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Topic: Rude and hateful people
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aquaguy91
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From: Wankety Wankerson
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted February 21, 2015 10:55 PM
  
I am the type of guy that is nice and respectful towards everyone unless they are mean or disrespectful towards me and I expect the same treatment in return. I do not understand why some people have to be so sh*tty to others for no reason. I just got a new weekend post at work a few weeks ago and I work 12 hour shifts on friday and saturday nights from 10pm to 10 am. There is a girl about my age who works the 10 am to 10pm shift and we relieve each other at the end of each others shifts. I have been nothing but nice to her and she is a total biotch to me. She isn't friendly at all and won't even exchange simple pleasantries with me like "how are you?" Or "have a good evening/morning" etc. She has been this way since day 1 and I haven't given her one single reason to act this way... She has been nothing but a biotch... And i'm sick of it... It's gotten to the point where I dread going to work because the 5 or so minutes I have to be around her brings me down. Just tonight I got to work, walked in the door, and said "hey,how are you?" And she coldly responded "you're late" and I finally lost my cool and got an attitude with her and shouted "No! I'm actually 5 minutes early!" and she just made a sour face, clocked out, and left. As she walked out the door I told her to have a good night and to be careful and of course she didn't respond. I was 5 minutes early for work and she wants to get all huffy and say i'm late? Keep in mind we have been having: below freezing tempertures, ice storms,snow, and the roads are bad and I was still early. No matter what I do she is a biotch and i'm not going to put up with it anymore. I'm going to talk to my boss and give him the ultamatum that he has got to put her in her place or i'm going to refuse to work at this post. I'm not going to put up with a hateful witch every time I come into work on the weekends. I'm a nice guy and I deserve better than that. IP: Logged |
Valentine
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posted February 22, 2015 12:12 AM
I hear your frustration, I don't understand that kind of bitchy behavior. I hope that your boss takes your side and that it helps. IP: Logged |
Vajra
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posted February 22, 2015 07:38 AM
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DeepFreeze
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posted February 22, 2015 08:42 AM
I understand. I have someone at work like this too.
Let me ask you: Is she like this towards everyone or only you?
Even the one that gets on my nerves is generally that way with everyone as we all have the same complaints about her. There's another that way as well but for some reason she doesn't get on my nerves the way the first one does.
But both behave the same way towards everyone so I try not to take it personal. Though I've snapped a time or two at the one that bothers me. Then she acts all surprised. LOL If I felt like it was me personally, which I did the other day, I have no problem just confronting them directly and asking the question if they have a problem with me personally.
Some people just hate life it seems like or they hate working but have to. Somehow it's our fault. LOL IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: Wankety Wankerson
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted February 22, 2015 09:28 AM
I don't know how she acts with other people because it's just the two of us when I see her at work. All I know is I haven't done anything to cause her to act this way, she's been that way towards me since day 1. What I can't understand is how she is really nit-picky about me clocking in 6 minutes early and says i'm late if i'm not clocked in at 9:54. Judging by that you'd think she hates being at work and wants to get the hell out as soon as possible but... She'll get to work as much as 20 minutes early and just sit out in her car, which is a really weird thing to do if you hate being at work. She acts as if i'm obligated to clock in 6 minutes early which isn't the case. The rule is we can clock in up to 6 minutes minutes before 10 or up to 6 minutes after, so we have a 12 minute window to clock in. I usually get there a few minutes before 10 and clock in (like 9:57) and she'll still say i'm late even though I have about 9 minutes left to clock in before I'm counted as late according to company policy. So what the heck is her deal? Why does she want me there early if she is just anti-social or hates my guts? If she is so eager to get out and hates being at work why does she show up early almost everynight? Nothing about her or her behavior makes any sense as far as i'm concerned. I've thought about being a d*ck and making it a habit to clock in at 10:05 or 10:06 every night from now on just to spite her, that would drive her up the wall and I wouldn't be counted as being late because I am technically on time as long as I'm on the clock before 10:07. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted February 22, 2015 01:33 PM
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DeepFreeze
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posted February 22, 2015 01:53 PM
Hey, see if you can fb stalk them and get their chart.
