posted April 21, 2013 07:28 PM            

First synastry:
Mercury square mercury
Mercury square mars
Mercury opposite pluto
Mercury trine moon
Mercury trine saturn
Mercury trine neptune
Sextile venus
Sextile jupiter

Second synastry:
Mercury's do not aspect
Mercury square sun
Square pluto/ opposite pluto (DW)
Opposite jupiter/ semi-sextile jupiter (DW)
Trine moon
Trine saturn
Trine neptune
Inconjunct/opposite ASC (DW)
Sextile/ trine MC (DW)
Square NN

posted April 22, 2013 03:15 AM            

His mercury,
opp my Sun/Mars
square my Moon
trine my Saturn

My mercury aspects none of his planets, given I don't count out of sign aspects.

We argue like tom and jerry. It's difficult to get a point across without initiating an argument. We debate over irrelevant things like religion, whether the pharmacist will sell a particular drug without prescription...He says I'm forever in an attack mode and I think he's hyper sensitive, critical, condescending, patronizing...We're still struggling to understand each other though we explained things clearly, long back.

As invisible mercury, I feel he doesn't see the sensible, rational, intelligent being in me. He thinks I'm a chicken head and says so bluntly. It took me 3-4 months to show him I've a brain that can rival and even beat his. However, he's still not convinced. We talk a lot of 'knowledge' as in science, religion, etc. If I'm sharing something, he says it's B.S. and then checks for accuracy. Most of the time, I share accurate, well-researched stuff while he's talking crap gathered from the grapevine. Yet, according to him, I'm dumb. Besides, he has a problem with my writing style. I prefer abbreviating words while he prefers 'message' over 'msg'. He expected me to change and I, today, stick to full forms. On the other hand, when I asked him to punctuate sentences, he chucked my demand in the dustbin.

posted April 22, 2013 03:22 AM            

I know of two people who have tight square and they argue a lot.

Me and my friend, we have his mars my mercury conjunct and we can argue unless we deliberately stop and change a topic (we have lots of pleasing aspects, too).

Me and my other friend, we have merucires sextile and it´s fun, fun, fun. Same sense of humor.

With someone else we have mercuries exactly conjunt, both of us have Mercury trine Neptune natally and for so many times we misunderstood each other. Seems like we are so attuned to each other and that is a disturbing influence.

posted April 22, 2013 04:55 AM            

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He thinks I'm a chicken head and says so bluntly

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he chucked my demand in the dustbin.

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Just charming.

posted April 22, 2013 05:42 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
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Just charming.

I think it might be time to chuck *him* in the dustbin.

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No relationship's perfect. No two people are the same. You just need to compromise. That's him. I'm the Mars person in synastry and what I just wrote was from my point of view. Maybe, he's right somewhere as Mercury but I am unable to see it. It's not like he's absolutely selfish. Even I've my selfish moments.

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I'm not fond of my Saturn squaring someone's Mercury. As Saturn, I find them boring. I've also noticed that Mercury doesn't really open up around me. It's the same when I'm Mercury aspecting another's Saturn. I feel inferior, as if Saturn's there to judge every word I say, they're better than me. Instead, I just shut up.

posted April 22, 2013 06:24 AM            

In my experience, squares are very difficult to handle. Communication just doesn't flow, no matter how hard you try to make it work. Saturn in the mix can be fatal! It's not completely unmanageable, but I'd rather have flowing aspects with Mercury. It's so much easier to relate to each other and you don't have to worry about being criticised or misunderstood.

When there are no Mercury aspects, you're just on completely different wavelengths. It's like there's nothing to talk about. And if you do talk about something, there's rarely a feeling of true exchange. It's a bit shallow and awkward. Again, this is just my experience.

Moon/Mercury or Venus/Mercury aspects are very popular between close people, especially in friendships I've noticed.

posted April 22, 2013 06:38 AM            

what about mercury trine mars at -3 degree?

posted April 22, 2013 07:44 AM            

Mercury trine Mars is a nice aspect to have, it can create an easy flow of ideas and communication. But it can also lead to heated conversations, although definitely not as tense as with the hard aspects.

I don't pay much attention to minor aspects such as the biquintile. But the fact that you have a Mercury/Venus conjunction (and he does too?) is a good thing by itself - you are pleasing to talk with and value harmony in communication. And if there are no afflictions to either Mercury in synastry, then why would there be conflict?

posted April 22, 2013 08:17 AM            

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I've my selfish moments.

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But would you be disrespectful and call him names like "chicken head" or "dumb" or act like his opinions don't matter to you?

posted April 22, 2013 11:15 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:

When there are no Mercury aspects, you're just on completely different wavelengths. It's like there's nothing to talk about. And if you do talk about something, there's rarely a feeling of true exchange. It's a bit shallow and awkward. Again, this is just my experience.

