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Topic: Body Image
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jjjax
Knowflake Posts: 285
From: Sydney, Australia
Registered: Jan 2003
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posted April 01, 2003 03:56 AM
 
ummm i did write something here... but im not really good at talking about me... so im gonna leave it...  IP: Logged |
Lunargirl
Knowflake Posts: 1513
From: south of utopia
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted April 01, 2003 10:45 AM
Hi jjjax,Fear of having too little can be as bad as fear of too much! Body image is something we, ourselves hold inside. It often doesn't correspond with reality, but that's what true friends are for -- to listen and validate the feelings, and then tell you you're beautiful anyway. Personally I find it astonishing how many attractive people, myself included, have either a scrawny or plump self-image inside -- that's why I find the way we use mirrors to be dangerous. We aim them against ourselves, and that's not right. Remember, jjjax, that mirror is incapable of showing your true beauty. I have to say, that whether I'm at home or out somewhere, when I'm dancing I feel totally gorgeous, sweat and all. That's when my inner Beauty Critic is left stuffed in a closet at home with water and a couple of crackers. Lunargirl IP: Logged |
trinityfuse
Knowflake Posts: 36
From: Los Angeles, Ca
Registered: Feb 2003
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posted April 01, 2003 11:14 AM
Gosh I'm in Los Angeles and I have this photo shoot to do on April 12th. I need to lose 12 lbs by then...Im 5'6" and weigh 120lbs. So weight is so an issue right now! Plus going to USC (my university) does not help where women here are mostly toned, tanned, and sergically enhanced. I have very high motabolism but I love to eat which is making it hard for me to be on this diet. This morning I couldnt help it ...I had a croissant  ! Well, I guess that will sum up my meal for today...which sucks because my stomach will be growling...but this is the only way to drop really fast ! So yes..right now weight is definately an issue ...but since Im a poor student  ...money talks... aswell  IP: Logged |
Muse1
Knowflake Posts: 200
From: MD, USA
Registered: Aug 2002
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posted April 01, 2003 12:41 PM
Hi Trinityfuse,
I you truly would like to lose weight and keep it off this might sound a little crazy but you would need to eat more. If you eat small healthy portion about every 3 to 4 hours your metabolism to speed up and this actually takes your craving away and if you do a little of cardiovascular exercise it should help. Also you can analyze according to the planets on when it is easier to stick to a plan. I am about to start my cleansing program where I will be eating like that so let’s see how it goes…..
Muse1
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Sunmeadow Glades
Knowflake Posts: 253
From: Brisbane, QLD, Australia
Registered: Jan 2003
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posted April 02, 2003 02:35 AM
Thanks WychofAvalon for your beautiful prayer for my friend. I am sending her lots of white light.Gosh, you girls have such pressure living in LA!!!!!!!!!!!! If it's all around you and in your face, how do you cope with it? Trinityfuse, please be careful!! You need to eat in order to live, breathe, and love. Muse 1 is right - your body is better off when you exercise and have a healthy diet. Please be kind to yourself. Love and Peace,
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La-Tee-Da
Knowflake Posts: 1442
From: New Orleans, Louisiana
Registered: Feb 2002
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posted April 02, 2003 08:05 AM
Ah! Girls....I can relate to all of your posts. I too, skip dates, concerts, dinners with friends and etc cause I don't want them to see me fat. I do suffer from the worst self body image in the whole Universe!!! Even when I was a size 6, I saw lumps and bugles wherever I looked. It is depressing. Sometimes I sit at home for days, without going out, just cause I think I look fat. I go to the gym regularly....4-6 times per week and I constantly diet, but in my head I still need to work on myself!!! Arrrrggghhh!------------------
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Tuesday
Knowflake Posts: 191
From: Kansas
Registered: Jun 2002
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posted April 03, 2003 06:01 PM
There are painful comments and lots of pressure on both ends of the spectrum. Like jjjax I've always been underweight. I'm very petite, tiny hands, tiny everything, everything about me is tiny (except my obnoxiously huge mouth sometimes when I can't shut up). And I don't have a boy-ish figure, I do have curves, I have these toothpick-like arms and legs that I'm very self-conscious of. Anyway, I know that women are trying to build themselves and others up by putting down the "skin and bones" and "stick insects" but that can really hurt the people who are naturally built that way. I've never starved myself (I'm too afraid of LOSING weight) and I'm not undernourished, I'm healthy. Besides, I have several planets in Gemini, meaning I never sit still anyway, meaning I burn more calories than I eat just by being awake! Everyone tells me, "Oh, all the clothes were built for you! You have it made!" But actually it is hard to find a good fit (I learned how to sew so I can take in nearly everything I buy) plus I'm only 5'1 anyway, with narrow size 5 feet! I've gone through some painful ordeals with my family because of my weight, but I won't go into detail.
No matter what someone looks like, someone else will find a way to rip them apart or just nitpick at flaws.