In my state we have a very easy criminal public records search also that shows birthday if they have anything, even a divorce.
Which is not criminal but it does show up. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 12072
From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted February 22, 2015 03:12 PM
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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
Hey, see if you can fb stalk them and get their chart.
In my state we have a very easy criminal public records search also that shows birthday if they have anything, even a divorce.
Which is not criminal but it does show up.
I just did. She is a scorpio sun with a capricorn or aquarius moon. Personally I'm banking on her having capricorn moon. Of course I don't know her ascendant but I took a guess and made it aries. With an aries ascendant her moon would be around 29 degrees capricorn and she'd have saturn in the 11th house. I think the combination of Scorpio, Aries, Capricorn, and Saturn in the 11th could go a long way to explain why she doesn't play well with others. IP: Logged |
Violets
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posted February 22, 2015 04:40 PM
^ Another fine reason I deactivated my account!
J/k.
Although my privacy settings are better than that.Sorry to hear about all of that, AG. 
I used to work with a woman like that. My God, she was awful. And I worked at the front desk of a huge, old building that housed half of Seattle's homeless and addicted population, so the job was already stressful enough (not to mention the creepy energy that hung around that place). All of the residents couldn't stand her. 
There might be cracked out, mentally ill residents screaming at me throughout a shift, and then I would have to deal with this creepy, horrible woman. Barf. I hope she at least warms up to you, and if not...yeah, just ignore her I guess. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted February 22, 2015 04:44 PM
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You know you've done it too. IP: Logged |
Violets
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posted February 22, 2015 04:44 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
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You know you've done it too.
Who, me?
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aquaguy91
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posted February 22, 2015 04:50 PM
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Originally posted by Violets:
Who, me?
Tried to look someone up on facebook to see if they had their birthday up so you could do their chart. I think everyone on here probably has.IP: Logged |
Violets
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posted February 22, 2015 05:03 PM
Well of course (I was joking with the "Who me?").  IP: Logged |
florence
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posted February 23, 2015 05:38 AM
If you give an ultimatum to your boss it might reflect badly on you. Try writing out what you feel first at least as it would be doubly frustrating if she acted badly and it turned out you looked worse. I've felt so frustrated at injustice I've wanted to force it but it doesn't work like that - maybe general frustrations even attract this kind of situations. Do you have some bad squares? IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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posted February 23, 2015 09:33 AM
^^^ kind of what I was thinking. If you give an ultimatum they may say, "I accept your ultimatum. Goodbye!"
Bad idea. Our workplace encourages us to work it out ourselves and if we cannot, Then get leadership involved but not before we've given our best to find a resolution ourselves. I would pull her aside and politely ask her if you're doing anything to agitate her. If she refuses to cooperate and/or gives you attitude, stay calm. Talk to your superior and explain. They don't want to deal with two immature people. So be the mature one, the one looking for peace and a team player.
Being stubborn, fixed, and trying to use brute force to get the company to "fix" her will ALMOST certainly backfire.
Especially true if you're the only one complaining about her.
Don't forget, you work for them. They pay you in exchange for work.
You're in NO position to give ultimatums.
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Charmaine
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From: Venus Next To Randall
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted February 24, 2015 07:57 AM
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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
^^^ kind of what I was thinking. If you give an ultimatum they may say, "I accept your ultimatum. Goodbye!"
Bad idea. Our workplace encourages us to work it out ourselves and if we cannot, Then get leadership involved but not before we've given our best to find a resolution ourselves. I would pull her aside and politely ask her if you're doing anything to agitate her. If she refuses to cooperate and/or gives you attitude, stay calm. Talk to your superior and explain. They don't want to deal with two immature people. So be the mature one, the one looking for peace and a team player.
Being stubborn, fixed, and trying to use brute force to get the company to "fix" her will ALMOST certainly backfire.
Especially true if you're the only one complaining about her.
Don't forget, you work for them. They pay you in exchange for work.
