posted February 22, 2015 03:50 PM              

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
I too think this deal is worse than one night stands. A mess waiting to happen.

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posted February 22, 2015 04:02 PM              

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Originally posted by page one:
Decide?

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I know what are you going to tell me

posted February 22, 2015 04:03 PM              

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Go google "I fell in love with my fwb" and other similar phrases.

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posted February 22, 2015 04:11 PM              

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
I find this exact Mars-Chiron conjunction shady.

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posted February 22, 2015 04:41 PM            

The guy doesn't want a relationship either, he has moon in 5th house and moon opposite her saturn. Too heavy for him, and she doesn't wan't him like that either.
Actually I don't see much sexual stuff in this synastry, and especially for the guy... what is it he sees in her? My best guess that he actually sees friendship between them.

posted February 22, 2015 05:12 PM              

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Originally posted by Enneline:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
[b]I find this exact Mars-Chiron conjunction shady.

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What have you found? Is it fling material?

posted February 22, 2015 05:23 PM              

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
This will never turn into a relationship. The girls venus is unaspected, she has uranus in 5th house natally and gemini mars in 11th. She's just in it for the fun, she finds the guy interesting and sexy.

The guy doesn't want a relationship either, he has moon in 5th house and moon opposite her saturn. Too heavy for him, and she doesn't wan't him like that either.
Actually I don't see much sexual stuff in this synastry, and especially for the guy... what is it he sees in her? My best guess that he actually sees friendship between them.

I do believe they can manage this FWB for a limited period, then they probably go find someone else or stay friends I hope they quit this FWB idea and just become great friends instead

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the girl's venus is not that unaspected:
Venus is sextile sun & lilith, is trine Vesta, widely trine moon, and closely conjunct his midheaven
His midheaven on her venus could lead him to idealize/admire her; apart from the that her chart ruler moon falls in his 7th house, is opposite pluto, trine neptune (his 5h ruler), square venus (his 8th house ruler), is widely trine mars (his 7th house ruler).
For sexual attraction they have pluto conj asc, moon trine mars, venus semi-square mars, venus quintile pluto, mars semi-sextile sun/asc, mars opposite uranus, juno trine mars and conj. pluto, mars trine neptune, juno opposite sun/mood mdp, and in their composite there is a venus/mars conj and that is square pluto,

But that's not a lot I must admit

posted February 22, 2015 05:25 PM              

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Originally posted by page one:
What have you found? Is it fling material?

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posted February 22, 2015 05:52 PM            

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the girl's venus is not that unaspected:
Venus is sextile sun & lilith, is trine Vesta, widely trine moon, and closely conjunct his midheaven
His midheaven on her venus could lead him to idealize/admire her; apart from the that her chart ruler moon falls in his 7th house, is opposite pluto, trine neptune (his 5h ruler), square venus (his 8th house ruler), is widely trine mars (his 7th house ruler).
For sexual attraction they have pluto conj asc, moon trine mars, venus semi-square mars, venus quintile pluto, mars semi-sextile sun/asc, mars opposite uranus, juno trine mars and conj. pluto, mars trine neptune, juno opposite sun/mood mdp, and in their composite there is a venus/mars conj and that is square pluto,

But that's not a lot I must admit

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I dont see the lines in the chart you posted? I think you use too wide orbs. I would personally only count trines when they are below 4 degrees, and sextiles below 2 degrees, especially when it's with a less "important placement" as lilith.

posted February 23, 2015 05:42 PM              

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
OK, I'm gonna say it, I find the FWB concept weird and unnatural for humans. Why do you need that? It never works anyway.

How about dating to make friends or a boyfriend? If not, just a hot night with a stranger.

Sorry for being so old-fashioned

I resent the FWB concept, it's against human biology and psychology. it's more of a marketing product.

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How were current day "FWBs' thought of previously? Just people who were dating. So why the need to denigrate them just because they also have sex? Is that an undesirable element and so people who have sex when dating are lesser in someway?

posted February 23, 2015 06:30 PM            

It wasn't long before we both started having feelings, getting jealous and had to step away from the whole thing. We made it out without either if us getting too hurt, but I would not suggest having this kind of relationship.

posted February 23, 2015 07:00 PM              

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
I dont see the lines in the chart you posted? I think you use too wide orbs. I would personally only count trines when they are below 4 degrees, and sextiles below 2 degrees, especially when it's with a less "important placement" as lilith.

But her moon being in his 7th house, that would not make her feel he is relationship matter, that would more point to him feeling that way, I would say.
I don't see their 8th house rulers doing anything major either, and both mars are making less important aspect, but his mars is trine her neptune? That is a good aspect though. But It is not a strong physical relationship in my book, so why needing the FWB label on it?

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you are right, I used too wide orbs for sextiles but I am generous for trines & conjunctions.

She squares his venus (his chart ruler + 8th house ruler) with her moon (her chart ruler) by 3 deg and her venus is conjunct closely by his mc. His mars is trined by her moon by 6 deg and receives some minor aspects.
Her venus is trined by his moon by 6 degrees as well. His Moon fall in her 8h house
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posted February 23, 2015 10:57 PM            

Sun conj juno is a bad thing??

posted February 24, 2015 04:17 AM              

"We are just buddies and part of our friendship is to take care of our bodily needs"

Yuck! on many levels

As Gabby, page one and the others say, very few people can have sex devoid of emotions and feelings for a long time and if they can, they should probably go to a psychologist. Actually sex is not meant to happen this way, our relation with our animal nature is different and changing, gradually the body is seen as the "temple" of someone's soul and mind and not a place of damnation or pure bodily functions, and probably one of the themes of the spiritual and educational evolution of 21st century people is the rejection of this idea of using someone else's body for self-gratification, like it were a puppet (and this hopefully will include the rejection of prostitution, one day, and of this FWB concept) and also rejecting the idea of seeing your own animal nature, sexuality as something dirty, unimportant, simply physiological, dismissive, devoid of feelings and emotions.

To me, practicing mutual masturbation with a "buddy" (since it wouldn't be making love) sounds much nastier than doing it with a stranger, although they're both equally avoidable. I don't see other people as bodies to use for sexual release.

There's something else very very strange about FWB: why doing it? why not dating someone you're really attracted to, someone you could fall in love with, and make love to them?

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posted February 24, 2015 04:39 AM            

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That's surprising, because there's a lot of indications of seriousness hete

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