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Tuesday
Knowflake Posts: 191
From: Kansas
Registered: Jun 2002
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posted April 03, 2003 06:04 PM
Ps. I wouldn't have written all that out if I didn't feel like I could really express myself here I hope I didn't annoy anybody.IP: Logged |
WychOfAvalon
Knowflake Posts: 629
From: Los Angeles
Registered: Feb 2003
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posted April 03, 2003 08:38 PM
Tuesday.. didn't annoy me one bit!!  ahhh when I was thin everyone thought I was aenorexic or bulimic. People told me I was too thin. I ate EVERYTHING, too so people assumed I threw it up. damn my metabolism for changing!! heh! IP: Logged |
Lunargirl
Knowflake Posts: 1513
From: south of utopia
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted April 04, 2003 11:07 AM
Hi Tuesday, like I was trying to say to jjjax, I agree that the other end of the body image spectrum is also tough. I have a friend with your situation, and she's had to learn to sew, too, unless she wanted to spend the rest of her life buying clothes from the boys' department!I hope I didn't say anything that could be taken as a put-down of other people's bodies. What does disturb me is when you have a perfectly beautiful person, with a perfectly acceptable body, who has a nasty self-punishing attitude! That bothers me. And the way that media images of women have pushed so many toward eating disorders. My best friend in highschool was bulimic, but I didn't know till a few years ago. I have actor friends who hate their bodies for not being able to lose a few critical pounds. We waste so much time and energy saying inside "I'm not good enough", and then all that negative thinking manifests itself as yes, like you mention, people picking each other apart!!! What is the point of it all? Me, I just can't handle that level of self-and-other hatred... dissatisfaction and envy, a pair to AVOID. Time for eating the PEAR I will not avoid, breakfast calls... Lunargirl IP: Logged |
Oxychick
Moderator Posts: 2546
From: neither here nor there
Registered: Jul 2002
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posted April 04, 2003 12:13 PM
One more...C'mon, I'm a girl. Naturally I'm part of this thread. I haven't had any children, but I cannot stand most of the way my body looks. But I will be the first to tell someone not to fret about theirs! You know-we always want what we don't have. IP: Logged |
Sunmeadow Glades
Knowflake Posts: 253
From: Brisbane, QLD, Australia
Registered: Jan 2003
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posted April 04, 2003 04:38 PM
Just wanted to share with everyone that it was my birthday yesterday, and my husband took me out to dinner. We had a lovely time and I felt really good about myself. I guess I fully realised last night that feeling sexy is a state of mind that comes from within. It's not about whether you have big breasts, thin thighs or skinny calves. It's about a feeling of confidence about being yourself, about connecting with someone using your eyes (the window to your soul), about using your mouth to smile/laugh/talk, about taking in the sights and sounds around you without being self-conscious. I haven't felt this good about myself for a long time. Being myself came easy last night - I didn't feel self-conscious at all. Does that make sense?What do you think being sexy means to you? Love and Peace,
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jjjax
Knowflake Posts: 285
From: Sydney, Australia
Registered: Jan 2003
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posted April 04, 2003 07:31 PM
i know my friends dont mean to, but they make me feel bad about critising myself, beacuse they think i have the perfect figure... but then they turn around and do it themselves. It is so hard for me find clothes that fit me, and bra shopping! Just makes me depressed.
Yeah everyone wants what they dont have! Thats the truth I have big breasts, thin thighs and skinny calves. and i dont feel sexy. Being sexy for me i think means... for someone to be interested in me for who i am, what i have to say...have their full attention. I have never had that... and i think thats what i crave the most. Tuesday I feel the same way about expressing myself in LindaLand. I usually cant open up, but their is so much love and light here 
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Sunmeadow Glades
Knowflake Posts: 253
From: Brisbane, QLD, Australia
Registered: Jan 2003
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posted April 05, 2003 05:20 PM
Even though we all come in different shapes and sizes, we are never happy with what we have got. It's such a shame that we are unable to appreciate what we have - I guess that's the destination of the journey of loving ourselves.I have learnt this week that true inner beauty and feeling sexy and gorgeous does come from within. The struggle or challenge is remembering this is when I feel crap about myself. I am glad everyone feels comfortable discussing their fears/dislikes about themselves - you are being heard!! Love and Peace,
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trippysht
Knowflake Posts: 272
From: Morristown, NJ USA
Registered: Nov 2002
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posted April 11, 2003 01:04 PM
i find it so ironic that so many girls wish they could be thinner--- and then some of us would die for a little weight on us! im 5'1 and have always been build like a toothpick... but unlike tuesday i have NO curves, which i have always hated. some girls i know are indeed skinny, but they just wish they had thin hips, whereas i would like a little bit of pear in my shape... because of my GIRLish figure, people sometimes think i'm 6 or 7 years younger then i am, making me ..13! --tough when i'm trying to get into clubs and concerts, tho i dont care so much about my projected age since i learned about immortality. and i have recently, well, WILLED myself a butt.  hehehe so even tho i now feel pretty good about my body, i still look for verification in the mirror... my boyfriend will make fun of me for spending time in front of the mirror, and it usually brings me to tears! because i dont CHOOSE to look at myself, its a compulsion... even when i smile at what i see, i still will look like clockwork.IP: Logged |
CrabbyRam
Knowflake Posts: 12
From: Los Angeles
Registered: Dec 2002
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posted April 12, 2003 12:53 AM
Hey trinityfuse,
I go to USC too! I know exactly what you mean! My roommie is a size four, blonde, etc., I feel so self concious around her sometimes, and living in a media obsessed city, especially since im a broadcast journalism major, does not help.
