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Topic: Send him a birthday text: Yes or No?
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MineAgain Knowflake Posts: 1170 From: A Thousand Miles From Philadelphia Registered: Nov 2013
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posted February 19, 2015 02:55 PM
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Barbiegirl19 Moderator Posts: 5373 From: Pluto with DeepFreeze Registered: Jul 2013
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posted February 19, 2015 03:04 PM
No, I don't think you should. Bad, bad idea. To him it may look like you've yet to move on and are still hanging on to him. It is a very sweet gesture but I wouldn't bother. You said it yourself, he doesn't deserve any attention, don't give him any. How would your bf react if he found out? Would he be upset with you? IP: Logged |
MineAgain Knowflake Posts: 1170 From: A Thousand Miles From Philadelphia Registered: Nov 2013
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posted February 19, 2015 03:13 PM
I'm not planning on discussing this with him. I however agree with you. Sending him a birthday text would give him the terrible message that I'm still hung up on him which isn't the case. My brain is telling me that not sending him a message would speak volume. I'm sure his inflated ego already expects something from me and I don't want to give him this "confirmation". Maybe not sending him a message will knock his ego a bit (if he even notices that is). IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19 Moderator Posts: 5373 From: Pluto with DeepFreeze Registered: Jul 2013
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posted February 19, 2015 03:22 PM
It will, I promise, it will lol. Don't give him the satisfaction.
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Faith Knowflake Posts: 10976 From: Bella's Hair Salon Registered: Jul 2011
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posted February 19, 2015 03:32 PM
If he didn't respond to your last one, why would you try again?I don't even understand. I guess it would just never occur to me to try that.
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MineAgain Knowflake Posts: 1170 From: A Thousand Miles From Philadelphia Registered: Nov 2013
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posted February 19, 2015 03:36 PM
quote: Originally posted by Faith: If he didn't respond to your last one, why would you try again?I don't even understand. I guess it would just never occur to me to try that.
This is the question I keep asking myself. "If he didn't respond to my text when we were dating, why would he respond now?" I'm scratching my head a little as to why I'm so overthinking.
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ikja Knowflake Posts: 813 From: London, UK Registered: Oct 2014
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posted February 19, 2015 06:08 PM
If there is something telling you 'no' and I mean overwhelmingly... Honour that feeling.It will be hard, but you can still send your love through positive vibrations without making contact. He has shown that he doesn't deserve it, so don't waste time making direct contact. IP: Logged |
ILovePoems Knowflake Posts: 44 From: Registered: Feb 2015
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posted February 20, 2015 03:11 PM
If you want to be nice, you can. If nothing can trigger your emotions, then do it.IP: Logged |
ikja Knowflake Posts: 813 From: London, UK Registered: Oct 2014
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posted February 20, 2015 03:24 PM
quote: Originally posted by ILovePoems: If you want to be nice, you can. If nothing can trigger your emotions, then do it.
I agree with this too. But at the same time, if you do really want to, I would strongly encourage you to manage your expectations. Ask yourself what you want from the situation and be honest with yourself? If it's a reconciliation be mindful that he may not want that and therefore, may act in ways that go against what you want. Alternatively, he may see it as a opportunity to lead you on. Just be smart - whatever you do and make sure you're always thinking about you x IP: Logged |
athenegoddess Knowflake Posts: 3747 From: Registered: Aug 2011
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posted February 21, 2015 12:14 AM
You ended up moving? IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 50507 From: Saturn next to Charmaine Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 27, 2015 06:53 PM
How did it turn out?IP: Logged |
MineAgain Knowflake Posts: 1170 From: A Thousand Miles From Philadelphia Registered: Nov 2013
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posted February 28, 2015 10:41 AM
quote: Originally posted by Randall: How did it turn out?
His birthday is next Saturday. We'll see. IP: Logged |