posted October 12, 2002 08:56 AM         

I went on that big interview a few weeks ago...they liked me..but have not made a decision yet. I went on another intervie this past Wednesday...and have heard nothing yet.

I'm starting to feel like such a big loser and a failure....and here..I'll be getting my MBA in December.

I need to work...not so much for the money...but more to feel worthwhile...like I have something (financial expertise, skill, knowledge) that someone else needs.

I'm told by my headhunter that I interview very well...ok..so what gives???

posted October 12, 2002 11:44 AM         

You know depression is a health´s enemy. The first step you must apply is avoiding stress. If they are going to accept you some day, how could you assume the new responsibility? You know you won´t help anyone in that situation. If we get into imbalance, our mind will keep it during many days, although you do not see it. Then it´ll make you feel more tired, disheartened, and the people won´t see you as the help they´re looking for.

I´m going to advise you to do this:

-Remember those employers are going to delay the same long, no matter if you are depressed or calmed;

-While waiting, enjoy the funny things you like: walk, camping, a beer sometimes, visiting friends, bicycle, reading, painting, pitching stones on waters (not into windows, please), etc;

-Whatever you choose to enjoy, bring your favorite music with you. Instrumental is really good in these cases.

-Share with a good friend your trouble. Choose a non troubled one. From outside he/she can see things better than you can.

-Avoid eating meat. Your mind needs calmness, and meat provokes the opposite effect in your subconscious.

-Try another job search.

-DO NOT EVER isolate yourself.

These counsels are easy to do... and very healthy. This is all I can offer from me to you. I hope you find a help in my words. I wish the success opens its door for you. Thank you.

posted October 12, 2002 01:35 PM         

I do feel isolated though and it's hard for me to concentrate on anything else besides finding work....I just feel like there's no time for fun...because going out with freinds...doing things...takes MONEY...and the unemployment division here in MD is giving me a hard time because I told them I'm in school...PART TIME...as I'm finishing my MBA and somehow they see this as possibly preventing me from looking for full time work.....duh...I worked full time the whole time I've been studying for the MBA.

It's just so frustrating...and my friends are so insensitive...my one freind said...lets go to the spa and have a massage and a day of beauty....and somehow that upset me...because I'm out of work and do not want to spend on such a frivolous thing.

posted October 13, 2002 07:02 PM         

so you're saying it's going to take a miracle for me to find another job?

posted October 18, 2002 01:47 AM         

But there are a couple of things that are very potent. One is prayer with the faith that God WILL help AND there is the good wishes and positive thoughts of those who wish you well.
Those, as well as my prayers, you have from me and ..I see..from a couple others here. Don't discount their power to help! When you feel most down, remember that there are others behind you that are rooting for you and are sending you positive feedback.
Ask for what you need and wait with the conviction it will come.
Also read "Serious Depression, Help!" on this forum and if you want to try it I will help all I can.
My e-mail is chrystalkay@hotmail.com

I am 54 and have been through a LOT in my life and I learned one very important thing. I will survive it. Whatever it is I will come out the other side. This wasn't learned easily because I had no-one to tell me it was possible.
I learned to think of the worst senario ...what I feared most from a negative outcome. Then I decided what I would do if that happened, or what suggestions I would give to a friend in a similar situation. Once I came to grips with that and felt comfortable with a plan to work myself out of that situation, then I felt a great deal more at ease with the pickle I was in. Because I wasn't flinching from a nameless fear anymore. I had faced it and worked out a way to deal with it if it came to that.
And you know what? I never had to deal with something as bad as I feared!
And...each time made me stronger and more self confident.
YOU will work this out too. YOU will come out the other side stronger and better able to cope with the next crisis. And there will be more. If you are breathing, you face chalenges!

posted October 21, 2002 09:26 PM         

My thing is....since I've been laid off and I have all this time to think...I really feel the pull of my yin and yang....I have all kinds of opposition in my chart placements....my soul calling and then these other external urges to be "on top" "#1"...yadda...yadda....

These 9 interviews run the spectrum of possibilities...from government positions to high profile corporate jobs to a potential opportunity with a non profit religious organization.

I'm excited about the government prospect even though the pay is lower than what I'm used to...the job is in healcare policy...where I feel like I could make a difference for the greater good....but then I have this pull in the other direction to achieve financial stability because I'm a singel female TRYING to save enough money to move out of my parents house and on my own without them worrying if I'm going to have enough money to live at a comfortable level.

So I think this whole lay-off thing is a learning process for me becaue of all these potential possibilities my life could take on and I'm just trying to sort through it all.

My big thing is I want a family, I want to get married...and I'm thinking the governement job would be good for that too because they have felixible schedules...I have no serious boyfriend now...but I'd like to meet someone decent and settle down...and I can't do that if I work over time all the time you know?