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MineAgain
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posted February 19, 2015 02:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MineAgain     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Barbiegirl19
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posted February 19, 2015 03:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Barbiegirl19     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No, I don't think you should. Bad, bad idea.

To him it may look like you've yet to move on and are still hanging on to him.

It is a very sweet gesture but I wouldn't bother. You said it yourself, he doesn't deserve any attention, don't give him any.

How would your bf react if he found out? Would he be upset with you?

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MineAgain
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posted February 19, 2015 03:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MineAgain     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm not planning on discussing this with him.

I however agree with you. Sending him a birthday text would give him the terrible message that I'm still hung up on him which isn't the case.

My brain is telling me that not sending him a message would speak volume. I'm sure his inflated ego already expects something from me and I don't want to give him this "confirmation". Maybe not sending him a message will knock his ego a bit (if he even notices that is).

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Barbiegirl19
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posted February 19, 2015 03:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Barbiegirl19     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It will, I promise, it will lol.

Don't give him the satisfaction.

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Faith
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posted February 19, 2015 03:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If he didn't respond to your last one, why would you try again?

I don't even understand. I guess it would just never occur to me to try that.

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MineAgain
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posted February 19, 2015 03:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MineAgain     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Faith:
If he didn't respond to your last one, why would you try again?

I don't even understand. I guess it would just never occur to me to try that.


This is the question I keep asking myself.

"If he didn't respond to my text when we were dating, why would he respond now?"

I'm scratching my head a little as to why I'm so overthinking.

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ikja
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posted February 19, 2015 06:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ikja     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If there is something telling you 'no' and I mean overwhelmingly... Honour that feeling.

It will be hard, but you can still send your love through positive vibrations without making contact. He has shown that he doesn't deserve it, so don't waste time making direct contact.

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ILovePoems
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posted February 20, 2015 03:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ILovePoems     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If you want to be nice, you can.
If nothing can trigger your emotions, then do it.

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ikja
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posted February 20, 2015 03:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ikja     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by ILovePoems:
If you want to be nice, you can.
If nothing can trigger your emotions, then do it.

I agree with this too.
But at the same time, if you do really want to, I would strongly encourage you to manage your expectations. Ask yourself what you want from the situation and be honest with yourself? If it's a reconciliation be mindful that he may not want that and therefore, may act in ways that go against what you want. Alternatively, he may see it as a opportunity to lead you on.

Just be smart - whatever you do and make sure you're always thinking about you x

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athenegoddess
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posted February 21, 2015 12:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for athenegoddess     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You ended up moving?

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Randall
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posted February 27, 2015 06:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How did it turn out?

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MineAgain
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posted February 28, 2015 10:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MineAgain     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Randall:
How did it turn out?

His birthday is next Saturday. We'll see.

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