You're in NO position to give ultimatums.
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Odette
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posted February 24, 2015 03:49 PM
She is either over-emotional/hormonal, can't control herself and be civil - due to personal issues - disconnected to you.
Or she actually does have some sort of issue with the way you approach her - which is likely in her head. Or - she is actively trying to make you look irresponsible and undermine you at work, because she wants more shifts and she needs the money. Is she older than you? Does she have small kids or anyone who is dependent on her? IP: Logged |
Vajra
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posted February 24, 2015 04:06 PM
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Odette
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posted February 24, 2015 05:41 PM
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Originally posted by Vajra:
As long as you always keep your calm and stay composed, and she's the only one screaming and shouting, every single observer will know who's the crazy one among the two of you. But if you fight back, people will think the truth lies somewhere in the middle
Exactly!
She would react badly if you complained about her and it would seem like the both of you are 'problematic' and creating an unfriendly atmosphere. If she does have a Capricorn Moon, my advice would be to stop smiling and being overly happy around her. She might have fallen under the impression that you're a care-free 'teenage' type, who has no real problems in life. If she is going through a difficult time, this might annoy her and she could feel like she is more deserving of your shifts and your money, since (in her imagination) she has more problems than you do. I think you would be on the safe side if you appeared serious and sad around her - and if/when she makes conversation - mention something upsetting from your life... e.g. "How are you?" - "I'm kind of down because my close friend suffers from depression and I just don't know how to help him anymore " -- I'm not suggesting that you make anything up. I'm refering to your -actual- friend and other -actual- problems you mentioned to us on LL. If you are all sunshine and rainbows - she might see you as superficial.
If you let on that you have a hard life and you are doing your best and working for your family etc... she will completely change her behaviour towards you. She will act like an entirely different person imo But this is only if she *does* have Cap Moon!
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DeepFreeze
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posted February 24, 2015 06:10 PM
Well and consider this.
There are two at my work who are just that way day in and day out. It doesn't matter how you respond to them, IF you respond at all. They just keep on grumpin.
There's multiple ways to handle things.
I like the way things are handled where I work. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted February 24, 2015 06:38 PM
Odette,
What you are suggesting isn't possible. We work opposite 12 hour shifts on the weekend. She would not want to work more than that and it would be against the law anyways. If she worked my shift too she'd be working 24 hours in a row. Also, i'm not all sunshine and rainbows. I am not the type to be overly enthusiastic and smiley, i'm just laid back and friendly. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted February 24, 2015 07:32 PM
Oh That makes sense ^
Then maybe she wants to place someone else in your position... like an unemployed friend or family member of hers. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted February 24, 2015 07:36 PM
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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
Well and consider this.
There are two at my work who are just that way day in and day out. It doesn't matter how you respond to them, IF you respond at all. They just keep on grumpin.
There's multiple ways to handle things.
I like the way things are handled where I work.
Yeah I think that's a good way to handle things.
But knowing this woman's chart - I'm just not sure how she might react :/ Scorpio/Capricorn are very calculated signs. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted February 24, 2015 07:38 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Oh That makes sense ^
Then maybe she wants to place someone else in your position... like an unemployed friend or family member of hers.
Too bad 
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DeepFreeze
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posted February 24, 2015 09:42 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Yeah I think that's a good way to handle things.
But knowing this woman's chart - I'm just not sure how she might react :/ Scorpio/Capricorn are very calculated signs.
The two at work.
One is sag with Leo moon. She just likes attention honestly.
The other, if I had no self control I'd have no issues smacking them upside the head.
Aqua with Aries moon.
I briefly dated an aqua with Aries moon so not trying to generalize but jeez. This one... Another guy. He's fine, though not my favorite. He's grumpy on weekend ot because he'd rather be home but needs the money. When he gets grouchy I just walk away. Ain't nobody got time for dat!!
He's cancer with Pisces moon. Some people just hate work and I've seen a difference in people like night and day, work vs home.
She might be perfectly nice outside work, who knows. IP: Logged |
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