posted February 14, 2015 01:25 AM            

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Originally posted by alyssa27:
venus conjunct mars it's just one aspect and alone can't make a relationship work but for me is one of the nicests both sexy and romantic

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Yes, sexy AND romantic. I agree, it's not just about sex.

posted February 14, 2015 02:10 AM            

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Originally posted by alyssa27:
gabby venus conjunct pluto is one intense aspect ..i have the mars trine uranus too
pluto is my 5th house ruler and two degrees from my 5th house(i consider it in the 5th more) and i have venus trine pluto,mars opposition pluto and a sextile from neptune..the strange thing is that i had never have my pluto highly activated in synastry..i don't know why..with my bf we have moon/pluto exact opposition like 0'03 really tight and sextiles to his outers..my ex had just his venus on my pluto one degree..
also i have persephone conjunct asc exact i should have been more attracted to plutonian guys but no,i have met a lot of guys with many scorpio planets,i attract them but for me it just doesn't work..but with my bf we have 1 degree prosephina pluto trine and one degree persephone pluto square in composite..
uranus is my 8th house ruler,probably work better for me..8th house ruler wins 5th house ruler ..hahahah
anddd i'm out of subject

venus in 8th and mars in scorpio i think he needs intensity

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Your ex had his Venus on your Pluto?? Did you like that aspect?
I'd agree Pluto is so close to 5th, it would be considered in 5th house, that's powerful to have the ruler of a house in it's house.

Sounds like you like Pluto energy but not in he typical straight forward way.
8th house, Pluto/Persephone <~still pluto just not typical Pluto energy.

He has a stellium Scorp Sun/Mars/Merc on my NN
Plus a scorp Uranus/NN

I had to think about and post this earlier and I realized how powerfully my Pluto plays in my chart...

posted February 14, 2015 02:38 AM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
@AscTaurus
I've had really great sex with my Sun/his Moon opposed his Mars and my Mars square his Pluto.....no arguments at all. Just yummy intensity!
Maybe our situation is not the norm but I loved it...it was overwhelming at times though.

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So your Sun opposed his Moon and Mars?
And you Mars squared his Pluto?

You both may have handled the challenging aspects better than most.

They can be dangerously delicious and oh-so tempting. But they are very problematic in the hands of volatile personalities coming together. Because they surface issues -especially in the long term.

The more couples stay together with challenging aspects,the more used to them they get and other relationships just feel "tame" in comparison.

posted February 14, 2015 06:45 AM              

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Originally posted by peony:
I agree that Mars is the pursuer. When someone touches our Mars, it awakens our desire and Venus conjunct Mars certainly does that. But when Mars is the woman, she can be seen as too aggressive which can turn men off, unless they're the submissive type.

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This is my experience as well. Woman Mars in hard aspect to man's Venus leads to the woman pursuing the man and apparently men still like to chase, few men like that, unless their Mars is strongly aspected too in the synastry and/or their profile is more submissive. Woman's Mars in hard aspect to man's Venus is a very common aspect in unrequited scenarios for women, due to them pursuing the guy.

posted February 14, 2015 07:52 AM              

Venus Mars aspects are almost always there in long-term romantic couples.

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posted February 14, 2015 04:30 PM              

I actually have to think if I have seen it at all. Except for the synastry between Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith.

Well maybe it comes up in the progressed synastry. I do remember that this was true for my parents, while not having Venus-Mars-conjunction natally, they had it in progression.

time of marriage

Mum`s pVenus 9°41 Libra
Dad`s pMars 10°44 Libra (retro, so applying)
Dad`s nMars 9°19 Libra

posted February 14, 2015 04:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
Agree with everything said above. This is a purely sexual aspect. Without other combinations it will lead to conflict later.

When the Goddess of Love meets the God of War - first they make love, then they make war. Always.

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posted February 16, 2015 02:05 AM              

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Originally posted by Odette:
If this aspect is close, 4 degrees or less, and applying - so Venus has to be at an earlier degree than Mars - then it will be felt. If it's not close and separating, it will probably be overshadowed by other aspects in the synastry.

When the aspect is -significant- in the synastry, the way I've seen it play out is not very positive. It works better when the woman is Mars and the man is Venus.
But generally... things still go downhill over time. It starts off with a bang. The Mars person is very attracted and in pursuit. The Venus person is flattered. This lasts maybe a few weeks or a couple of months. As they get closer they end up arguing a lot, the Mars person comes accross as selfish and aggressive. The Venus person feels misunderstood and sometimes even harassed.
Venus eventually feels like Mars is a bully and too self-centred for them. There is only so much arguing a couple can do before they break up.

This is just how I've personally seen it play out. I'm guessing things would be better if the Mars person had a very positive, well placed Mars and if they were very mature and spiritually aware.
Even so - in the absolute best case scenario - this aspect is mostly just about sex. If you want something long-term,rather than casual, Saturn trines/sextiles, Mercury aspects, Moon/Moon aspects and Sun/Moon aspects are more important to have.

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posted February 16, 2015 02:16 AM              

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
This is my experience as well. Woman Mars in hard aspect to man's Venus leads to the woman pursuing the man and apparently men still like to chase, few men like that, unless their Mars is strongly aspected too in the synastry and/or their profile is more submissive. Woman's Mars in hard aspect to man's Venus is a very common aspect in unrequited scenarios for women, due to them pursuing the guy.

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posted February 16, 2015 03:55 AM              

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:

but I've actually toned it down here, for a few reasons: (1) maturity and experience, and (2) absence of Pluto in my synastry with this person, which tends to make me obsessed with a man. Mars makes me very attracted but only Pluto can make me unhealthily obsessed, even in soft aspect it does this to me.

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That's why Obviously becoming aware of something changes the dynamics. Don't get me wrong, any Venus/Mars is great to have, so much potential.

posted February 16, 2015 05:00 AM              

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Originally posted by Odette:
Just wanted to add - I was referring specifically to the conjunction, not other Venus/Mars aspects. The opposition is so much better in a long term relationship. The trine and sextile are also positive. The square can go either way.

Leeloo - Can you post some happy/long-term couples with Mars-Venus conjunct (close orb) where the guy is Mars? I only know of the Beckhams, but they have the double whammy. It would be interesting to see one, because I never find positive examples in real life with this aspect.

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That's because most long-term famous or not couples who have Venus/Mars, actually have it in DW. But as Ceri said, the conjunction is not as common as distant aspects (probably because of geometrical needs), but that doesn't mean it's not strong, intense, and long-lasting; if it fits your natal needs, it's totally hot, to be honest

a few examples from my database, at first glance

Josephine Napoleon
Gala Dali
Mark Harmon Pam Dawber
Naomi Watts Liev Schreiber

but I will actually study more famous couples for this aspect and make a bigger list

I have a few personal examples myself, in my database.

also, my parents (50 years together, great chemistry) have Venus conj Mars DW, one tight, the other with a wider orb.

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