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Do you mean aspects between the 2 mercuries or mercury and other planets?

How would this situation be?
No aspect between both mercuries.
my mercury trine his mars and oppose his Saturn (both at 1 degree)
his mercury square my Uranus and Neptune (1 degree).
But, we both have mercury and venus in each other's 3rd houses....and composite mercury conjunct venus in the 3rd house opposite sun in 9th.

posted April 22, 2013 11:22 AM            

In your case, I think there may be some challenges, especially with Saturn and Neptune in the mix. What can happen is that one of you may feel frustrated with the other, like they can't express themselves fully to the other person. With Neptune some truths may be concealed, vague communication or misunderstandings.

But with Mercury conjunct Venus in the composite, things can be worked out, watch out for ego games though (afflicted Sun).

posted April 22, 2013 01:18 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
I meant no Mercury aspects at all.

In your case, I think there may be some challenges, especially with Saturn and Neptune in the mix. What can happen is that one of you may feel frustrated with the other, like they can't express themselves fully to the other person. With Neptune some truths may be concealed, vague communication or misunderstandings.

But with Mercury conjunct Venus in the composite, things can be worked out, watch out for ego games though (afflicted Sun).

Just try to be honest, really. I think that's the most important thing. Honest but gentle, avoid harsh or critical speech.

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posted April 22, 2013 01:32 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Hi Jessica,

Mercury trine Mars is a nice aspect to have, it can create an easy flow of ideas and communication. But it can also lead to heated conversations, although definitely not as tense as with the hard aspects.

I don't pay much attention to minor aspects such as the biquintile. But the fact that you have a Mercury/Venus conjunction (and he does too?) is a good thing by itself - you are pleasing to talk with and value harmony in communication. And if there are no afflictions to either Mercury in synastry, then why would there be conflict?

Now, if you feel like you guys can understand each other without talking, I'd look for Neptune connected to the Moon or Mercury (synastry and composite) or Water houses.

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he doesn't have a venus-merc conjunction,only I do. Both our merc and venus biquintile each other at 1 degree orbs.we have merc opp moon,merc sextile uranus,merc sq pluto,merc sextile NN,merc quintile MC,merc conjunct saturn,mercu trine neptune...blehhh lots of merc aspects!

posted April 22, 2013 07:40 PM              

My sun is gemini
His sun is gemini
My asc is cancer

posted April 23, 2013 09:46 AM            

I'm a very mercurial type with moon and venus in Gemini and mars and saturn in the 3rd so mental/verbal communication is very important to me.

posted April 23, 2013 09:11 PM              

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Originally posted by tgem:
This is all very interesting, thank you. Does anyone have mercury/ NN contacts in synastry or composite? How has that played out in the relationship...especially hard aspects?

I'm a very mercurial type with moon and venus in Gemini and mars and saturn in the 3rd so mental/verbal communication is very important to me.

Therefore I wonder what it would mean if someone's mercury squares my NN in addition to having positive mercurial aspects?

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posted April 23, 2013 10:51 PM            

I'll have to reflect on what exactly that might mean lol

posted April 24, 2013 12:17 AM            

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Gemini Sun
Libra Moon
Gemini Mercury
Cancer Venus
Virgo Mars
Virgo Asc

posted April 24, 2013 10:18 AM            

I have my mars and mercury both square my bf mars and mercury...it's really a hard one for every basic life. Our thouht /how we communicate/ interest/act are so different like we come from another planet. We're lucky that we don't have the saturn touch our mecury , then how we communicate in relationship muss be only confrontation and repression.

We have others good aspect helping ie. Sun-moon , venus-moon , venus and jupiter fall in 7th. --> all double whammy.

HTH,

posted April 24, 2013 10:33 AM            

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Originally posted by tgem:
This is all very interesting, thank you. Does anyone have mercury/ NN contacts in synastry or composite? How has that played out in the relationship...especially hard aspects?

I'm a very mercurial type with moon and venus in Gemini and mars and saturn in the 3rd so mental/verbal communication is very important to me.

Therefore I wonder what it would mean if someone's mercury squares my NN in addition to having positive mercurial aspects?

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posted August 11, 2014 01:42 PM            

In my synastry with my partner my Mercury is aspected 5 ways, whereas his is only aspected once.

We have a mix of aspects - about 50/50 positive/negative aspects but would the damned Mercury square Mars still rule?

Our aspects (me being the Mercury):

Mercury conjunct Sun (+0.50)
Mercury square Pluto (+1.41)
Mercury square Mars (-2.20)
Mercury sextile Moon (+3.21)
Mercury conjunct Mercury (+9.45)

Also,
Mercury conjunct NN (9.08)
Mercury oppose Lilith (0.36)

I have Mercury oppose Mars natally and Saturn in my 3rd house, and he has Mercury square Saturn natally, so we both deal with challenges regarding our own personal communication.