posted March 16, 2015 10:10 PM            

I even made it so I can't see his fb statuses.

My friend told me today that he started a new relationship. My best friend told me, at her house. So that I didn't have to hear it from another source, and not have the right support around me, or be really caught of guard. My friend almost didn't want to tell me cause she knows I've been suffering.

At first I was like okay, its not a race on who will move on first.

But then I broke down cause he was a label phobe with me. But not with this new person. Who apparently looks just like me. My friend thinks that is fascinating, and asked me if I wanted to see the picture and I said no.

Just the whole why was I "the chosen one" to be treated like this?

I'll have my good cries. But I can't let my self be brought down by this anymore.

I wish I was stronger, but I'm not. If anything I feel more like a human being going though a heart break. I feel like most people go through this in high school. I'm going through a broken heart as an adult.

My best friend got dumped today. He doesn't have a fb at least, so she doesn't have to go through what I am going through. I really don't want to know all this. When will knowing about his life not affect me anymore?
I feel like I need to unfriend him on fb.

Life has been cruel to me for a while. Though it's my own damn fault for being with a label phobe. For almost 3 years of my life. I know better now. Life would to be too boring if I knew better since the day I was born I guess.

Also Saturn is rx over my Venus (squaring it) I thought the retrograde would be a break from the pain but I feel like I am reliving the pain.

It's been so hard to bring up my self esteem lately. I feel like I've been doing little things I can.

Everyone tells me I can't have this impact me the way it has been. OF COURSE I KNOW THAT. But I can't help it.

posted March 16, 2015 11:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:Especially when an ex you spent so much time with is a fb user. [/B]

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Yup. Everyone ditches FB after a bad break-up.
Tust me. We have all been there! (the 80s/90s borns anyway...)

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But not with this new person. Who apparently looks just like me.

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This also happens pretty commonly. I'm not sure why she's so fascinated. The rebound person often looks like the ex.

In the movie "The Breakup" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn - there was a deleted scene on the DVD, where they bump into each other at an event, after their breakup.. and they are with people who are dressed exactly the same and look identical to each them LOL
I mean it's a comedy ^ so they exaggerated for comedic effect... but there is a grain of truth in this for sure. I've seen the same thing happen with friends and it's happened to me.

posted March 29, 2015 02:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
This also happens pretty commonly. I'm not sure why she's so fascinated. The rebound person often looks like the ex.

In the movie "The Breakup" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn - there was a deleted scene on the DVD, where they bump into each other at an event, after their breakup.. and they are with people who are dressed exactly the same and look identical to each them LOL
I mean it's a comedy ^ so they exaggerated for comedic effect... but there is a grain of truth in this for sure. I've seen the same thing happen with friends and it's happened to me.

My advice would be - to leave Facebook completely for a few months (trust me you won't miss it once you are out of there for some time and get used to life in the absence of FB).
And... I also don't think it's a good idea that you interact with mutual friends who are not supportive of you. So if the mutual friend constantly brings him up and tells you about him, then stop talking to the mutual friend for a while as well.
This is pretty sh*t ^ behaviour on the part of a "friend"... so really she shouldn't be surprised if you no longer feel like hanging out with her.

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That's a pretty good movie. If you find the clip please post it. I just tried to look for it on youtube.
Rebounds looking like ex, I've heard of it. But wondered if it was really a thing, or guys just having a type? Yeah my friend thinks it's "funny" how much she looks like me. Well he didn't dump me cause he's not attracted to me anymore. I guess that's why its funny. If it wasn't me, I might find that scenario slightly funny in an oh that's ironic. But in my shoes, it's so funny I forgot to laugh.

On my friend's defense. She flat out told me. "Do you want me to unfriend him, cause I'll unfriend him." At the time I told her no, since I was considering being friends with him.
When my ex dumped me...as soon as I said "well I better round of all the things I have here." he started getting emotional like "I really want us to be friends!" at the time it made me feel better.
But now that I've had time to think, and hear about his behavior since the break up, I say "hell no" to being friends. Even my friends and acquaintances were like dude don't do that to yourself, that never works.

I only know one person who is still friends with their high school ex. They are both in new relationships. And I'm just like HOW??? Their partners must really trust them. I thought about asking her about how she does it...but nah....I've made up my mind but respect her lifestyle.

Honestly my friend did the right thing telling me. They day I found out, I turned my life around. My last post I said I was weak...BUT after I posted that. I became so fed up with him hurting me. I got back into law of attraction.
My well being, state of mind, self esteem has been elevating ever since.
I am finally focusing and doing great in school and on top of my work.

I unfriended him a week ago. I cried for not respecting his wishes of being friends...and everything that lead up to it. But my whole well being has improved since I've done it.

I also need to unfriend his mom, brother and cousin. Cause it does not make any sense to be friends with his family but not him.

What really grinds my gears about FB is that when you unfriend someone. They will show up on that persons "people you may know."
I did this with a friend about a year ago and about a week later she friend requested me...ahhh!!

And let me tell you his mom is crazy at times. But all of them should understand. And I feel like it's too dramatic to block them since they are not harassing me.
But I should take care of that soon.