posted August 22, 2021 01:32 AM            

For example my sister's husband and her friend's fiancé. My sister and friend had this expectation that their SO would hit it off. They don't have any beef...but sister and friend realized they were forcing it too much. Once they eased off, they did start to hang out genuinely.

Ugh but girls...that another thing to get into. Haha! Like if there really is an issue with another girl...but you are trying not to make a big deal out of it.

MY MOM was notorious for not picking up on these hints. (or at least I would hope so!)
I'm from a small town so if my mom saw girls in my sister's class walking down the street, that my sister was not really cool with (she had to at least be in 5th grade and girls can get so mean much earlier than that) My mom would holler at the girls in sister's class walking down the street and try to make my sister come outside to say "hi" to them.

My mom would try to push me with friend's I was drifting apart from. One girl didn't like me anymore cause she liked performing but could not sing. I would get parts in plays and she didn't. This would continue to happen several more times. I got a part in the play and she didn't thanks to her I got really into performing. The resentment and jealously kicked in. She would write notes to other girls not to talk to me over it.
So my mom would do this thing where if I was just chilling in the home she would be like "why don't you call up this person." Oh yes she did that to me with that girl. I did not want to go there with my mom. Because my mom socializes with that girls mom a lot. And I just did not feel like I could talk to my mom about it.
What does my mom do? She picks up the house phone dials their house number and hands me THE PHONE. Yeah my mom put me on the spot.
So I go over her house and the girl was ****** off that I was over her house.

I eventually told my mom, and asked her if she feels like an a$s for doing that to me and she said "yes" lol

But when she did it to me when I was 16 I was not having it! I even already had a friend over...and she was trying to get us to hand out with a childhood friend. But my mom was well aware that we weren't close. So then this new friend has to see me telling off my mom.

But now as an adult I am dealing with this with sister in law. Most of the time we do our best to stay classy. Mostly me with the class though that may sound biased. Like I can at least get over my self if she gets married and has a baby. She cannot do the same for me in return.

But I really get a long with husbands cousins around our age. So his cousins assume the same. It's very uncomfortable. I went to husbands cousin's bridal shower assuming I'd see now sister in law. She was a no show. So then his cousin asks me if she is coming. I was an idiot and tried to over-compensate like "oh yeah she'll be here!" Because I was going to see her later for a family birthday. So I figure she is just running late or something.
I don't want to be put on the spot and say "I didn't talk to her about it and I don't want to."
So then that cousin calls her to make sure she is okay and coming. I don't know how it all went down but ohhh shhhit! She chose not to come, and she didn't even tell them that she wasn't coming. I don't know the details...and not only that I get to see husband's sister later after telling her cousin she is coming when she wasn't.
I am judging. How to you not go to your cousin's bridal shower?

So then for cousin getting married this year. I knew better this time. Cousin's dad asks me if she is coming? I just say "I don't think she's coming" This shower has RSVP so why I am I being asked? Probably cause she straight up just doesn't respond. I think it does look bad that she doesn't go but I choose to go.

But oh my God I got invited to her bachelorette party on the spot. And then they assure me that she will be coming to that so that I can be more comfortable or something. LOL!! I would rather sit next to a stranger that's how awful she is.

But it kind of like I'm trying to not be tacky or make this anyone's business, but at the same time it's like OMG people will you please stop it already? So many sister in laws can have that buddy relationship but this is not always the case, even if we don't behave like hillbillies about it.

These things can be hard to pick up on. Sometimes something will be said later in private, and I'll be floored to later find out that certain people don't get along with each other. But even with me being unaware at first I don't think I've been in a situation where I assume and put people together.

Please tell me I'm not the only one who deals with this.

posted November 03, 2021 08:36 AM            

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She has mellowed out a bit. She started saying hi to me. Because I stopped saying it to her. Because she use to say nothing if I said "hi" to her....including MY BRIDAL SHOWER and WEDDING REHERSAL.

She knows my husband will stick up for me now....my wedding hype is basically done too. So I think that has helped her calm down.

