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Stawr
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posted July 10, 2022 12:24 AM
  
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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
One thing that helps me with this is shouting and screaming in an empty room to let all the rage out. Basically expressing and acting out whatever I want alone (yeah its kinda like masturbating) makes me feel extremely calm after the release. Has to be done daily though. It is a technique of catharsis.
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Stawr
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posted July 10, 2022 12:31 AM
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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
[b] One thing that helps me with this is shouting and screaming in an empty room to let all the rage out. Basically expressing and acting out whatever I want alone (yeah its kinda like masturbating) makes me feel extremely calm after the release. Has to be done daily though. It is a technique of catharsis.
oh my yes yes yes yes yes😎🤬😎😱🤬
It is very cathartic and in many ways quite orgasmic I agree😎
I do it often😎
Usually more than once a day but I have to scream into a pillow or I would freak out the neighbors.👽
It helps to imagine murdering the things that enrage one.
Just take it out on the pillows and such and beat the stuffing out of them if need be.
Then hint........
Seriously........
Laugh and it can be fake laughter until it turns into real laughter at the absurdly of it all😎😄[/B][/QUOTE] Thank you for sharing that! I can feel a piece of mind after I go to the gun range. I have been kind of wanting to get a punching bag for anger management too. I felt like I needed to excuse my self to scream or punch something with my friend "mansplaining" to me today. But instead I vaped in the public restroom and then told my friend to stop mansplaining to me. IP: Logged |
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posted July 10, 2022 01:13 AM
Stawr😎
It helps one to cope with serious illness too.
I also think the adrenaline surges can help out body heal.
So I imagine killing the cancers.
Anger is more productive than despair.😎
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saronna
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posted July 10, 2022 06:23 AM
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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
I have been told I may not have long to live.
To say that news sucks is a drastic understatement👽
That puts an entirely different spin on how I look at many things.
Trying not to just give up. Hard to look forward when there may not be a forward for long.👽
Wondering if I am just taking up time waiting for the end that is not preventable whether soon or many years from now.
I hope I have years but at the moment all is a huge series of wtf what ifs.👽
I hope all of you do not have to be in my situations to find ways to cope and live your lives.
Take care aquaguy91 and GalacticCoreExplosionV2 and Stawr,
and anyone else facing theses grievous life
challenges.
Wishing you all the answers you need to move forward and onward and to love and trust in each your own selves.
I learned that I am my own best friend and love and trust me.Good luck to you all💖🌈😎
I'm sorry your sick. Try to enjoy each day. It's hard when you are sick. I'm sick too & most days all I can do is shower prayer & meditation & snuggle in bed & write & listen to music. & I want to do so much work & study & run my own programming business & go to the beach everyday. It's going to be hard to say goodbye to this lifetime. I had some pizza today & lemonade & it was a good day. I take medication to make me comfortable but I don't know how long I have got too. I have really enjoyed Lindaland & I will miss you all. I haven't spent much time in Lindaland I got really busy with soulmate game & then I came back to Lindaland & I got sick & couldn't post as much I would have love too. I will be back another lifetime & find you all & psychical immortal & I will try & post until then IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted July 10, 2022 09:10 AM
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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
Stawr😎
It helps one to cope with serious illness too.
I also think the adrenaline surges can help out body heal.
So I imagine killing the cancers.
Anger is more productive than despair.😎
Oh yeah go for the punching bag if you
have one😎
I wish this was talked about more, and I seriously thank you for sharing. Hopefully it will become more mainstream with Chiron in Aries. Maybe when Jupiter conjuncts Chiron that will give it some extra oomph. IP: Logged |
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posted July 10, 2022 10:07 AM
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Originally posted by Stawr:
I wish this was talked about more, and I seriously thank you for sharing. Hopefully it will become more mainstream with Chiron in Aries. Maybe when Jupiter conjuncts Chiron that will give it some extra oomph.
Yes it should be talked about more.
It really can help anyone to cope with many things in life, especially the things we often have no control of or no easy or fast control of.😎
Having these private blowups helps keep one from building pressure that could lead to anything from breakdowns and or violence tor even suicide.
Thank you for seeing from whence I write💖😎
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saronna
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posted July 11, 2022 12:14 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I'm really struggling lately. I only feel bad emotions and don't see a way out. Life sucks.
It's hard to enjoy life. It's hard when you are struggling. I snuggle up in bed when I'm depressed. This lifetime has been hard. It's hard to be positive when you are sick & to live your life. IP: Logged |
saronna
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posted July 11, 2022 12:38 AM
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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
Sounds like we have many life things in common, both the bad and the good😎
I learned to read in much the same way😎
In my case it was Alice In Wonderland and the others.
I too memorized what was read to me and then I began on encyclopedia s and my father's Science Fiction &,Fantasy magazines.
