else, and you will go through the same thing again.

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posted May 29, 2014 11:54 PM            

Type all you want about "filters" and people having their own unique perspectives and the like, but that will still not deter anyone from easily and clearly seeing what's been going on.

posted May 29, 2014 11:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Exactly, it is all about seeing out of our own filters. One of the best uses of a community like this is to FACE your own filter. If people are going to keep blaming someone else for their OWN filter, they will go no where. To know oneself is one of the ways life has meaning. There will be AGs out there. There will be Amis out there but who are you? That is your quest. Squashing AG or squashing me won't help you in that quest. The fact that you [b]want to should give you insight into yourself. If it does, you have gained something of value. If you squash AG or me, here, there will be another AG or another me, someplace else, and you will go through the same thing again.

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I'm just going to make a few points here:

1. I wasn't even talking to you.

2. Please feel free to use my screen name and directly address me next time (same applies to other members since I'm sure they want the same). Thanks.

3. Don't preach to this choir about how one should:
"know thyself"
"not push blame"
and "do unto others as one would want others to do unto thyself"

It's funny when a person thinks they can just go to someones home telling them how things should be ran and handled but yet their own home is in chaos and dysfunction. Don't even act like you wrote this "advice" coming from a sound place with good intent, please miss me.

4. Squashing AG or squashing me won't help you in that quest. The fact that you [b]want to should give you insight into yourself.[/B]

Really? You really call someone calling you and AG out or disagreeing with your behavior trying to squash you? Mmk.

Second, what does this insight say about you since you literally came in here to post this when not one thing that I nor Randall posted in this thread concerned you?

What is your end goal here? Did that post of yours help your own life quest?

posted May 29, 2014 11:57 PM            

LOVE Nene!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Especially when she says that!!!

"Gurl bah" is more like it.

posted May 30, 2014 12:07 AM            

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Originally posted by T:
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1. I wasn't even talking to you.

LOVE Nene!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Especially when she says that!!!

"Gurl bah" is more like it.

HAAHAHAHA

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Lol Nene is messy I can't help but love her! I've been watching Catfish with both amusement and horror at the decisions people make.

I will save the thread!!!!!!

I don't have a ton of online dating experience but.....