posted July 05, 2014 11:27 PM            

edit: but I'm no jesus christ either.. i add to my comment so i wont sound overzealous :S

posted July 06, 2014 01:33 AM            

The confusion often comes in because men and women are similar without being the same. Women appreciate good looks as well so that men and women think it's identical to each other rather than merely similar. Generally speaking looks are much more important to men whereas women are much more inclined to take the entire package (including intangibles) into account when feeling attraction, though it's important to note that looks still matter to women while at the same time a man will care about other things besides looks as well, just that the looks count for so much more to him (again, generally speaking).

I don't know if that's hardwired into us (an explanation for exceptions in this case is minor details, like a pregnant woman in a car crash or fire who experiences a large surge of adrenaline can affect the developing fetus so that a girl born from this pregnancy will have a brain much more like a male explaining strong tomboy--and even tomcat just as visually stimulated as a man--leanings) or social software (men are encouraged to "score" be it in hunting, earnings, or sexual encounters and thus much less picky about who they're attracted to and their sexuality is much more celebrated, at least among other males, whereas women are expected to think more of her reputation and future and thus more picky so that the brain is "trained" to determine desirability a certain way), but I see a definite tendency there.

Which in this case means he likely only cares what Kim Kardashian looks like, not what kind of person she is (he probably never even read a brief bio of her). It's just pure eye candy which he'll almost certainly get bored of sooner or later.

posted July 06, 2014 04:17 AM            

Obviously this behavior from her boyfriend HURTS HER. So she is in no way wrong for feeling how she feels. People shouldn't be trying to rationalize her boyfriends behavior saying blah blah blah is why she shouldn't feel bad. Nor saying that she's being insecure. Because bottom line is it hurt her feelings, and if he's a decent guy he won't do that anymore. What does he have to gain from that? Nothing. If he really can't control himself or he chooses to engage in behavior that hurts his girlfriend, he's no good.

posted July 06, 2014 04:32 AM            

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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
^Well that was harsh LOL. If it were me I'd talk to him about it, be straight forward and tell him how it made you feel. Do it calmly and he'll understand better, if you flip out on him then it won't solve anything.

You shouldn't call yourself ugly or feel offended. That's just what happens I guess. Both are very beautiful regardless of what the hatas say He's with you, that's all that matters.

Jealousy is a form of insecurity, don't let him see that, no one likes that.

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Not so much jealousy as it is like a feeling of betrayal I think. Irrational but I can understand it. Because most people think it's jealousy when I would get down on a guy for checking girls out. It's more like... How dare you disrespect me who do you think you are I could destroy you. I don't really get the feeling like those girls have something I lack or even that those guys wanted to **** those girls. I only have time for the guys who will revolve around me. Well that's how I treated the dating game at least. I blame my sun in 5th house lol.

When in love I only have eyes for one person, the person I love. And I expect the same. If not, then I will feel as if they don't love me as much or to the intensity I love him. And if so, I don't want it at all. I guess that's a little checkbox for me personally to investigate if it's my great love.

posted July 06, 2014 02:09 PM            

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Originally posted by FireMoon:
Idk I'm an Aqua venus so I don't really find it that unusual... (hence also probably the reason I'm not in a committed relationship right now lol)

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Aqua Venus checking in- cosigned

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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:
edit: but I'm no jesus christ either.. i add to my comment so i wont sound overzealous :S

Say, we should learn to embrace their faults and to understand them internally. Not everyone works on our patterns.. it just human nature. *shrugs*

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What are you talking about? I though you were a quiet, sweet, little innocent flower that loves American men?

Completely agree with the 2nd paragraph.

@Athene, I totally agree that we should focus more on the internal and its a shame society is so fixated on appearances.

I think the other issue is whether the two of you have ever discussed this behavior (I'm thinking not). Instead of vilifying the boyfriend and making assumptions we should consider that if they haven't talked about it he might not know how it makes her feel. If they decide for him to stop the behavior and then he still does it, then we can judge the hell out of him.

posted July 06, 2014 04:50 PM            

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Originally posted by whitewitch111:
Hey guys its all resolved feeling better now.

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YAY!!!!

posted July 06, 2014 05:21 PM            

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Originally posted by whitewitch111:
Hey guys its all resolved feeling better now.

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posted July 06, 2014 09:24 PM            

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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
What are you talking about? I though you were a quiet, sweet, little innocent flower that loves American men?

Completely agree with the 2nd paragraph.

@Athene, I totally agree that we should focus more on the internal and its a shame society is so fixated on appearances.

I think the other issue is whether the two of you have ever discussed this behavior (I'm thinking not). Instead of vilifying the boyfriend and making assumptions we should consider that if they haven't talked about it he might not know how it makes her feel. If they decide for him to stop the behavior and then he still does it, then we can judge the hell out of him.

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posted July 06, 2014 09:41 PM            

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posted July 06, 2014 09:45 PM            

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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:
Me liking American men is a joke. I may even poke you with my pitch fork just for insinuating that.

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I knew you would appreciate that! Just looking out for your best interests