Just memorizing stories like Alice In Wonderland and Aesop's Fables and more;
strange but I could read before I actually learned the alphabet it easy to teach myself how to read via word patterns instead of beginning with just the alphabet.😎Very happy to hear that you have a lifelong passion for reading also😎 Sounds like we have hard hot work experiences in common to.
Working on farms using horse instead of modern equipment and hand milking cows and
Putting in 100s of acres of fence when I was still a child and young teen.
Then factory work in jobs traditionally for men but I was able to lift the 200 pounds with ease so those were the jobs I worked at.
Hot dangerous but definitely preferable to traditional female jobs.
Oh yes cars without air conditioning, very common in my youth.
No fun in the humid hot heat of a southeastern summer.
Most of my adult life so far has been mostly up by the Great Lakes so now it s the bitter cold Winters that makes things miserable.
You sound like you have it all together and
you are not afraid of hard work😎
Thank you for sharing again💖😎
I very muchly enjoy reading your posts and all😎
My son loved Where The Wild Things Are when he was little also.💖😎 You said;
Thank you too for sharing as your posts have made me feel less alone in my decades of misery💙💖
I wish your life was easier.💙
Thank you muchly again for sharing💙😎 Good night for now.😴💤
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saronna
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posted July 11, 2022 01:46 AM
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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Stawr:
[b] I wish this was talked about more, and I seriously thank you for sharing. Hopefully it will become more mainstream with Chiron in Aries. Maybe when Jupiter conjuncts Chiron that will give it some extra oomph.
Yes it should be talked about more.
It really can help anyone to cope with many things in life, especially the things we often have no control of or no easy or fast control of.😎
Having these private blowups helps keep one from building pressure that could lead to anything from breakdowns and or violence tor even suicide.
Thank you for seeing from whence I write💖😎[/B][/QUOTE] Anger is better than despair. When I was well I would clean the house when I was angry & the house would so clean. How to channel anger when you're sick. Visualisation I have tried. IP: Logged |
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posted July 11, 2022 02:18 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Lexigrammer,
No problem. Yes, I agree with all your points. I'm sorry that you had such a difficult time with family and school. When I was younger, I initially had trouble reading but then I finally caught on and passed my peers up. I credit my mom and special ed teachers. My mom used to read me "Where the Wild Things Are" and I learned to read by memorizing it. I loved that book. It stoked a lifelong love of reading in me.
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posted July 11, 2022 04:03 AM
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Originally posted by saronna:
I haven't read this book. I love to read. I use to read alot
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Where_the_Wild_Things_Are Google for the movie😎
http://study.com/academy/lesson/where-the-wild-things-are-summary-characters.html
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posted July 11, 2022 07:19 AM
Thanks lexigrammer. How are you. I hope you are feeling better today & you have a better day. I love listen to music I have a better dayIP: Logged |
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posted July 11, 2022 08:12 AM
Bottling up alot of anger can lead to despair & suicide. I had alot of anger growing up not so much anymore but depression is from being so sick & not so much from bottling anger. Prayer helps not to bottle up anger. I pray God help me patient with myself & others & helps me not to bottle up anger. I still get angry & I feel anger but I don't have to reactIP: Logged |
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posted July 11, 2022 03:37 PM
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Originally posted by saronna:
Thanks lexigrammer. How are you. I hope you are feeling better today & you have a better day. I love listen to music I have a better day
l may be dying of bad cancers according to specialists.
So sorry to say without a miracle things do not look good for a future😢
I do my best to just keep going but it is hard.
I also have PTSD and can barely stand noises these days and that includes music usually too.
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posted July 11, 2022 07:35 PM
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posted July 11, 2022 07:45 PM
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Thank you saronna💖
Hugs and good luck wishes are very welcome💖
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posted July 13, 2022 10:27 PM
I've had a pretty s#itty week. Someone stole my phone, so I had to buy a new phone when money was already very tight. I also had to miss a day of work getting my old phone locked and my bank account secured. I have worked so hard this summer and that's how the universe repays me. Sometimes it's so hard not to feel like a victim to life. What the hell did I ever do to deserve so much stress and hardship? The last three or so years have been completely overwhelming. I needed better times like yesterday but there's no end in sight.IP: Logged |
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posted July 14, 2022 09:43 AM
aquaguy91
you said;
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Sometimes it's so hard not to feel like a victim to life. What the hell did I ever do to deserve so much stress and hardship? The last three or so years have been completely overwhelming. I needed better times like yesterday but there's no end in sight.
That is strange the three year thing👽
Wonder if there is any significance or reason for that⁉️👽
My woes and the woes of others who including you it appears
have had things go wrong for the past three years too.👽
Why three years⁉️
They say good and bad things come in threes.
