posted July 04, 2014 10:52 PM            

This has nothing to do with the way you look, please be kinder to yourself.

I think you guys should talk about this, because clearly it impacts how you feel about yourself. Is everything okay in the relationship? Is your sex life okay?

How long have the two of you been together? The reality is most men are looking a porn, pictures, etc., but that doesn't mean that it has to make you feel bad. The two of you should decide whether he should stop that behavior for good or make a compromise. He probably has no idea how it makes you feel.

posted July 04, 2014 11:05 PM            

'Course you can do the same thing in turn. Hang up posters of Loki. If he asks why then talk about his looks, how the actor owned the role, the power of the character ("power is sexy"), and a bad boy who can be seduced can be expected to be abusive and dominant on her behalf, and soon Loki will be yours (and then he'll be sorry for being mean to you).

If you can stand to watch Twilight you can have even more revenge, especially if he's a typical guy in not being able to stand the glam-pire who sparkles in the sun like a disco ball. Sigh theatrically as Edward & Bella run through the woods all dressed up in New Moon (be sure to ask why he can't dress more like Edward, and for that matter, look like him, and stare witheringly at him if he laughs at that scene the way I've heard of guys doing) though to really strike at his male ego be sure to ask why he can't play baseball "like a real man" the way those vampires do.

But if that's too complicated then keep it simple. For example, make him an omelet that sucks and when he says something (ask how it is if you must) spit out, "Why don't you have Kim Kardashian make you an omelet then?"

But seriously, a few sexy or even racy pix in easy viewing for guys is something I can overlook (must be my having being raised with so many boys around me) but if that's just not something you can handle then you'll have to let him know how that makes you feel and hopes he shows some sympathy and at least makes an attempt to keep sexy images off his phone. (Hopefully you won't have to admit you trespassed on his phone.)

That aside, maybe this could be helpful:
http://www.gurl.com/2012/09/28/i-hate-porn/

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It sounds like you’re feeling threatened by the fact that your BF is looking at other naked girls who might not look just like you. But trust me when I say that you should never let women in porn (or any women in general) make you feel bad about yourself. Pornography is all about fantasy. Most dudes who watch it realize that this isn’t what sex is always like in real life, and that real women don’t look or act like porn stars. I seriously doubt that your boyfriend is ever comparing you to the girls in those videos. Your BF is with you for a reason – because he thinks you’re awesome and gorgeous! Trust me, if he had to pick you, a real girl, or videos of girls he’s never met and can’t touch, he’s going to pick you

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posted July 05, 2014 04:14 AM            

Anyhow instead of freaking out about it she done the complete opposite and started sticking pictures of Monica all around my desk/wall, and anytime she found a picture of Monica in a glossy mag she called me over to look at her

So smart was this women that she managed to turn my huge crush on Monica to now be completely associated with the love and thoughtfulness of my girlfriend

I suppose you could also say I was a little bit quilted into abandoning my fascination with Miss Bellucci, nevertheless it all worked out for my GF since I soon got pretty bored with thoughts of Monica hehe

You could try something like that and see how he reacts?

posted July 05, 2014 10:12 AM            

Perhaps she was being sweet, but that strikes me as diabolically ingenious ("guy-abolical"?) and I'm glad she uses that insight in a GOOD way.

That was brilliant and I admire her for it and I think it speaks well for you that you reacted as you did.

posted July 05, 2014 11:19 AM            

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Perhaps she was being sweet, but that strikes me as diabolically ingenious ("guy-abolical"?) and I'm glad she uses that insight in a GOOD way.

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Part of it was just being sweet, but I agree... This woman was a real Relationship-Guru lol

Ofc, she was in her 30's at the time, Alot of relationship experience to draw from and I mean that in the nicest possible way <3

posted July 05, 2014 12:18 PM            

I love my husband with all my heart.

I am amazingly attracted to my husband.

I would never leave him for anyone - not even Duran Duran.

posted July 05, 2014 01:05 PM            

However, I don't agree with feeding him some of his own medicine. Trust me, that will get you no where.
Because now there's two of you upset and what does that solve?

I think you need to stay calm, approach him. Ask him about it. Believe me, if you approach him very calmly and give him a chance. He'll feel comfortable and safe and more likely to be straight forward with you. The more calm that you can stay, the more likely he will be willing to talk about it.
If you come in bullrushing he'll probably clam up.

