posted June 19, 2014 10:44 PM            

When he got there he said can I at least have a hug and he insisted so I gave him a hug and he would not let go and ran his hand on my lower back and he said can I tell u something as I was walking out the car. Basically he told me soemthing sexually explicit about my body and he kept asking me if he could see me again I just left fast and went in my class ...

Sorry for the ****** writing but I'm a bit distraught...wth does this usually happen to girls? I know its my fault and all my friends told me its kinda sexual assault but that I'm the one that went in the car. Did u ever experience something like this?? Is my 8th house Venus attracting creepy stuff like this?

posted June 19, 2014 11:17 PM            

I hope that you consider yourself lucky that it was just some talk and nothing more.
I watch a lot of forensic shows, etc and yes... It does happen! More than you'd think! Or very similar type things.

posted June 19, 2014 11:25 PM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
I've had it when I was younger and I'm a dude. I was approached twice. Once by an "old" man and once by two guys in their 20's I'd say.
People are strange.

I hope that you consider yourself lucky that it was just some talk and nothing more.
I watch a lot of forensic shows, etc and yes... It does happen! More than you'd think! Or very similar type things.

You know... Sometimes I want to help people, in ways like that but you just can't trust them.

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posted June 19, 2014 11:39 PM            

A carload of what I assume were probably frat boys drove by sort of slowly, and one guy yelled out "NICE @SS!"

I put my head down and kept walking, a little faster, as I was almost to my street, and close to home. There weren't many people out.

As they passed me a little way, one of the guys (probably the same guy) screamed out "NICE @SS, YOU F***ING B**CH!"

It was traumatizing and demoralizing, and I had done nothing to warrant any of it. It made me feel sick inside.

I've had other creepy experiences, but the one time that I did accept a ride from a carload of guys, out of desperation, they were actually really nice, and took me where I needed to go without being creepy. We didn't even speak the same language.

Do count yourself lucky, like DF said, but please...it's not your fault that the guy was disgusting and horrible. What happened was not your fault.

You learned a valuable lesson, but please try to forgive yourself...we all do things against our better judgment sometimes, everyone does.

posted June 19, 2014 11:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Violets:
Once, I was walking alone at night in the U-District in Seattle, dressed the way that I did when I was in my twenties (and pretty normal for that neighborhood). It's a walking neighborhood and city, so it wasn't really that weird for me to be walking home in the dark by myself.

A carload of what I assume were probably frat boys drove by sort of slowly, and one guy yelled out "NICE @SS!"

I put my head down and kept walking, a little faster, as I was almost to my street, and close to home. There weren't many people out.

As they passed me a little way, one of the guys (probably the same guy) screamed out "NICE @SS, YOU F***ING B**CH!"

It was traumatizing and demoralizing, and I had done nothing to warrant any of it. It made me feel sick inside.

I've had other creepy experiences, but the one time that I did accept a ride from a carload of guys, out of desperation, they were actually really nice, and took me where I needed to go without being creepy. We didn't even speak the same language.

Do count yourself lucky, like DF said, but please...it's not your fault that the guy was disgusting and horrible. [b]What happened was not your fault.

You learned a valuable lesson, but please try to forgive yourself...we all do things against our better judgment sometimes, everyone does.

You were in a hurry, and there was someone there who you thought maybe just wanted to help you. Please try not to blame yourself, and just know that it was an important lesson.[/B]

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posted June 20, 2014 12:41 AM            

I certainly knew to watch out for bad people, I was a runaway at the time, and I'd also seen stranger danger vids and read a book on it, but the latter was ineffective because they showed the strangers as being sinister and hiding from everyone else (and the vids had scary music), but it wasn't like that at all. He was at a busy gas station (though most surely didn't pay attention and could easily assumed we knew each other), lots of people around, and he exuded respectability, and had a ring that I presume was a wedding band (and probably was). He said he had a daughter my age (may have even been true) and didn't want to see me walking these dangerous streets and I warmed to him. Some people are nice and I thought he was one of them.

He even bought me a pepsi to drink there at the station. I'm just lucky he didn't drug it because I drank it like a fool.

I told him I was headed up for Westheimer-Montrose which was fast in a car but about 2 blocks before we got there he pulled into a several story parking garage, and even then I wasn't worried, people parked there before shopping in that area all the time.

Once he parked he turned to me and had a quick talk about how he'd done something nice for me and now I owed him and it became apparent to me that he was expecting sexual favors. In shock I yelled no and unlocked the door when he grabbed me, face and voice a lot more demonic as he said I could either give it or he would take it, he wasn't someone I could take advantage of.

