posted May 05, 2016 11:18 PM            

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Originally posted by EmGem:
OMG you have described pretty much my 10 year relationship. It too was emotionally abusive. Manipulative, you name it. We recently got divorced and I still carry feelings of guilt for leaving him. I'm working on it but it's so hard. I feel for you, giving you a big hug of strength
He said to me "you have ruined my life" when I left him. Tried to manipulate me into coming back too.

You have done the BEST thing for your life trust me. Just remember that the universe wants what is best for you. It's one of the hardest things going through a divorce so make sure you have a good support network around you. Wishing you all the best.

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posted May 05, 2016 11:22 PM            

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Originally posted by angel4845:
[B]@GABBY

Love the negative asteroid pairings!!!! Your amazing gabby!!! I Just found my treasure

Omg gabby philomela is on my DESC...

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posted May 05, 2016 11:53 PM            

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Originally posted by DreamCatcher:
Thank you Em GEM...how are you coping? I am so depressed and feeling like I will be alone forever

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posted May 06, 2016 12:07 AM            

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Originally posted by DreamCatcher:
Thank you Em GEM...how are you coping? I am so depressed and feeling like I will be alone forever

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posted May 06, 2016 08:43 AM            

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Originally posted by EmGem:
LOTS of emotional support from friends and family - but I understand your family are being crappy at the moment
The most important thing is to accept your feelings as they come up and work through them. I started seeing a therapist and that really helped me. Getting out with friends. Just doing things that you love. I also still feel lonely at times and i think that's pretty normal. But you need to have faith that you WILL get through this and that once you start working on yourself and building your life back up again as a WHOLE person then Mr. Right will come into your life. Manifest it Keep a journal and jot down exactly how you want your life to be. The qualities of the person you want to be with, exactly. The universe will listen I promise.
I also had to take supportive herbs to help with the stress and fatigue. I received acupuncture which really helps. It will rebalance the system because its probably all out of whack. It's a massive thing to go through but you have made the right decision. Imagine how depressed you would have been if you had stayed. The longer the worse it would've been and harder to get out of. yOU have been incredibly BRAVE. Don't forget that. Most people would stay but you have chosen YOU and your happiness - although it doesn't feel like it now. You will realise soon enough.
I also took a holiday with a friend for some beach time which was nice. Anything you can do to help support yourself on an emotional, physical and spiritual level is important right now.
Sending you good vibes girl, I feel you

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EmGem- Do you still think to yourself "He had good qualities- maybe I should have tried harder"?

posted May 06, 2016 08:44 AM            

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Originally posted by EmGem:
LOTS of emotional support from friends and family - but I understand your family are being crappy at the moment
The most important thing is to accept your feelings as they come up and work through them. I started seeing a therapist and that really helped me. Getting out with friends. Just doing things that you love. I also still feel lonely at times and i think that's pretty normal. But you need to have faith that you WILL get through this and that once you start working on yourself and building your life back up again as a WHOLE person then Mr. Right will come into your life. Manifest it Keep a journal and jot down exactly how you want your life to be. The qualities of the person you want to be with, exactly. The universe will listen I promise.
I also had to take supportive herbs to help with the stress and fatigue. I received acupuncture which really helps. It will rebalance the system because its probably all out of whack. It's a massive thing to go through but you have made the right decision. Imagine how depressed you would have been if you had stayed. The longer the worse it would've been and harder to get out of. yOU have been incredibly BRAVE. Don't forget that. Most people would stay but you have chosen YOU and your happiness - although it doesn't feel like it now. You will realise soon enough.
I also took a holiday with a friend for some beach time which was nice. Anything you can do to help support yourself on an emotional, physical and spiritual level is important right now.
Sending you good vibes girl, I feel you

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EmGem- Do you still think to yourself "He had good qualities- maybe I should have tried harder"?

posted May 06, 2016 08:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
❤️❤️ HUGS to both of YOU DreamCatcher and Em Gem!!!❤️❤️

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posted May 06, 2016 01:12 PM            

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Originally posted by DreamCatcher:
@Angel- legally separated at the end of january...Hopefully divorced by the end of august

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I see I was curious so I could take a look on the transits that took place in late January and I see some interesting activations that took place in the both of your natal charts.

