posted July 08, 2015 01:48 AM            

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Originally posted by Catalina:
It is your Nemesis/Dejanira/whatever..ie the issue that comes up is in you..the other person is just a trigger/reflection. Did the boy get in trouble for beating your cousin? Her victim consciousness triggering his nemesis? Or perhaps they both learned something valuable with hindsight if not in first grade? (It was the "school bully" who accidentally taught me I had the power to defend myself and that those who appear big and tough are easily disarmed, and vulnerable.

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Catalina, they were both in 1st grade and it continued till 4th grade. He was "grandson" of the School Owner and so he never got into trouble. I was trying to see a Nessus angle but wasn't there except for a trine. Besides, I am not against Nemesis, I am trying to discover how she functions. What I have discovered is that she tries to restore "balance" by punishing those who misuse power. So, in this example, my cousin didn't listen to the bully so he took to negative qualities of Nemesis which are "rivalry and jealousy". In another example, my friend had Mars opposite Nemesis synastry, she was Mars, he was also a person who has rivalry and jealousy running in his blood. She tried to "control" his qualities but it ended upon her being the target. So, she played along, both girls have evolved but for the boys they continue to be what they were. You can say experience teaches you whether you learn from it or not is your responsibility.

posted July 08, 2015 11:59 AM            

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Originally posted by NikiVenus6:
Don't be scared, there are two sides to Nemesis which is what I have discovered after starting this thread. Information always works. I did my research and here is what I have found Nemesis when negatively aspected or negatively prominent in the chart makes that person go for bitter rivalry and jealousy. When it is positively aspected or positively prominent then it works as the "restoring equilibrium agent angle", such Nemesis shows you the right path of cutting off excessive bad habits or qualities and becoming more down to earth person. She restores balance between the very powerful and the weak.

Having said that, I would want you to understand Mars hard aspects with Nemesis can be really tough. But you don't have to be scared just understand the issues, you will be stronger with every Nemesis experience. She gives you the ability to survive.

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posted July 09, 2015 05:43 AM            

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Originally posted by SoaringLeaves:
My Nemesis was conjunct one of my ex's ASC. I never loved anyone the way I loved than man. It was passion with abandon, to the point of forgetting my own life and self in order to protect him and help his career. Guess what! Despite the slew of great aspects and despite the fact that he loved me (he repeatedly said so in terms of, "I hate that I love you"), I could never persuade him that I'm not his worst enemy.

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Wow, this goes in my diary of research! Can u tell me what other aspects you had in synastry with him? Possibly you invoked the Rivalry/Jealousy angle in him.

posted July 09, 2015 06:58 AM            

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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
Thoughts on NEMESIS conjunct VALENTINE (0°30)? Natal aspect. 4H. Conjunct the Great Attractor.

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Aub, it can mean two things, let's get both explanations. We will start with the ugly one, say in love (valentine) you appear competitive or like a rivalry. Or your style of loving (Valentine) may appear competitive, jealous or rivalry to the person who touches your Nemesis in synastry. The closest people around you may be more exposed to your this side or you may display these qualities mostly "at home". Now, let's look at the good aspect, you may be the one who tries to show the mirror to a loved one through your nurturing. You may be the family member who tries to set an equilibrium at home by cutting of the bad habits of whose around you. You may be having a Mom who showed you mirror from time to time to shape you to be a "humble person".