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posted November 04, 2021 03:21 AM            

Then there's those people who find one day they have a diluted version of the love they once shared. It's crushing to spend years with someone yet they have no interest to understand you. 💔

Humans are weird.
The heart can be tolerant, excepting and welcoming of love for the other. What happens when the mind and soul don't fold in? The trifecta isn't
in all relationships. Sad but true.

posted April 23, 2022 02:14 PM            

Some people WANT/DEMAND an answer when you are not interested anymore. I've never been like this with friends.

A friend group I've lost interest in has been very pushy and persistent lately. I just want to drift apart. Why do I have to burn the bridge?

I feel a confrontation in the air.

I've seen people debate this topic. Of the person deserves an explanation. While the other person debates no they are not entitled to an explanation, just leave the person alone and move on.

Why do I have to say leave me alone stop contacting me.

Like you guys are too big of a pain in the arse for me to be friends with....and one person in the group is bat shi+ crazy.

posted July 31, 2022 12:14 PM            

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I'm dealing again with people who are unable to take HINT!

Some people WANT/DEMAND an answer when you are not interested anymore. I've never been like this with friends.

A friend group I've lost interest in has been very pushy and persistent lately. I just want to drift apart. Why do I have to burn the bridge?

I feel a confrontation in the air.

I've seen people debate this topic. Of the person deserves an explanation. While the other person debates no they are not entitled to an explanation, just leave the person alone and move on.

Why do I have to say leave me alone stop contacting me.

Like you guys are too big of a pain in the arse for me to be friends with....and one person in the group is bat shi+ crazy.

I don't think they can handle the truth.

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Damn i can relate so much to this. I have JUST been dealing with that. I got to know a neighboor in May and we hit it off right a way BUT the more i started to hang out with her the more i started to see how self absorbed she really was and by June i was already so put off by her and lost interest in developing a friendship with her. So i started distancing myself from her not only because she’s self absorbed but also because i have just been wanting to be by myself. This woman cannot respect that and from the FIRST time i turned her down in the most friendliest way to hang out she got butthurt and that spoke volumes to me this further showed me that she cannot respect other people’s wishes and she only concerns herself with her own needs. She’s been acting really immature doing some passive aggressive nonesense when i have seen her around here because we are neighboors. I hung out with her during a short period and that was enough for me. I saw it as a red flag that i was already annoyed and put off by her the month after i got to know her. This is not typical of me but she was constantly on her phone, wanted to watch a program she knew i wasn’t a fan of and when the conversation wasn’t about her she would become disengaged and be on her phone and when i wanted space she couldn’t respect that but what really put me off the most was when i open up about something vulnerable and she turned the conversation back to herself again after having spent 2 hours just talking about her and her life already. She’s the type that gonna make you feel pressure to say yes everytime she asks you to hang out. Today i can’t stand her and have lost complete interest in having any contact with her i am so put off by her. I removed her from my Facebook i want her to take the hint that i have no interest. She’s also the type that wouldn’t have been able to handle the truth i mean she couldn’t even respect and got angry that i wanted some time to myself can you imagine if she heard the truth about her own attitude, haha.

posted August 05, 2022 04:20 PM            

Sending good vibes

posted August 06, 2022 07:11 PM            

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That's scary when adults get upset when we can't act like school aged besties! Because while friendship is important it's pretty unrealistic for many adults to have friendship be their main priority in life.

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posted August 07, 2022 04:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
That's scary when adults get upset when we can't act like school aged besties! Because while friendship is important it's pretty unrealistic for many adults to have friendship be their main priority in life.

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posted August 07, 2022 04:16 PM            

Oh yeah he also told the city officials
and others that we were dead
and that our cats were feeding on
our corpses👽😳🤬
People started freaking out👽🤬

posted September 01, 2022 12:30 AM            

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Thank you and right back at you. How is it going for you?

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That adds a new level of stress having a person like that as a neighbor.

I did end up going out with them it was a nice enough time, the girl apologized for being too clingy I chose not to say anything. I text her back once but wasn't interested in responding back to anymore....that opens the flood gate to my phone getting blown up.