**I** personally don't like to look at it. I did... on a daily basis. But I quit of my own choice. I want it to be about us, on every level, at every moment I can. I want to taste every sweet morsel of my relationship. No spoilers. So I choose not to.

But you two are another relationship. Not mine, and neither of you are me. That's my own choosing.

You just need to talk about it. Give him a chance to explain it and allow him to feel comfortable to do so.

posted July 05, 2014 01:11 PM            

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You're beautiful! And you write exquisite poetry..
Don't let others get you down.

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posted July 05, 2014 07:20 PM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
I agree with Bella. (Bella... if you are okay with sharing. What degree is your Sun? It got me thinking about something.)

However, I don't agree with feeding him some of his own medicine. Trust me, that will get you no where.
Because now there's two of you upset and what does that solve?

I think you need to stay calm, approach him. Ask him about it. Believe me, if you approach him very calmly and give him a chance. He'll feel comfortable and safe and more likely to be straight forward with you. The more calm that you can stay, the more likely he will be willing to talk about it.
If you come in bullrushing he'll probably clam up.

**I** personally don't like to look at it. I did... on a daily basis. But I quit of my own choice. I want it to be about us, on every level, at every moment I can. I want to taste every sweet morsel of my relationship. No spoilers. So I choose not to.

But you two are another relationship. Not mine, and neither of you are me. That's my own choosing.

You just need to talk about it. Give him a chance to explain it and allow him to feel comfortable to do so.

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posted July 05, 2014 10:23 PM            

You shouldn't call yourself ugly or feel offended. That's just what happens I guess. Both are very beautiful regardless of what the hatas say He's with you, that's all that matters.

posted July 05, 2014 10:30 PM            

KK is plastic and beauty is so much more than what is on the surface. Anyone who finds people who are ok on the outside without anything on the inside has some evolving to do.

posted July 05, 2014 10:38 PM            

You only know what the media wants you to know about her. Until you get to know any of those celebs personally I don't think it's cool to judge and assume things of them or anyone.

It makes a person who does do so just as bad as the crap they talk.

posted July 05, 2014 10:43 PM            

I would never go for that and I wouldn't be with someone who finds them appealing either. Just giving her some advice. There are a lot more intelligent men out there lol.

Does KK help the world? no she doesn't. All she cares about is looking good and getting her pic taken. That says a lot about her personality. She's not alone.

posted July 05, 2014 10:54 PM            

I don't think it's rude, he just should have waited until he were alone. Doesn't mean he's less intelligent, that's extreme as hell LOL.

posted July 05, 2014 10:59 PM            

"She's so plastic, so fake, blahblahblah", but the first magazine they see of her on it they read and/or buy it

posted July 05, 2014 11:07 PM            

A woman who has had plastic surgery? lol.

You find that beautiful im not hating. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

posted July 05, 2014 11:16 PM            

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Originally posted by athenegoddess:
Oh please.

Don't let yourself feel inferior to anyone esp KK. And you need to look at yourself and why you like a guy who finds that woman to be appealing. Find someone with morals and high ideals.

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Uh...yeah I'm with Barbie on this one. Not here for pushing the blame on whitewitch, this has nothing to do with her taste in men. Not sure that 'and you need to look at yourself and why you like a guy who finds that woman to be appealing' is going to make her feel any better either.

I guess most men lack morals and high ideals then since they watch porn, look at beautiful women, have pictures on the phone, etc. I'm no fan of KK, but that doesn't mean someone who finds her attractive is a morally corrupt. Now if you like her non-existent personality and 'business' acumen? Then I agree with you.

Edit: Agreed- keep the focus on helping Whitewitch. I do not want to spend my Saturday night talking about KK of all damn people! lol.

posted July 05, 2014 11:17 PM            

Good luck

Finding her attractive is one thing. Saving a picture of her on your phone is weird and tells me this guy doesn't have very much high ideals in a woman. Just saying.

WW is feeling ugly because of this. Well she shouldn't.

PHd. in beauty? lol. you can say that
Bottom line is beauty is within. Find someone who is able to recognize that as well and don't settle for less.

Don't live from the outside in but from the inside out. Don't strive for perfection in the physical until you have perfected your soul; people who do the former build their house on sand.