posted December 27, 2014 09:29 PM            

I come on this forum to vent and express myself-to interact with people who are open-minded; conscious, but instead I'm facing cliques, chitter chatter between private groups, and feuds between folks who have been posting for years.

I try to tell myself that situations like this don't make people who they are-the number of followers you have, likes you get, or friends you make don't make you any more or less visible to the world.......but let's face it, it does, as all the worlds a stage, and everybody is a guest judge.

posted December 28, 2014 12:29 PM            

I initially registered for this forum because I felt that my energies were not being channelled in my real life. I had/have questions, but my real life friends are not at my disposal 24/7. This made me somewhat anxious because sometimes, I need comfort during the night or an answer or sign during the night; and I have found that LL is my release (at times).

You are not the only one who does not get their posts read or responded to. You need to look out for my name on here I have plenty of 0 reply posts, but I just keep going - regardless! Making a name for myself and learning new things by trolling other posts - just so I can do the things that I want people to do for me, for myself.

On the other hand, I think the thing with this forum is that you need to make your presence known and input where you can. This builds up respect because other posters begin to understand that you are not just here to ask for a free reading etc. I did see something about that being a problem here. You have to earn your kudos (somewhat) as a big dog, and that goes for the real world, as well as on line. It's not always nice or fair... but keep going!!! You already on 500+ posts

P.s. It's a shame that you deleted your original post because I was going to make an attempt at an interpretation for you (using the limited knowledge that I have picked up)

P.s.s. What private groups? No idea they existed, let's start our own! lol xxx

Hope this made you smile

posted December 28, 2014 03:33 PM            

You're right about keeping on, but I often feel as though I'm interjecting in a conversation where I'm not wanted, or talking to myself; my gemini MC wants to talk to anybody, everybody and spark new friendships like in real life, but it's not like that online. Lol

Oh, By private group, I mean in H&H they have group threads that people write in.

posted December 28, 2014 04:40 PM            

For example, I recently resurrected a thread about Sun-Uranus aspects from 2013. Though I didn't think it was an interesting topic, a number of people had stuff to share/input - even if it was not in response to what I said!

I would strongly encourage you to research alongside the topics that you post, and also to ask others how they do certain things or interpret certain things. It helps to get you started and when you know a little bit more about a subject matter, people are more willing to engage with you because they can see that you've done your homework.

For example, you are a Gemini MC. Isn't it always alot better when you speak to someone who has ALOT to say, or someone who is more knowledgeable than you about a particular issue? I assume you will say yes (I am a Gemini Sun btw). If that is the case, you know that you need to show an informed interest in their area of expertise to get a rapport started and that's similar to what you have to do on here.

Just keep rolling on hun, and don't take the 0 replies to heart. Also, it's worth remembering that people on here are living in different times zones and therefore, sometimes the moderators/experts/top posters may be asleep at work etc or just unavailable. Example: I had an email exchange with someone (from LL) when it was 3AM in London, but 8AM for them.

posted December 29, 2014 12:03 AM            

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Originally posted by ikja:
Girl (?), don't be afraid to interject. If a thread was not for commentary, it would not be on here! So, just take a dive and get your feet wet!

For example, I recently resurrected a thread about Sun-Uranus aspects from 2013. Though I didn't think it was an interesting topic, a number of people had stuff to share/input - even if it was not in response to what I said!

I would strongly encourage you to research alongside the topics that you post, and also to ask others how they do certain things or interpret certain things. It helps to get you started and when you know a little bit more about a subject matter, people are more willing to engage with you because they can see that you've done your homework.

For example, you are a Gemini MC. Isn't it always alot better when you speak to someone who has ALOT to say, or someone who is more knowledgeable than you about a particular issue? I assume you will say yes (I am a Gemini Sun btw). If that is the case, you know that you need to show an informed interest in their area of expertise to get a rapport started and that's similar to what you have to do on here.

Just keep rolling on hun, and don't take the 0 replies to heart. Also, it's worth remembering that people on here are living in different times zones and therefore, sometimes the moderators/experts/top posters may be asleep at work etc or just unavailable. Example: I had an email exchange with someone (from LL) when it was 3AM in London, but 8AM for them.

xxx

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Thank you Ikja for talking to me. I know that sounds lame, but I will definitely try not to be so sensitive about it(progressed Moon in Cancer lol), and just engage.

posted January 05, 2015 02:26 AM            

I think the content of this thread is actually rather useful.
I also think that many people can learn from it, given the views expressed.

There are people in this particular forum who want to learn more and/or feel like they need further help and I think advice should be given (as it would be in any of the other forums). If this thread makes that issue or problem clearer or brings it to the fore, so be it. I mean, it's taken approx. 7 days for someone other than me (a newbie) to chime in and provide support here. That's ABIT disheartening.

posted January 06, 2015 08:33 AM            

What I would have liked is for someone, a mod give their opinion on why a horary post (like this one) would get 0 responses. I appreciate that AB made some comments, as did I... But really, a moderator should have been onto the feelings expressed sharpish.

posted January 06, 2015 10:17 AM              

Unfortunately that's just the way some are here, the cliques, which is fine, just don't let it get under your skin.