Luckily he wasn't expecting me to shove the big cup of Pepsi in his face, and then I got before he could recover and started shouting up a storm at him in a rage. It was drawing attention and he started up his car and left, glaring at me as if I'd done him wrong as he pulled out like I'd taken advantage of his kindness rather than a victim he lured to rape escaping the predator.

posted June 20, 2014 07:47 AM            

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When I was 15 I was walking a few miles up a highway to where I needed to go in late spring/early summer (Houston, Texas, which means hot & humid). As I was passing a gas station a man stopped me (he'd probably passed me walking and quite possible stopped there more for me than any other reason).

I certainly knew to watch out for bad people, I was a runaway at the time, and I'd also seen stranger danger vids and read a book on it, but the latter was ineffective because they showed the strangers as being sinister and hiding from everyone else (and the vids had scary music), but it wasn't like that at all. He was at a busy gas station (though most surely didn't pay attention and could easily assumed we knew each other), lots of people around, and he exuded respectability, and had a ring that I presume was a wedding band (and probably was). He said he had a daughter my age (may have even been true) and didn't want to see me walking these dangerous streets and I warmed to him. Some people are nice and I thought he was one of them.

He even bought me a pepsi to drink there at the station. I'm just lucky he didn't drug it because I drank it like a fool.

I told him I was headed up for Westheimer-Montrose which was fast in a car but about 2 blocks before we got there he pulled into a several story parking garage, and even then I wasn't worried, people parked there before shopping in that area all the time.

Once he parked he turned to me and had a quick talk about how he'd done something nice for me and now I owed him and it became apparent to me that he was expecting sexual favors. In shock I yelled no and unlocked the door when he grabbed me, face and voice a lot more demonic as he said I could either give it or he would take it, he wasn't someone I could take advantage of.

Luckily he wasn't expecting me to shove the big cup of Pepsi in his face, and then I got before he could recover and started shouting up a storm at him in a rage. It was drawing attention and he started up his car and left, glaring at me as if I'd done him wrong as he pulled out like I'd taken advantage of his kindness rather than a victim he lured to rape escaping the predator.

I've never forgotten to beware of hidden price tags since then.

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posted June 20, 2014 09:24 AM            

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Originally posted by CatMote:
wow, im really glad nothing bad happened to you. that was a very dangerous situation you were in.
remember, its OK to say no. this world is full of creeps and you gotta learn how to handle them. be the warrior princess your name implies

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posted June 20, 2014 10:04 AM            

I've been approached many times by men in cars, who ask me for directions, or offer me a ride. I NEVER get in. The guys have always looked really creepy. For instance, it just happened recently that a guy saw me walking through a parking lot of a mall and drove right up to me to ask for directions. When I was telling him the directions, he kept telling me to come closer and closer to his car because 'he couldn't hear me'. I refused, then he asked me if I needed a ride. Umm, heck no. He was so creepy. His eyes were all shifty and he was trembling when he was talking to me. He was probably in his late 40s.

posted June 20, 2014 10:13 AM            

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posted June 20, 2014 11:40 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
I officially don't want to live on this planet anymore.

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posted June 20, 2014 12:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
I officially don't want to live on this planet anymore.

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posted June 20, 2014 03:02 PM            

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Originally posted by ariestaurus:
People don't offer things for 'free'. There are always expectations. Don't take the risk!

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^Spot on!

Glad to hear that nothing worse happened to you, although sexual harassment is a serious thing that no one should have to go through. There are too many stories out there of people getting raped, murdered, kidnapped, etc. from simply getting into a car.

posted June 20, 2014 03:39 PM            

That guy was not classy. The touching was unwarranted. I would have reported it.

Take good care of yourself.

posted June 20, 2014 05:32 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
You mean he was a fu**ing a^^hole!

WP, I'm glad you're okay, I hope nothing of the sort happens to you again. Take care of yourself.

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posted June 20, 2014 06:06 PM            

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It was traumatizing and demoralizing, and I had done nothing to warrant any of it. It made me feel sick inside

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Kidnappings happen a lot, it had almost happened to me when I was 15 when a man tried to snatch me for a pimp in broad daylight (that was just one man, not counting a driver), and it happens quite a bit, you can see an example here (about 30 seconds):
http://youtu.be/_MO_OtB3q-s?t=6m29s

So I was feeling especially vulnerable as a carload of men menaced me. I waited for the walk signal to cross a street in broad daylight of San Diego when a car that had been idling at the corner illegally turned and I had to jump back to the sidewalk. The car went by filled with Mexicans who glared at me as a pack of wolves at a rabbit and talked in ways that felt vile to me (what little I understood of what they were saying was obscene). They went by so slowly then (in contrast to how fast they took that turn) that I was sure they were going to stop and get out.

I glanced around fast but EVERYONE pointedly turned away.