Perhaps our coming years will take a turn for the best⁉️
I wish that I had positive answers for you💙
That is how I feel too,
even though our woes in life are not the same I totally get what you are feeling aquaguy91 💙😢
I have done everything right and yet my life is worse than ever and yet I still want to live but that might be being ripped away from my existence too in agonizing stages every moment 24/7.,
Had a bad spell last night and thought oh shiite this is it I am going to die.
Then it passed and left me with only the head to toes inside and out horrible burning gripping etcetera agonies.
Part of me was hoping the end was about to happen but part of me was like hells no not freaking yet body!
Today I have to go get more IV iron infusions. Yet so far they are not working only making me sicker.
And the nasty heartless city bosses want to condemn our ramshackle home and put us out there on the streets😡
I am like WTF people⁉️🤬
What part of impoverished far below even normal poverty levels and us both fighting what doctors say may well be fatal cancers etcetera even with treatments these greedy snobby jerks do not understand nor have any kind of compassion for our plights⁉️👽🤬😡
Insurances are not covering everything and delay after delay to get medical care is ongoing.
So the bills are piling up and medical stuff being denied because of poverty.
We cannot pay to have the things fixed.
The lawn needs to be mowed but we cannot do it nor can we afford to pay someone to do it for us.
Why won't people help us out⁉️👽
Oh yeah partly because we are not Christians.
So the charities stay clear of us.
Seems only Christians get help to improve their lives and living conditions.👽🤬Sorry that I hijacked your thread again😢 Okay enough of my woes. I sincerely hope that life treats you better very soon aquaguy91 💖😎🌈
Love and blessings to you💖🌄
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posted July 14, 2022 07:09 PM
I'm sorry you are having a hard time aquaguy91 & lexigram & you are so sick. I wish I could study & work but I have to stay in bed being so sick. & it's hard being so sick but I do things in bed like go on the internet & colouring in Mandela patterns but sometimes that gets all too much. but I'm grateful I have a home & I can shower & do prayer & meditation it helps to relax my mind & body. I'm a Christian & I'm sad they don't help you more & help anyone improve thier lives & living conditionsIP: Logged |
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posted July 14, 2022 08:41 PM
saronna
Sorry you a re bed bound sick too.
I have a home too but no way to bathe and all and no one will help.
So it is washcloths and old fashioned bowl and pitcher baths.Hope your sickness is curable💙
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posted July 15, 2022 02:11 PM
Thanks lexigramme. I'm really sorry you don't have a disability shower. I have a disability shower and bathroom. I came out of hospital & they gave me a disability apartment social worker & my caseworker help me get my disability home. I hope you get help.IP: Logged |
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posted July 16, 2022 07:15 AM
It's hard being so sick. It's hard to accept that I'm so sick for last four years & that I haven't got long to live when I believe in physical immortality. I have had to set boundaries I can't go out ice skating or to Luna Park & to say no I can't go out. I'm lucky to find my twin soul but I have had to set boundaries I can't date. I believe in fate & destiny & free will & having boundaries with my twin soul when it comes to being sick & to rest & sleep & not to date. IP: Logged |
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posted July 16, 2022 07:31 AM
I'm 51 I'm a bit too old to date & bit late to date now that I'm sick & haven't got long to live. But I enjoy my twin soul & I have learned alot about boundaries with my twin soul. Boundaries like not worrying what time he comes home & if he comes home & what woman he's with if he's with another woman & if he drinks or smokes weed. & to not worry what time he comes home he has the key. I use to fight with ex alcoholic about other women but it was a waste of time being with him & I didn't love ex alcoholic but when you love someone you love them for themselves. I can't control my twin soul drinking or smoking weed or other women & I'm with him because we are twin souls & with ex alcoholic we weren't twin souls & with ex alcoholic there was violence & with my twin soul there is no violence physical abuse or verbal abuse but he's a very different person from me even though we are twin souls & lives a very different lifestyle than & is younger & more wild than me. I don't say to him you can't drink or smoke weed he comes to church with me but he's not a Christian & enjoys drinking & smoking & other women & I don't fight with him about his drinking & smoking weed & other women. I know he has a problem with drinking alcohol & smoking weed & other women & I'm with him because he my twin soul even though he's not a Christian. But I'm not sure anymore & thinking of setting up boundaries to have a relationship with him being a Christian because we are not married & to be just friends with him because he's my twin soul & wait for him when he becomes a Christian. We have so different lifestyles & beliefs him not being a Christian. I wasn't a Christian with ex alcoholic & being in a three year defacto relationship was the worst mistake I made because I didn't love him. My other twin soul I don't know much about him but he will live in a parallel galaxy. My twin soul is thinking of becoming a new Christian.IP: Logged |
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