posted February 27, 2015 03:07 PM            

In all the relationships I've had, the ones that evoked some level of jealousy, were hands down the best. In those relationships I felt tested and kept on my feet; interested even - I never got complacent.

posted February 27, 2015 03:38 PM            

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Originally posted by MarsSaturnDelight:
I like a little bit of jealousy in a relationship; I think it's dynamic. When you love passionately, jealously tends to be an organic by-product. I don't see jealousy as negative, it's just how you handle it, that's all.

In all the relationships I've had, the ones that evoked some level of jealousy, were hands down the best. In those relationships I felt tested and kept on my feet; interested even - I never got complacent.

Although, jealousy in the wrong hands is incredibly destructive. As I say, it's how you redirect the energy that counts.

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posted March 09, 2015 02:39 AM            

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Originally posted by MarsSaturnDelight:
I like a little bit of jealousy in a relationship; I think it's dynamic. When you love passionately, jealously tends to be an organic by-product. I don't see jealousy as negative, it's just how you handle it, that's all.

In all the relationships I've had, the ones that evoked some level of jealousy, were hands down the best. In those relationships I felt tested and kept on my feet; interested even - I never got complacent.

Although, jealousy in the wrong hands is incredibly destructive. As I say, it's how you redirect the energy that counts.

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Yes! I agree with this. Jealousy can be either a humbling emotion that encourages honest self-evaluation, or it can completely consume and destroy. It's a horrible feeling with so much judgement involved that people find it difficult admitting it even to themselves. What's sad is how common it is among women. Jealousy is that underlying emotion that has us tearing each other down. It's exhausting, but as always, what you make of it that really counts.

posted March 09, 2015 03:10 AM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
I agree.
Still not sure I'd say healthy...
But whatever. I think we're on the same basic page either way.

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posted March 09, 2015 03:25 AM            

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Originally posted by ReachingForTheStars:
Yes! I agree with this. Jealousy can be either a humbling emotion that encourages honest self-evaluation, or it can completely consume and destroy. It's a horrible feeling with so much judgement involved that people find it difficult admitting it even to themselves. What's sad is how common it is among women. Jealousy is that underlying emotion that has us tearing each other down. It's exhausting, but as always, what you make of it that really counts.

@aquaguy
I grew up in a religious household. You know what I find interesting about what you said of god being depicted as a jealous god... I was taught that we we created in god's image. What Christian wasn't?! Lol. Anyways, this didn't refer to a physical image since god is a spirit. It meant that we were created to think and feel the way he does, so jealousy is simply an inherent trait. Too bad for the whole imperfection thing happening.

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posted March 09, 2015 05:47 AM            

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Originally posted by ReachingForTheStars:
If you consider it in terms of evolutionary theory, all emotions are meant to tell you something. In the context of a romantic relationship, it can serve to alert you of a threat. It's not the emotion that is unhealthy; it's how we interpret the message.

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posted March 09, 2015 01:42 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Let's discuss jealousy in the context of romantic relationships. It never ceases to amaze me how so many people deny jealousy for the totally normal and natural human emotion that it is. I hear people bragging about how they aren't jealous and criticizing people who display any amount of jealousy and calling them immature and I can't help but think of such people as fools. They are either lying to themselves or they are so out of touch that they can't see themselves for what they are. IMO, a certain level of jealousy is natural and healthy. It is a sign that you actually care about your relationship and want to maintain it and protect it. Having said that, I do think that there is an unhealthy type of jealousy that comes from extreme insecurity. What do you think?

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Agreed. I was out with my guy on Saturday night and this drunk girl started dancing with him (I was too reticent to dance at this bar for more than a few minutes and he is the type of guy who dgaf and was dancing like nobody's watching). She was cute, too. But then she started pawing at him and even grabbed his a$$ right there in the bar in full view of everyone!