You have to remember to keep an open mind. There are a number of possibilities as to why your threads have gone unnoticed here. I wouldn't take it personally. Keep bumping them up if you have to. I know many times, for myself anyway, that I don't see many threads from not being on all day. They get bumped down to the next page and I don't go that far lol. I also don't venture into Horary. I stick to Astro 2.0, LL2.0, H&H and here, love, sorry.

posted January 06, 2015 10:34 AM              

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posted January 06, 2015 11:15 AM            

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Originally posted by ikja:
Also, it's worth remembering that people on here are living in different times zones and therefore, sometimes the moderators/experts/top posters may be asleep at work etc or just unavailable. Example: I had an email exchange with someone (from LL) when it was 3AM in London, but 8AM for them.

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Hi ReeseC, Ikja is right, often I want to answer something but quite simply can't because my online time is very limited what's with work, household chores, childcare and real life relationships to be seen to, and I often regret not having enough time to post something I could think of, and moreover my time zone is out of sync with most other posters.

posted January 06, 2015 12:17 PM            

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Originally posted by ReeseC:

I know LL is starting to make me sad though.........just another place where I'm invisible.

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posted January 06, 2015 02:08 PM            

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Originally posted by ReeseC:
Thanks for your response. It's not so much no responses, but rather the attitudes of people within the forum There are cliques here, people who are argumentative, and based on observation, people don't like each other(people are unregistrered) that's discouraging.

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LL is a community like any other and some people don't get along, as happens in life lol

Post on here and let people get to know you as a person, not just your Astrology questions.

I want to be your friend

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posted January 06, 2015 05:08 PM            

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Originally posted by ReeseC:
You made me cry actually because I thought I was misunderstood, and even though it makes me sad thAt your posts or threads go un-noticed as well, you have been experiencing the same thing.

You're right about keeping on, but I often feel as though I'm interjecting in a conversation where I'm not wanted, or talking to myself; my gemini MC wants to talk to anybody, everybody and spark new friendships like in real life, but it's not like that online. Lol

Oh, By private group, I mean in H&H they have group threads that people write in.

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I just want to say that I do not feel you are invisible. I always enjoy interacting with you in Personal Readings, and your input is always valued there as well. I don't think having a thread not getting answered right away is a sign that no one likes you, but rather we are all busy and there is only so many things I can get to. I often see threads that are really interesting, but I cannot get to them until hours or days later.

I also cannot read horary (least not yet!) so I normally do not respond to the horary questions because there are so many talented horary readers here who can do the job better.

It bums me out too when people unregister (like PisceanDream and DeepFreeze for example, both awesome people), but that is something you cannot get too upset over because people leave for their own personal reasons. People may not always get along, but for every person you may not jive with, 5 more you absolutely love will pop up. That is just the nature of online forums, and is something I had to learn at first. Sometimes you have set to firm boundaries as well when tension rises.

Hearth and Home is definitely not private groups, but I can see why it can be intimidating. For example, when I joined last year I didn't post in H&H because I felt intimidated for not knowing people that well. But over time I made friends, and we randomly started asking each other questions and asked to make H&H threads just to get to know each other. The traffic isn't too high in H&H, so you are definitely are not being shunned by the site.

I can see why you feel there are cliques here since not so subtle jabs keep getting directed at me and my friends, but that actually isn't the case. I did not know Faith, Rie, PD, T, Violets, etc., a year ago, but thanks to making small talk with Faith I started posting on H&H so that we could talk and get to know each other. From there, I made new friends, she made new friends, and we all hang out H&H just to shoot the crap.

Please join me in the Funhouse- you are more than welcome to join us and kick it in there. I just met Violets in the thread, and we really didn't know each other until a few weeks ago. I actually made a lot of friends in H&H through Faith, so I really think if you come in there you will enjoy it. Believe me when I say you will be welcomed in, I certainly was when I first posted in there, In the past couple of weeks, we have had AG, 7th G, Vajra, Violets, and Rie jump in the thread.

posted January 06, 2015 07:17 PM            

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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
DeepFreeze is not unregistered, Bella. There were zero jabs thrown here. If you feel that way than it is on your part.

Anyways you've been given some great advice here by many that care, ReeseC. Hope this helps you.

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posted January 06, 2015 07:20 PM            

Which begs the question, why do you feel as if you are?

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posted January 06, 2015 07:34 PM            

Exactly. Feelings aren't always accurate and can sometimes be very irrational.

Again, WHY does she feel she's being ignored? She's not. A quick use of the search engine will show that. Which means her feelings don't match the reality.