1. His natal 9th ruler (neptune) in the 5th house conjunct the vertex was majorly aspected by transit saturn in SAG.

2. Transit saturn was or still is im your 7th house.

3. Transit Mercury and pluto was in your natal 9th house which says a lot

4. Transit pluto and Mercury in your composite 8th house says so much as well

5.transit Mercury and pluto in his 6th house together with transit Saturn in sag conjunct his 5th house vertex and 9th ruler neptune

This all spells to me "karma" and Pluto was defently bringing a huge transformation along with Mercury which represents communications of any form written verbal etc. Entering your 9th house of documents legal worldy matters into place.! Id be very interested to see the Progressed Charts of the Both of you Along with the Composite this can defently indicate future events that will take place along with transits and that can tell us more details towards the PURPOSE in all of this.

I hope I was able to resonate with you.

posted May 06, 2016 06:44 PM            

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Originally posted by DreamCatcher:
EmGem- Do you still think to yourself "He had good qualities- maybe I should have tried harder"?

This is where I struggle....depspite his issues , we are all flawed and I feel guilty....it's such a rollercoaster.

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He did have good qualities and still think about that. We tried but the thing is that my soul KNEW that it was the best decision for me. There was something very deep inside me that knew 100% that I needed to leave. It's like my mind had no say. I'm very connected to my body and it pretty much knows before anything else does. So I was fortunate in that sense.
Having said that, you really need to know that you've tried everything so that you have no regrets. Sounds to me like that might be part of your empath talking. The feelings of guilt can really override and trick you into thinking you've made a mistake. That's why I suggest going to talk to someone who can help you untangle those thoughts and feelings and provide clarity.

posted May 07, 2016 12:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
Oh....that doesn't sound fun. Would you like to start another thread where we can discuss her...?

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Yes sure we defently can if you want? I already read her story and it resonates I defently feel I attract relationship that lead to victimization or perhaps I feel I can't trust anybody due to fear of being victimized and I do have trust issues.

posted May 07, 2016 01:33 PM            

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Originally posted by angel4845:
Yes sure we defently can if you want? I already read her story and it resonates I defently feel I attract relationship that lead to victimization or perhaps I feel I can't trust anybody due to fear of being victimized and I do have trust issues.

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posted May 07, 2016 01:35 PM            

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Originally posted by EmGem:
He did have good qualities and still think about that. We tried but the thing is that my soul KNEW that it was the best decision for me. There was something very deep inside me that knew 100% that I needed to leave. It's like my mind had no say. I'm very connected to my body and it pretty much knows before anything else does. So I was fortunate in that sense.
Having said that, you really need to know that you've tried everything so that you have no regrets. Sounds to me like that might be part of your empath talking. The feelings of guilt can really override and trick you into thinking you've made a mistake. That's why I suggest going to talk to someone who can help you untangle those thoughts and feelings and provide clarity.

Thanks Gabby

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posted May 07, 2016 02:57 PM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
Go ahead and open up a thread, you can post it to me and ill look for it! Im going to busy the rest of today but ill be back tomorrow.
Id like to ask you more questions about how you project yourself in finding relationships and who you become when your in a relationship, esp since you have her on your DC...i have some theories about the DC ill share with you maybe we can see what other asteroids are on your DC, there might be ones that can help you overcome her! 😊

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Okay for sure take your time im on LL everyday I'll go ahead and open the thread in the Asteroid Forum.

posted May 10, 2016 05:02 PM            

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Originally posted by angel4845:
I see I was curious so I could take a look on the transits that took place in late January and I see some interesting activations that took place in the both of your natal charts.

1. His natal 9th ruler (neptune) in the 5th house conjunct the vertex was majorly aspected by transit saturn in SAG.

2. Transit saturn was or still is im your 7th house.

3. Transit Mercury and pluto was in your natal 9th house which says a lot

4. Transit pluto and Mercury in your composite 8th house says so much as well

5.transit Mercury and pluto in his 6th house together with transit Saturn in sag conjunct his 5th house vertex and 9th ruler neptune

This all spells to me "karma" and Pluto was defently bringing a huge transformation along with Mercury which represents communications of any form written verbal etc. Entering your 9th house of documents legal worldy matters into place.! Id be very interested to see the [b]Progressed Charts of the Both of you Along with the Composite this can defently indicate future events that will take place along with transits and that can tell us more details towards the PURPOSE in all of this.

I hope I was able to resonate with you.

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I would LOVE to provide those charts for you, and thank you kindly....how do I do that? I"m not that good with Astro when it gets fancy, but if you would not mind guiding me, I ;d be more than happy to provide the info!