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eiai0107
Knowflake Posts: 10
From: miami, fl,usa
Registered: Sep 2003
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posted November 09, 2003 12:13 AM
hello everyone
i am cuban and you would think that being hispanic has it's advantages since most hispanic women are very curvy. unfortunetly in my culture i am called fat all the time. you need to have a big butt and a decent breast size but they also want you too have a small waist. does that sound un-balanced to you or is it just me.i have been feeling bad about my weight for a few months now.the down fall of living in miami,fl is that these perfect women are around all the time. you tend to ask your self why can't that be me.anyway thanks alot to all of you for sharing your insecurities they have really shed light into my opinions of myself and that i'm not alone. reading your stories are very insperational.long distance hugs to all of you thanx IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 17027
From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted November 09, 2003 01:47 AM
Welcome!  ------------------
"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Kat Smeow
Knowflake Posts: 21
From: New Jersey
Registered: Nov 2003
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posted November 09, 2003 12:22 PM
uggghhh...my least favorite thing to talk about. My body. I remember feeling this way my entire life. I recently looked at some pics from high school, and wow, I wondered why I had complained so much! And why didn't anyone ask me to the prom?  Anyway, I am disgusted with the way the fashion and beauty industry commands women how they "should" look, and what true beauty is. For many years, I have avoided looking at people, hiding myself every chance I got. I'm still working through this, and trying to get over the fact that I dont need external validation to be beautiful. Its a hard thing to conquer, even for a stubborn Taurus with a reasonable Libra rising and a logical Virgo moon. IP: Logged |
QueenofSheeba
Moderator Posts: 775
From: California, USA
Registered: Feb 2003
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posted November 09, 2003 02:01 PM
A few days ago my yoga teacher said that one very important part of yoga is learning to love one
s body, with all its imperfections. I think that is very true, not just from a yoga standpoint, but in general as well.Personally, my I'm fairly comfortable in my body, although I frequently worry about getting flabby. It's ridiculous, of course-- I would have to try really hard to gain weight. But I need to exercise a lot, otherwise I feel like I'm turning into a couch potatoe. ------------------
Hello everybody! I used to be QueenofSheeba and then I was Apollo and now I am QueenofSheeba again (and I'm a guy in case you didn't know)! IP: Logged |
Virgo-AriesArtist
Moderator Posts: 835
From: USA
Registered: Nov 2001
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posted November 10, 2003 09:46 AM
I am generally not too proud/pleased of my body, especially since in the last year or two, the weight has become more evenly distributed, as I used to have this small waist and rounder tummy, and now thicker waist, but flatter stomach....I don't know, I've always attributed by physical appearence issues to the Leo influence in my chart, but I *do* have an Aries rising, which makes me similar in a way to the ladies who started this thread. I am somewhere around 5'6", with size 8/9 hips, that I've always felt weren't proportionate to my slim upper body, and minimal chest. My arms and legs are very finely boned, and I never seem to gain any weight there. I've heard that women after pregnancy gain a bit of size in the bust area, and I guess I'm looking forward to that as I might feel a bit more balanced... The only thing about me that feels sexy is my distinctive walk (and I've gotten good remarks from two Scorpio males on that...  ). I hate my nose, which is too large for my face, but love my full lips and thick dark eyebrows and lashes.... I hope someday that I will lose a majority of my body insecurity, but I think it will take many years.------------------
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"Most people love with restraint
As if they were someday to hate
We hated gently, carefully
As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight IP: Logged |
CancerianMoon
Knowflake Posts: 249
From: penrith,australia
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted November 10, 2003 03:19 PM
hi all,
well as young woman prior to children i had a body men would trip over themselves for..and all that attention for my body and not who i was....shaped my views on many things...6 children later , 4 of the c-sections...i am much larger now than i was....and my views i am struggling to change....and i am not ugly...many ppl tell me im pretty...and when i think about meeting ppl who dont know me....i think to my self..if i wasnt this size they would see the real me(but would they)...its almost the opposite situation to when i was younger....and sometimes i feel thats why its been so easy for me to be larger and remain that way...its in the mind...and if im big...ppl have to accept me for me...not what my body looks like...i know this is distorted..but how do u change it???this i feel is my hurdle....its almost like wearing a mask...i often wonder if i meet someone who accepts me truely for who i am ...will i be able to loose the weight...or is it that i really need to accept who I REALLY AM to loose the weight????
sorry for babbling...this is straight from my heart...and i think weight...under or over is not just physical...but very much emotional...wouldnt it be nice to just be ourselves inside and out...and be happy about it...
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